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Ill try to keep this as short as possible without leaving out any key plot element.
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Was in an MLTR with a hot, cute and sweet 31yo EE girl. Met her in daygame, first sex was public and pretty adventurous. No relationship talks. No daily calls nor texts. Saw her once per week (some weeks twice, which is not optimal, but i tried to keep the bf vibes to a minimum). Still gamed on the side.
We had good energy and lots and lots of sex. She respected me quite a bit, and always had a hunch i was non-mono. Six months in, she became convinced i was seeing another girl. I neither admitted nor denied it - i just refused to talk about this stuff. I made her come over at mine and had "The Talk", where i calmly told her i can give her emotional monogamy but not sexual monogamy. We had a bunch of sex afterwards.
Things were ok immediately thereafter. But shes the jealous type, so after a few weeks she started testing me with drama, the occasional flake, and refusing to come over to mine.
We saw each other a couple times in a nearby city after that. To pass the test, i should have led her somewhere public and fucked her there and then like i did the first time - sorta like a reminder that i can lead and take her anytime, anywhere.
However ive been soft and lazy. I persisted 3-4 times on separate occasions to have her come over to mine (cause pub sex is fun, but nothing beats the comfort of a bed), then i abruptly went no-contact after her last flake. This was a mistake - a biyc text would have been the graceful way to end things.
Anyhow, weve been radio-silent for almost 2 months now. Im treating my mild oneitis with daygame + another girl im seeing, i fully accept she might have moved on and i dont plan to pursue her.
Thing is, id still like to keep a channel open for her to potentially reach out way down the road should she so choose.
I realize she probably wont. And even if she did, wed probably have too much baggage to make any relationship sustainable.
But anyway without biyc, plus having a new whatsapp number now that she doesnt have, this is not even a possibility.
So im not sure whats the best way to go.
On one side, texting her my new number would break radio-silence and feel like chasing, so im not too thrilled about it.
On the other, feels bad to just leave things as they are, as she has no other way to reach out (no social media, no email, no common friends nor places), and if she tries my old number itll look like i blocked her.
My instinct says: let things be, accept that it ended sloppily, squeeze as much learning value from this as you can, and keep on gaming.
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Any thoughts from you gents? Perspectives? Things i can do better next time?
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Was in an MLTR with a hot, cute and sweet 31yo EE girl. Met her in daygame, first sex was public and pretty adventurous. No relationship talks. No daily calls nor texts. Saw her once per week (some weeks twice, which is not optimal, but i tried to keep the bf vibes to a minimum). Still gamed on the side.
We had good energy and lots and lots of sex. She respected me quite a bit, and always had a hunch i was non-mono. Six months in, she became convinced i was seeing another girl. I neither admitted nor denied it - i just refused to talk about this stuff. I made her come over at mine and had "The Talk", where i calmly told her i can give her emotional monogamy but not sexual monogamy. We had a bunch of sex afterwards.
Things were ok immediately thereafter. But shes the jealous type, so after a few weeks she started testing me with drama, the occasional flake, and refusing to come over to mine.
We saw each other a couple times in a nearby city after that. To pass the test, i should have led her somewhere public and fucked her there and then like i did the first time - sorta like a reminder that i can lead and take her anytime, anywhere.
However ive been soft and lazy. I persisted 3-4 times on separate occasions to have her come over to mine (cause pub sex is fun, but nothing beats the comfort of a bed), then i abruptly went no-contact after her last flake. This was a mistake - a biyc text would have been the graceful way to end things.
Anyhow, weve been radio-silent for almost 2 months now. Im treating my mild oneitis with daygame + another girl im seeing, i fully accept she might have moved on and i dont plan to pursue her.
Thing is, id still like to keep a channel open for her to potentially reach out way down the road should she so choose.
I realize she probably wont. And even if she did, wed probably have too much baggage to make any relationship sustainable.
But anyway without biyc, plus having a new whatsapp number now that she doesnt have, this is not even a possibility.
So im not sure whats the best way to go.
On one side, texting her my new number would break radio-silence and feel like chasing, so im not too thrilled about it.
On the other, feels bad to just leave things as they are, as she has no other way to reach out (no social media, no email, no common friends nor places), and if she tries my old number itll look like i blocked her.
My instinct says: let things be, accept that it ended sloppily, squeeze as much learning value from this as you can, and keep on gaming.
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Any thoughts from you gents? Perspectives? Things i can do better next time?
