Online & Apps Need Some Advice

Sub-Zero

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I have a few questions about having success on dating apps.

1. I used different apps before, and have gotten many matches with attractive women. Some apps had way more than others.

I took a break from apps and since I’ve signed back on, I barely getting any matches, and it’s mind boggling.

I used the same pics and everything from when I was getting many matches.

I’ve even asked girls what they thought of my pics and they all told me they liked them and that’s why we matched.

Anyway, this has been going on for some time, so I decided to keep deleting the apps after a week, and even used different information while signing up.

My question is: WTF is going on and what can I do to get the matches I once had?




2. A huge majority of my matches are Black Women, I’m fine with that, but not being able to get all different races of women bothers me.

I can get a few, but you can tell they like Black Men specifically.

So I want to be able to match with all women.

I have no idea where to start though? Should I dress more professional or what?

I summed it up that they aren’t looking for Black Men, which is whatever, but I still would like to see if I can succeed.




3. What would be the best age range for a man to get the most matches?

I’m thinking it would probably be mid-20s, but I’d like to know if that’s true.




4. Should I lie about my age? So I’m at the point now where girls my age to even younger want to claim they want a man to settle down with.

It’s getting redundant, so I figure why not go for younger women? Then I think, what if younger women can’t find me because of their search preferences? Maybe I need to be younger.

I wonder if I do lie, will previous girls that I have matched before see this.


That’s it.

All advice appreciated.
 
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Wanderer.o'7

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My question is: WTF is going on and what can I do to get the matches I once had?
Well, stop deleting your account :p no really, it could be that you're not as active as you were at first (Kinda like getting tired of a new toy, I know this is usually the case for me anyway). From what I noticed, the more active you are (either logging in or messaging/ matching. Depends on the app) the more your profile is going to be shown.

2. A huge majority of my matches are Black Women, I’m fine with that, but not being able to get all different races of women bothers me.

I can get a few, but you can tell they like Black Men specifically.

So I want to be able to match with all women.

I have no idea where to start though? Should I dress more professional or what?

I summed it up that they aren’t looking for Black Men, which is whatever, but I still would like to see if I can succeed.
Yeah, not sure what's going on there. Wish I could tell ya that one :p

3. What would be the best age range for a man to get the most matches?

I’m thinking it would probably be mid-20s, but I’d like to know if that’s true.
From what I've found as a 20 year old guy, yeah, most are usually in their mid 20's. Most above that are looking for something serious or are just getting out of a relationship. If you want to get the most matches, just set the range as far as you're willing to go. Don't overthink it.
4. Should I lie about my age? So I’m at the point now where girls my age to even younger want to claim they want a man to settle down with.

It’s getting redundant, so I figure why not go for younger women? Then I think, what if younger women can’t find me because of their search preferences? Maybe I need to be younger.

I wonder if I do lie, will previous girls that I have matched before see this.
Guessing you're not in your 20s :p No worries, women tend to dig older guys too. We have like the opposite problem of women when it comes to age, the older we get the more attractive we get (I forget which article I read that in). There's really no reason to lie about your age (she's gonna find out eventually anyway) but you're saying you want to change it to avoid a filter? I wouldn't recommend it, changing an age filter is easy enough for most women to figure out :p and if they're looking for an older guy they'll do it (which would probably be more often than not ;) )

Also yes, anyone you're currently matched with and am able to message will usually be able to see your profile change.

Hope I was able to help somewhat, just don't depend on online game too much. Go out and run game irl when you can. Just be careful out there now days (that goes for all ages) ;)
 

Sub-Zero

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Well, stop deleting your account :p no really, it could be that you're not as active as you were at first (Kinda like getting tired of a new toy, I know this is usually the case for me anyway). From what I noticed, the more active you are (either logging in or messaging/ matching. Depends on the app) the more your profile is going to be shown.



Yeah, not sure what's going on there. Wish I could tell ya that one :p



From what I've found as a 20 year old guy, yeah, most are usually in their mid 20's. Most above that are looking for something serious or are just getting out of a relationship. If you want to get the most matches, just set the range as far as you're willing to go. Don't overthink it.


Guessing you're not in your 20s :p No worries, women tend to dig older guys too. We have like the opposite problem of women when it comes to age, the older we get the more attractive we get (I forget which article I read that in). There's really no reason to lie about your age (she's gonna find out eventually anyway) but you're saying you want to change it to avoid a filter? I wouldn't recommend it, changing an age filter is easy enough for most women to figure out :p and if they're looking for an older guy they'll do it (which would probably be more often than not ;) )

Also yes, anyone you're currently matched with and am able to message will usually be able to see your profile change.

Hope I was able to help somewhat, just don't depend on online game too much. Go out and run game irl when you can. Just be careful out there now days (that goes for all ages) ;)
Appreciate the detailed response. Thank you bro.
 

Rain

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1. I used different apps before, and have gotten many matches with attractive women. Some apps had way more than others.

I took a break from apps and since I’ve signed back on, I barely getting any matches, and it’s mind boggling.
Which apps were you using before and which apps are you using now?
What year were you last getting lots of matches?
What age was your profile set to when you had lots of matches?
 
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