My post break up journey

[HeartOfChaos]

Community quickly diagnoses the problem

What diagnosis is that, exactly?

 

[fury661]

What diagnosis is that, exactly?

My post break up journey

But I have no interest in writing field reports. The whole thing is just cringe. Writing field reports is how you get better. If you're not interested in writing them, it means you're not interested putting in the work to get better. 200 approaches and no results is not normal. You are doing...

www.skilledseducer.com

My post break up journey

But I have no interest in writing field reports. The whole thing is just cringe. Writing field reports is how you get better. If you're not interested in writing them, it means you're not interested putting in the work to get better. 200 approaches and no results is not normal. You are doing...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[HeartOfChaos]

My post break up journey

But I have no interest in writing field reports. The whole thing is just cringe. Writing field reports is how you get better. If you're not interested in writing them, it means you're not interested putting in the work to get better. 200 approaches and no results is not normal. You are doing...

www.skilledseducer.com

My post break up journey

But I have no interest in writing field reports. The whole thing is just cringe. Writing field reports is how you get better. If you're not interested in writing them, it means you're not interested putting in the work to get better. 200 approaches and no results is not normal. You are doing...

www.skilledseducer.com

Thats not a diagnosis. There isn't a need for diagnosis, anyway.

And I read and heard most of it before, when I wrote a few field reports from 2010-2015 era and picked up some gems of info from posters who are gone sadly.... It's location problem first and foremost. Guys are forgetting that the location is paramount for success, anyway. I stated this repeatedly.

 

[fury661]

Thats not a diagnosis. There isn't a need for diagnosis, anyway.

And I read and heard most of it before, when I wrote a few field reports from 2010-2015 era and picked up some gems of info from posters who are gone sadly.... It's location problem first and foremost. Guys are forgetting that the location is paramount for success, anyway. I stated this repeatedly.

It's impossible to help someone who refuses to listen

 

[HeartOfChaos]

It's impossible to help someone who refuses to listen

I am not asking for help, not with daygame anyway.

 

[HeartOfChaos]

You are fine. Just human. And that's a great thing to be. Dont forget that.
You know stuff, but you also know how you feel.

Look I have left a few chicks I could have slept with the past days. Made no move to escalate either, because you know what? You know it too. If someone is worth your time and energy, you just feel it. You are still recovering and healing. That's normal and okay

Dont judge yourself over it.
Just know the phase will pass. Life is not a static. Life is a dynamic and a flow. What is meant to be will come at our path if we allow it. Just focus on what is of.importance to you right now, which may be something as simple as having a glass of water and some good feel good.movie or a good workout, a great night's rest or whatever is needed to make you feel good

Oh, it's ok.

I actually went on a date with the American yesterday. Turns out she had a cold before. I also caught a cold recently and still feel shitty, but went on a date with her anyway.

It was ok. Went to a bar. I could see she was ready to make out within minutes, but for some reason I kept delaying it, and only went for it like an hour later. Somehow I sense internally that my current cold, my other chronic health conditions that make me feel inadequate and make me often doubt my physical appearance, and my recent break up have lowered my self esteem and confidence in making fast and bold moves.

Then we went for a walk, another makeout, and I suggest we go back to her place; she says "that's the thing I can't tonight, I need to join online for a virtual online birthday party with my friend back in USA, its their 30th birthday and quiet special blah blah".

I don't force the issue, we walk some more and then I call it a night. Altogether around 3 hours spent on the date. Before partying our ways, I suggest we meet again in 2 days time.

So today I text her "Hey, so tomorrow night still good?" To which I get a bullshit reply "Hey, I had a good time, you are very sweet and handsome person but I didn't feel a romantic connection blah blah".

Yeah, I knew it. Didn't pull the trigger or went for it hard last night and missed the boat. But she was right though, the romantic connection was lacking in a sense.

And this episode reminded me yet again how much I miss being with my ex, how good chemistry we had ,and how for a year I had a break from all this shitty nuisance and huge time waste of having to constantly approach and try to seek out new women to fuck.

I don't understand how anyone can find this act of approaching, scheduling dates, going out on dates even remotely interesting or entertaining. I hated all this charade ever since fucking my first 10 women or so, back in 2012 ish.

What I like is spending quality intimate time with a woman I already fucked and have a great emotional chemistry with. I hate meeting or talking to new women, chatting them up, scheduling dates, wasting time on dates, scheming how to get into her pants fast, worrying when to pull the trigger or not...All this absolute horseshit.

And worst of all, for last 8 years I had no place to fuck, and an hour to travel to any other place that is half conductive to meeting women or setting up dates. So even logistics are so fucked and add a huge layer of difficulty.

 

[theReason]

Stop trying so hard in every area of your life and look for some cheats and shortcuts.

Some people were taught to suffer and I think you are one of them.

But keep approaching.

Also, speech therapy for your accent, and “paperwhite monitors” or “e-ink” monitors for your pwm sensitivity.

Quick escalation, hungry escalation, is also a cheat code to life, so it’s no surprise you have not applied it.