DK, FLUX,
@DarkKnight dude! I agree with @ZacAdam dude that you can have a misplaced ego at times, I really like his insights and angle on this and very interested with his follow up to this.
Sorry i am late to the party here.
A lot of the guys gives their input.
Let me try to collectively combine everything and give a macro view to this whole thing so it doesn't get lost in transition.
This will be very long. Hope this will be insightful and enjoyable for everyone to read.
And i explain at the bottom of this page, what i did that you guys didn't notice.
That will be a good complement to this thread/topic.
I'm guilty of auto rejecting girls that are interested when they've annoyed me, sometimes it's called for.
This happens a lot often and we never think about it as guys, consciously.
This is especially when you have a bad day. But are the girls really interested in you?
I have many school of thoughts on this.
- You are
judging based on reactions (process level)
- God/
Awareness is trying to pull you out of your state. This is very real, especially after you discover that "empty" space. (fundamental level)
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You are losing, either from a bad day or the girl who reject you during cold approaches. Thus your next state must be a 'winning' one.
Thus this is why you, Flux, you reject women.
Because it's a yin yang thing. After our fragile body, is hope.
Fragile Limited Human = Lose. Hope = Winning.
Sidenote: Why i recommend everyone to see it as a learning journey. Small wins from your 'losses' (rejection from girls)
When they chase and jump through hoops I'll usually give another chance unless they've really pissed me off! Haha
Added, to the
winning term that i have just mentioned above. We are protecting ourselves from hurt.
Also, It's arbitrage. Why we like damsel in distress or young pussy.
It's arbitrage (principle in business and life)
If they chase hard they really want you, I can be difficult about it, I have an issue where if you're to forgiving you set the tone you accept that shit but it's not always relevant.
My Personal experiences and I have an old Chase notes to reaffirm this.
Set some boundaries, or obstacles, make her invest even if it's a small thing.
Like she talking to you and you don't pay eye contact to her for the first 1 minute,
It's small but it works. It's making sure that she perceives you.
Warning: Older men like to do this stupid shit with everyone. Don't do it if there's nothing. It's unnecessary. But it is a good experiment for qualifying strong girls.
and it's not relevant. like what Flux noted.
Sidenote: Have some physically unblessed girls as friends. Some of them will happened to see you talk to more decent beautiful girls and while there are terrible attitude girls, there will be a time where girls who know you are a good human being. They haven't seen you in awhile and they will seek your approval to talk to them by looking at you and because they are physically unblessed, this will be profound to you. And yes, they are friends. They don't think of you as lovers.
This is what happened to me. The experience is quite something else.
Suddenly this big (I'm talking really big) meathead prick interjected our set tried to amog me, use me as a bridge because he can't open, but I barely acknowledged him... but she did.. And suddenly she was giving him more attention than he deserved. I stayed aloof and relaxed, but I started to become irked by her.
Now, here is the source of the whole problem. LEt's talk about this.
Guys often do for 2 reasons.
- He who was like me who try to make friends and camaraderie. (Yes i did this unconsciously all the time)
- He sees weakness in your game
The act is similar but they are two completely different games. I hope everyone understands this.
Now, you did the right thing.
You didn't acknowledged him.
You didn't give him too much attention.
But here is where the gold is. Does she liked you? or Does she just being friendly to everyone?
Now, this is super difficult.
I don't care who you are. Maybe this is why Chase is the GOAT of Dating/Pickup/etc, for me.
Most women are both. She likes you. She also likes to be friendly to this guy. The big question is how much does she likes you to be enough to let her focus her attention to only you?
This leads back to Klimax question on the Girlschase chat, on how do we do cement that feeling quickly before the next date.
My answer:
Using backward rationalization. Why?
You can't always cement quick enough. Because you also don't know what is her type (context, pre belief). Chase recommends this always.
Compliance.
Compliance.
Motherfucking Compliance.
Chase is GOAT.
The meathead got insecure started touching me and tooling me.. for you see he needed the validation that I am beaten.
Depends. You hate to hear this from me, given how i already responded this very late.
But it might be him comforting you, at least according to him.
At that point I snapped, grabbed him at the shoulder pinched hard and told him with a hoarse voice that I would become very unpleasant if he didn't stop his antics. He totally became intimidated (for good reason I was really raw.. ). Anyway he basically ran away while trying to save some of his dignity. The girl meantime was clinging to me again... but I was ice-icecold. Left her hanging with a smirk and vibed with others.
You have find out that he was Zac.
The old Zac that likes to be friendly with everyone. You will see this phenomenon with many Indian, Bangladash, poor countries, countries with terrible social economics.
In Asia, this is a lot more if i am right. I am sure it is.
The problem is you will never whether it is an AMOG or guys being friendly. But the response is the same. Don't break circle. Compliance. Compliance. Compliance.
And if you want to try, Try Owen Cook method of carrying the girl on the spot and runaway from the guy, girl. He did that outside a nightclub. Quite funny. I saw it on an old video.
It's basically breaking state, when you do outlandish things. Because everyone in the game of life, knows the game has reach surface. Like the world today. Thus riots in the United States, social unrest across the world.
Sidnote:
Advertising reality, Reality (what is sold) and Real Reality is converging together. It's very ugly, unpleasant.
Aftermath: She tried to stay in my vicinity multiple times and even in my pathways hoping for a chance. She was obviously upset and close to tears.. but I became uncompromising..
You should have ask for her number after he left. You already won, Darkknight.
Anyway, i have had girl friends whom let me sit in the back of the car. And this 2 girls, who are my friends. They let me enter the car first. But that's one thing. They both sit at both corners of the car.
And that's just one story.
When you are strong mentally, and strong physically, or if you are an American, Asian girls will let you sit while they stand. It doesn't always necessarily mean that they like you. It's the frame.
You can ease this but sometimes girls just won't budge. It is more about her than you. She also might see you as a potential to hurt her.
High level psychopaths know this phenomenon inside out. I called it 'The Natural Submission'.
This Natural Submission has been abused throughout history.
In theory, i know how to abuse this. Especially If i am CEO, Boss (manager, supervisor, etc)
Thus why women are still protesting on feminism, has some truth in it. Which is this.
As a guy, you are technically an overpowered motherfucker, really. (though you are just a human but according to everyone, it's real)
This is PArt 1 of my Response Hope this helps. Thanos will Return.
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