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My unusual take on Mystery method, still highly respect the dude

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I'm not saying that Mystery's method is not true or real, but his type of girls are usually the ones who lean more towards the conservative side, if his not fucking them on the 1st date. Cuz if you think about it, the girls that you were able to get out on dates are usually the ones that have longer attention spans, whereas his proposal of the date model is inviting her out on the second, third and so on dates. He is inviting them out for a group hangout or being in an environment where everyone is commingling.
What pissed me off about Mystery is that the dude is a very unique person, he assume everyone else could use his style or something. His style and his ability to gain compliance and court attention is very different from your normal PUA. He is one of those guys that has a set of cards, metaphorically and literally, because he's a magician, at the same time he has to name off a few things, like his height is 200cm+, and he wears these weird ass things that grabs attention, which could blow out potentially as well. He doesn't like to joke much. He is firm and candid with his demeanor. He's not one of those banter-type of guys. I know his wingman Beckster is and Matador was, but he himself not so much. And he is one of those dudes, one of the few that I've seen with a charismatic personality, and tries to find a way to get slotted in the provider frame. With your high value status is what he focuses on, he probably gets blown out because you tried to provide too much value. Commingling with people too much, being romantic and shit. He wants to find a wife, “his girl”, that’s his mission. He's not denying that, but to implement his game, I’m pretty sure, you lose out on a lot of pussy. His game I believe it's tailored for very specific girls who are provider seeking and at the same time they're very high quality too.

“No girl of expectational beauty is ever alone.”
-Mystery

He also mentions that he's not into “one night stands” or pulling, calls that failing... WTF lol
He tailored his game towards that, but he also missed the fact that it kills your momentum to do this. I think I read somewhere Mystery being out in 6 years, he got like 40 something lays, which by standard is not horrible or bad, he's obviously going for a certain demographic. Maybe he's working something that we don't understand, but based on his escalation windows, playing the long hours, the hourly, like if you don't pull for some girls I say a lot of girls especially from a cold approach you lose the girls windows and you get slotted into the provider frame, with his type of value, I mean, Western countries. In Eastern countries, there's more to deal with and his opens it up by having more of a social frame with them, gaining social value with them, still, I don't think he plays the lover characteristics too well, providing too much value.
And if there's one person that Mystery is similar to I don't know if it's age or I don't know if it's just preferences of style he's similar to is Zan Perrion, who’s much focused on his girl, these days as well, but back in the days he would fuck a lot but he slowed down. He just enjoys flirting with girls, did their angle but he goes on about some romantic fantasy about like oh, girls, girls, they’re a gift of life. I mean, I know they are, but fucking you got to fuck them first. I'm laughing now, while I'm writing.
Because even as a beginner, obviously we know that's not Mystery style. Mystery style is not beginner friendly at all neither is it for intermediate guys. It's like very specific type of guy like high-end venue high-end working types and then you get the high-end type of girls. It's like everything super niche but to get to get that you need momentum, you need the social awareness, you need to have the connections and etc. Mystery could go in a city and then just because he's fucking Mystery, he gets all these easy networking opportunities, whereas a normal AFC wouldn't have that opportunity so you need to start from Ground Zero.
You take any super top dude, out there, I guarantee you without the language without the awareness of the cities and he doesn't know anyone, that's a key point, he's not going to do that well immediately and in cities that he just rocks up to assuming a bunch of shit he'll have a easier time building it from ground up zero to 10, during that process he learns a lot but it's like these things erik don’t talk about. Mystery's approach, I could say I'm in my home turf when I originally start a game and I could blow out a bunch of good looking dudes or guys that have supposedly higher value than me and other cities, cuz I am locally connected. I know all the places to go. I have good logistics. I have a wingman with me that we've been gaming out like for a year or two so we know everyone and we can pull more consistently than supposed a random frustrated chump that just came to our city assuming you could get into some good clubs and know every corner, skip lines to venues in the city. not going to work and the reason I'm bit frustrated is because Mystery says a lot of things and in a dogmatic way and just because he's Mystery people take it as gospel and it doesn't fucking work that way because your situation is different cuz if you're at a cold approach in day game, you don't have that long of a window compared to if you were to do long session night game and then you pull after party and then you pull for dinner that's that's an environment where there's like a social cohesion value. Normal dudes, including myself we don't have that, doing cold approach day game or night game (in new cities), especially we need to run everything faster escalation and hit windows you need to not miss you need to lead you need to change of venue you need to see if you got wings that could provide you value momentarily and then pull and then you close not whereas Mystery quote unquote closes on third, fourth date WTF bro

Mystery he's on the top echelon of game, he talks in a certain way that's dogmatic. A lot of people just not going to be able to pick up on it there's techniques like the the body rocking, BACK TURN, techniques for night game to merge sets providing value how to express emotion these kind of more practical things you're able to do but compared to like his way of courting the girls and how to extracting the value from the generating a hub that's not that that's not easy game that you need time you need a lot of effort you need to know the right people know the right place to go to do that normal people won't be able to do it not saying I'm not able to but you need a lot of time and I thought like one thing I really really disagree with is his escalation escalation time and he says anywhere from 6 to 8 hours. If they’re not ready to fuck at 2-4 hour mark you chance goes down drastically. Girl 1 hour or two or three at most, some shit based off my experience either bangs or not. anyways social frame maybe different how he approaches that and I'm sure he gets a girls that are within that specific niche that he likes, but it applies to a small minority of guys that is able to actually play that game that's why a lot of guys who are marketing in the social circle high value on inviting mystery out to parties and group he's very popular with those I don't want names but if you want another full-time job I'm sure you could do that too but anyways thought I'd just share recently my thoughts.
Cool guy, but he sperg out too much even during his interviews about nonsense or about his upbringing to PUA, except for that time when he debated the wizard, Ross Jefferies. Lucky Mystery met Ross over video, or else he’ll probably do a back turn on him
 

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I think I read somewhere Mystery being out in 6 years, he got like 40 something lays
Where did you read that? I've heard stories of him pulling multiple times in a single night, and he was going out every night. Surely it can't be true or those numbers don't add up.
 

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we had a long discussion on mm..... debunking/breaking down/analyzing/weighting the pros and cons...:

 

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I read somewhere Mystery being out in 6 years, he got like 40 something lays

In 1998, 27-year-old Mystery posted on USENET's alt.seduction.fast newsgroup:

I go out 3 or 4 times a week ... for 4 hour sessions (10pm to 2am usually) ... approach about 3 girls an hour... get on average 4 phone #s a night, ...
6 to 8 get togethers with women in a week … with 3 girls who want to fuck me per week and I … then can fuck one new girl a week …
Over the course of the last 6 years, I've fucked 56 girls (not all FUCKED, but sexual cum shoots so I call them fucking)


Mystery's Actual Results

It does not add up because got less than one new girl per month instead of "one new girl a week". But you need some delusional overconfidence to keep going out so much for so long. Tell me if you want more info.
 

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In 1998, 27-year-old Mystery posted on USENET's alt.seduction.fast newsgroup:

I go out 3 or 4 times a week ... for 4 hour sessions (10pm to 2am usually) ... approach about 3 girls an hour... get on average 4 phone #s a night, ...
6 to 8 get togethers with women in a week … with 3 girls who want to fuck me per week and I … then can fuck one new girl a week …
Over the course of the last 6 years, I've fucked 56 girls (not all FUCKED, but sexual cum shoots so I call them fucking)


Mystery's Actual Results

It does not add up because got less than one new girl per month instead of "one new girl a week". But you need some delusional overconfidence to keep going out so much for so long. Tell me if you want more info.
Yes does results an average of 1 to. 3 lays a week were kind of normal for the era... For me it adds up... Today you can only achieve that probably online...
 
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In 1998, 27-year-old Mystery posted on USENET's alt.seduction.fast newsgroup:

I go out 3 or 4 times a week ... for 4 hour sessions (10pm to 2am usually) ... approach about 3 girls an hour... get on average 4 phone #s a night, ...
6 to 8 get togethers with women in a week … with 3 girls who want to fuck me per week and I … then can fuck one new girl a week …
Over the course of the last 6 years, I've fucked 56 girls (not all FUCKED, but sexual cum shoots so I call them fucking)


Mystery's Actual Results

It does not add up because got less than one new girl per month instead of "one new girl a week". But you need some delusional overconfidence to keep going out so much for so long. Tell me if you want more info.
Damn, thanks for the reference, cool to see it, I wasn't too far off :p

I'm not really concerned about the numbers, as his gaming a differently. which I'd probably opt to do when I find a good setup. Just nuances are different from my perspective.

When his starting out no one is that good. I got way more because I had the best coach, he start during the late 90s and bunch of variables adding up to it. not here to number jock either. My issue with mystery isn't his number but some of his dogmatic approach.

Anyways thanks for the light on this.
 

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Tell me if you want more info
what else you got? Let's see it

i know a guy who ran with mystery in 2002-2003. he says that mystery was "far and away the best" and "amazing" but would often self-sabotage or distract himself from the goal of getting laid - his narcissistic, showy nature would lead him to overgame or get stuck in the entertainer role.



I'm not the only one that picked up the dude has "narcissism" from his videos
 
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his type of girls are usually the ones who lean more towards the conservative side, if his not fucking them on the 1st date.

I don't think so. From I have heard, and what is also supported by what kind of woman was Katya from "The Game", his main target were actually non-conservative, low class party girls.

I think his idea that seduction should take 7 hours (which generally means "not on first date") is simply his own, self-imposed view point, not something imposed by the type of women he seduces.

It does not add up because got less than one new girl per month instead of "one new girl a week". But you need some delusional overconfidence to keep going out so much for so long. Tell me if you want more info.

Indeed it doesn't add up. One girl per week for 6 years would be 288, not 56. It's a big difference and I think Mystery is stretching the truth.

BTW It's ok if somebody likes to have "slow food", have relationships, etc. Lots of good seducers, I think the majority, simply do not prioritize the number of women itself. What I don't like however is stretching the truth.


what else you got? Let's see it

i know a guy who ran with mystery in 2002-2003. he says that mystery was "far and away the best" and "amazing" but would often self-sabotage or distract himself from the goal of getting laid - his narcissistic, showy nature would lead him to overgame or get stuck in the entertainer role.

https://rooshvforum.network/thread-22635.html

I have a friend who met Mystery, seen him in action and he said very similar things.

He said Mystery is great at opening, especially large sets, especially mixed sets with men, but is way worse at actually getting laid. He said exactly the same thing about Mystery getting stuck in the enterainer role - and women laughing with him, letting him entertain them, but not going to bed with him. He said the women treated him as a nice, interesting, entertaining, but not necessarily sexually attractive guy. And that it was a bit of a "friend zone" problem.

My friend's opinion is that Mystery does have skills, but also that he's very overrated and nowhere near the "seduction god" some people think he is. My friend said he knows several guys better at actually getting laid (me included).

He also said it's not true that Mystery is great with the hottest women. And that's consistent with how Katya, presented in "The Game" as supposedly "9.5", really looks like a common 6-7. People literally laugh at the idea that Katya was some kind of super hot "9.5". Again, looks like dishonesty on Mystery's and Style's part.

BTW I find it crazy how many people from the PUA community seem oblivious to this obvious red flag.

I've noticed few things about it:

1. People first adopt a faith in a "guru", become emotionally attached and then they find it hard to accept guru's faults.

2. Going out together, even taking workshops creates bonding and people feel bad criticising people they've formed frienship or semi-friendship with.

3. Many people are easily impressed with aproaching itself and "flashy", unusual behavior. I've seen PUAs in deep awe just because somebody was fearlessly aproaching hot women - even if ultimatively he didn't get anywhere with any of them.

BTW In my country we have a certain seduction coach who trained under Mystery, Lovedrop and some other MM guys (he has photos with them on his website). And the guy still sucks. Now he's offering "tourism in Thailand" workshops which include advice on how to safely make use of services of Thai prostitutes. 🤦🏻‍♂️ Not a great advertisement for Mystery's and others workshops in my eyes. 😂 (If anyone is doubting my words or just curious, he can private message me for links to this coach's websites)
 

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what else you got? Let's see it

i know a guy who ran with mystery in 2002-2003. he says that mystery was "far and away the best" and "amazing" but would often self-sabotage or distract himself from the goal of getting laid - his narcissistic, showy nature would lead him to overgame or get stuck in the entertainer role.

Magicians develop canned "routines" to entertain and fool people. This is how Mystery approached pick-up. He dressed weird to fit in with ravers, gravers, emo, and other L.A. nightclub cultures.

He often performed for his wingman Neil Strauss to attract attention of onlooking women. Most people do not sleep with total strangers from nightclubs. They visit the club with friends and meet friends-of-friends or go to after-parties. Mystery performed magic to infiltrate these cliques. By performing for men, he got social approval to approach the single women in their group.

Some pick-up artists sadly think you must manipulate or trick girls into liking you. This mindset is bad for inner game and self-esteem. It is also ineffective because people sense inauthenticity and insecurity. Even the self-improvement mindset can be unhealthy if you think you are inadequate and are only improving yourself to impress others. It is better to be internally motivated, believe you are awesome, and be confident that tomorrow you will make yourself even more awesome.

The "game" and "red pill" metaphors explain counterintuitive aspects to romance. Women recoil from thirsty, needy, clingy losers. So you sometimes need to play hard-to-get. You are not fooling anybody. You are just sending the message that you are not desperate and that you only want someone who is genuinely interested.

These ideas are widely misunderstood. Women subconsciously test men to gauge their mettle and integrity. Mystery called this a "fitness test" or "compliance test", but it was unfortunately relabeled as a "shit test". If a women asked a man to declare that she was beautiful, Mystery would reply "You have beautiful eyes, especially the left one!" He did not supplicate and flatter, nor overreact and get angry. He just displayed a relaxed and good-natured sense of humor. He subcommunicated that he does not need to impress them and was comfortable with ambiguity because he has other opportunities. This type of "neg" is not an insult, it is just a measured response.
 

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Magicians develop canned "routines" to entertain and fool people. This is how Mystery approached pick-up. He dressed weird to fit in with ravers, gravers, emo, and other L.A. nightclub cultures.

He often performed for his wingman Neil Strauss to attract attention of onlooking women. Most people do not sleep with total strangers from nightclubs. They visit the club with friends and meet friends-of-friends or go to after-parties. Mystery performed magic to infiltrate these cliques. By performing for men, he got social approval to approach the single women in their group.

Some pick-up artists sadly think you must manipulate or trick girls into liking you. This mindset is bad for inner game and self-esteem. It is also ineffective because people sense inauthenticity and insecurity. Even the self-improvement mindset can be unhealthy if you think you are inadequate and are only improving yourself to impress others. It is better to be internally motivated, believe you are awesome, and be confident that tomorrow you will make yourself even more awesome.

The "game" and "red pill" metaphors explain counterintuitive aspects to romance. Women recoil from thirsty, needy, clingy losers. So you sometimes need to play hard-to-get. You are not fooling anybody. You are just sending the message that you are not desperate and that you only want someone who is genuinely interested.

These ideas are widely misunderstood. Women subconsciously test men to gauge their mettle and integrity. Mystery called this a "fitness test" or "compliance test", but it was unfortunately relabeled as a "shit test". If a women asked a man to declare that she was beautiful, Mystery would reply "You have beautiful eyes, especially the left one!" He did not supplicate and flatter, nor overreact and get angry. He just displayed a relaxed and good-natured sense of humor. He subcommunicated that he does not need to impress them and was comfortable with ambiguity because he has other opportunities. This type of "neg" is not an insult, it is just a measured response.
NM was developed in gen x a lot of things were a bit different.... there were a lot of what was Gothic and alternative movement that was popular and big and had some of the hottest girls... The routines are proven training wheels... Everyone has routines even naturals that are field tested and proven... Neg is playful teasing and busting balls when done right and calibrated super effective, people confuse that with insults was never intended to be that... shit test happens at beginning stages of relationships, new gen doesn't really shit test... And some women that do is just flirting now a days... During relationships women shit test to see how much they can push, and eventually drop it and try again couple of month...

Manipulation, influence, making people do what you want... Semantics...

Mm is outdated but just a basic method of break down social dynamics..

Right now would be ok to understand a bit mm cause most of you will be dealing with groups at clubs... but is outdated...


Most guys that were using mm for fast lays were the captain Jack people and his crew....
 

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I have probably seen Mystery and Beckster in field more recently than anybody else on this forum.

Their game is solid. Mystery can still approach and gain strong attraction and close very attractive girls under 18-23.

I am currently a moderator on their forum and helping them behind the scenes, and am hoping to work up to becoming an assistant instructor.

So, I am in consistent communication with them.

But yes, he has game, I can’t say whether his game is better or worse than it was when he was younger.

He does have a one size fits all approach to advice, that’s one downside. Like recommending everyone paint their nails black and wearing new rock boots.

But his advice is also very useful. I had a sticking point and told Mystery about it and his one piece of advice broke through that sticking point instantly and permanently.
 

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I know he is doing international events now. In recent years, didn't he spend time in Eastern Europe?
He has been doing bootcamps in Europe for 5-7 years, and just started doing them in the USA in the past 1-2 years.
 

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Just to clarify, I am not advertising for them and do not receive any compensation from them. They recognized I had decent skill and allowed me to moderate and give advice. Becoming an assistant instructor is not for monetary reasons but to improve my game. Spending more in-field time with them.
 
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