NewBeeWinner: From Rock Bottom to The Stars

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 11/27:

Wow, it's hard to believe a whole month has gone by!

Updates from my last post on girls:

I heard from sexy photos girl (she contacted me) - she's getting tested for covid, but idk what her results were.

Been meaning to meet up with one of the date girls, but that hasn't worked out yet (for either of us). I think I was planning on doing it this weekend, so we'll see.

Never heard back from IG girl.

Got my LR from the other date girl. She's turned into a regular F-buddy that I meet about 1-2 times a week, so that's a big win. I'm going to meet with her this weekend and deliver some food because I'm pretty sure she spent Thanksgiving pretty much by herself (dw - I did meet and do things with her the day before Thanksgiving as a kind of "our thanksgiving", so I'm not completely heartless.)

Outside of this, I matched with a few girls on online dating, but that hasn't turned into any dates or anything like that. Haven't really been able to go out and meet women either (I work from 7 am - 4 pm and by the time I get home, it's pitch dark out). Plus, we've been busy with the holidays!

Other updates

My new job is going great! I got my first paycheck today - and I am finally starting to take control of my finances. My coworkers are great and I actually find what I do to be very interesting - my work is paying big bucks to train me and certify me, so I'm really glad. The benefits are also fantastic! After doing the math, I will be in the best position to move out once I get my student loans paid off and another big monthly payment I currently pay paid off - aka in a few months. In other words, I'll be moving out debt free in a few months.

My business also reached a good stopping point for now - I'm waiting until January to become an LLC (which everything is ready for me to do that) for tax purposes. I also paid for further training to expand my earning potential today - that will take 2-3 months of training to cover and will let me earn much more money, so I'm very excited about that.

I've also determined some of my fears and I have been working through those.

On the GC side of things, I re-enrolled in The Dating Artisan, so I'm going to be working through that as well this upcoming year. I'm also going to purchase Chase's new courses once they come out - Hector's Day Game course, the Charisma course, and the Bachelor's lifestyle course. So I'm very excited about those.

Seriously though, GC has changed my life and I am forever grateful to Chase and the team because it has opened up a whole new world to me I never knew existed before.

Even though this has been a rough year for everyone, I'm hopeful good things can still happen.

Here's to continuing success!!

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 12/6:

Hey guys. So things with the F-buddy are going well - we've been meeting once (sometimes twice) a week and all that jazz. No sleeping over, but we do cuddle after sex.

I had met the Pacfic Islander girl most recently and am kind of kicking myself that I didnt have condoms on me (granted, I met her right after work so I had my work clothes on... this goes to show I need to always have at least one condom on my person at any time). I texted her the day after to meet for a hike, like I seeded and she said "Hey. Sorry for the short notice, but something did come up. I'm going to have to rain check"

In response, I said "ah ok, no worries. Its a bummer - we'd have had fun! maybe another time" and plan on giving her a day or two (this was on saturday).

I'm kinda upset at that because I want to add another girl to my rotation as a F-buddy and this girl would be nice, but we'll see what happens.

Either way, I plan on going on a walk again after work to hopefully meet another new girl and going at it again fresh. Maybe I'll just make it a habit to wear my leather jacket into work (because I can easily hide condoms in it without having to worry about them degrading or falling out accidently).

Im also getting weary of waking up at 5am everyday, going into work for 8-9 hours, and then coming home. I dont meet anyone new the entire time at work (everyone else pretty much is working at home rn) and besides, with company rules, im not planning on fucking girls at work. So thats a huge time sink for me, even if im getting paid decently. Thats exactly why I want to get this side business going so I dont have to live this way.

Im so ready to be moved on, on my own, and with my own place. omg it seriously cannot get here fast enough.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 12/20/2020:

Hey guys.

So got into the habit of wearing my leather jacket to work, which has been good. Last week was a super freaking stressful week at work, but I'm super excited for the upcoming Christmas and New Year holiday. Plus, I've done some digging into my work benefits and found some pretty great ones - so I've been taking advantage of those.

Things with the FWB are also still going well. We met yesterday and had sex and it sure af felt long overdue - we both agreed on that haha. But we also had some drinks together so it was just horny sex - the fuck me right now I'm so horny and it's been too long sex. But it was fun. I almost made the mistake of falling asleep at her place for the night - but my mom blowing up my phone made sure that didn't happen xD Instead, I let her sleep after telling her bye and headed out the door at 12:40 AM back home to sleep in my bed. But seriously, sex, drinks, and cuddling/almost falling asleep on top of each other was a great break from my work life.

Also never heard back from the Pacific Islander girl - she's most likely a missed opportunity. But she was a good reminder. I haven't really met any new women since her, mostly due to work (and overtime) and due to it being really cold out so now there's even fewer and fewer people out after I get off of work.

Recently reading Chase's and Tony's articles on Loving Tests and How to Confidently Fail were pretty inspirational to me and a good reminder to keep going strong. I get a lot of tests from the people in my life, especially recently. But also reminding myself that it is OK and good to take (calculated) risks and keep moving forward was refreshing. All my same goals are still on the table.

Also reading Chase's article on the 8 Rules for FWB relationships again was a really good reminder. So far, I've been following rules 1-5 and have had minimal drama outside of my family pressuring me to introduce this girl to them (which no, I'm not doing) or them calling her my girlfriend even though I very, very clearly say she's not. But they just don't understand it so I can't be too mad at them. Rule 6 is a good reminder, especially going into the holiday season next week. And rule 7 on not getting into a relationship and settling for less (and honestly, hanging out with this girl yesterday, I had moments where I literally thought "yeah this girl is fun, but she obviously isn't girlfriend level for me and doesn't excite me or add to my life in the way I want my girlfriend to do". Rule 8 is also very sobering and a reminder that I cannot allow myself to become complacent. My goal of 100 women by age 25 is still strong in my mind.

I'm ready for this next year of my life and I'm so ready to get moving forward on it.

Bring it on.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 1/10/20:

Hey guys - happy new year! We made it

Been working a lot, both my 9-5 and my business. Also still been doing my FWB, but I realized lately that shes beginning to pull away from the relationship. I read Chase's article on FWBs and realized his timeline for the 4 stages has been pretty right on with this relationship. Id say we're probably in stage 3 atm so Im preparing myself to let her go. Its been a ton of fun though and Im so glad I got to experience it with her.

Since the Pacific Islander girl, I havent met any new women. Between work, my business, going out with friends, and my FWBs, not to mention Covid and winter, Ive stopped working out and stopped approaching women. Granted, I still go out when I can, but there hasnt been too many women to approach. Not saying that as an excuse, its just how it is right now.

But not going to lie, Im pretty excited to start getting back out there meeting women. I really need it and Ive been feeling the desire to for a while now.

But next week, Im literally busy every day until the weekend. There are some days I dont see the sun. At all. So I have to take things in stride.

I also began the process to separate from my family financially and had some other good things happening there, so thats been good.

Been learning and growing a lot.

I dont really want to say much else right now, so hopefully next update is with a new LR

Best to you guys,

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Update 2/8/21:

Hey guys - can't believe it's been a month already! As expected, me and my FWB are now on hiatus and no longer seeing each other. I've been very busy with work and it's burning me out I think. My stomach's been messed up for the past three days.

But anyways, I did two cold approaches today in a store and both women were very attractive and very married - so I just let those conversations gracefully die and then moved on. I also was going to meet a woman who was running but holy crap was she fast. I was a long ways away from my starting point before realizing how far I had gone xD so eventually I ran back to my starting point.

I do have one woman I met while walking that is getting a divorce that is really interested, but we're having a lot of scheduling conflicts so we haven't met yet. We're trying to find time to meet this week.

I've also been working hard on getting my two businesses up and running and so far so good on that.

But yeah. That's that for now. I'm so ready to get these businesses all set up so I can start making money and finally quit this job. Get some of my life back you know?

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

2/16/21:

Just a quick update on a realization I had today that I really need to beat into my bones:

The issue is not that there arent any single women where I live. The issue is that I havent structured my life in a way to consistently bring those women into my life.

Its a bias I have from my own experience. Theres tons of beautiful, attractive women here.

This is the reason Im looking forward to Chase's new course on this. Because I dont know the best way to go about this with my current schedule.

NBW

 

[NewBeeWinner]

3/20/21:

Hey guys. Just been business as usual.

Know that stomach pain I was having a bit back? Turns out I was bleeding internally from an ulcer. Probably from stress. Could've killed me. I spent 3 days in the hospital and have been recovering ever since.

Im happy it happened in that it made me get serious about what Im eating (I had to change my diet as a result) and it made me re-evaluate stress.

But yeah. Im focused on one business rn and almost have it ready to go.

With women, its been a shit show. Have only met a handful of women since my FB in Jan. A lot had bfs or were married. Have one MILF thats still hanging on but idk if we'll ever meet up.

I went out today super hyped to meet someone new after a super long week of work. But nothing came of it.

Im honestly really struggling with figuring out how to consistently meet women here and Im at my wits end. Really hoping Chases new course can help.

On the positive side, Im moving out at the end of May so thatll be good. Then im focusing on dating more seriously.

But Im just not meeting the quantity at all. And idk what else to do. I get jealous of other "seducers" who you see in videos n theres a new gorgeous woman in the picture every few seconds. Like no duh youre getting results. Im here lucky to meet even 3-4 women a day, if that. And thats after spending hours out of the house. It just makes me so jealous.

N yeah Im trying to do as much as I can to change it but Im struggling.

So thats been it really these past few months.

NBW

 

[ElderPrice]

Hey man. I read your recent post, then re-read a couple pages of your previous posts to put it in context.

First, congrats on landing a great job! You were searching for a while and I'm glad you found something that pays well and that you like. Also congrats on making big progress on getting your finances in order! Also congrats on finally getting the wheels in motion to move out!

Regarding the women issues - I don't know the best fix for you, but one thing that stands out to me is you're definitely having some mindset issues. First, I noticed you use terms like "shit show," "really struggling," "wits end," "jealous," to name a few. These are not terms used by a confident, strong man.

Then, I noticed that your journal posts kind of move the goalposts for when you're allowing yourself to be happy, or ready, or confident. For instance, earlier posts gave me the impression that you'd be unstoppable once you finally got your job and finances in order. Now you're here and it *appears* you're finding reasons to stay unhappy or not ready. "Quantity" being the current reason you're seemingly not allowing yourself to be happy.

So I'd recommend exploring a couple of things:
1. Consider that deep down, you're pretty darn desperate and needy. This may explain why you're still using negative terms despite obvious improvements in your life. You may need deeper mindset work to find the exact limiting beliefs causing you issues, and correct them.

2. Similarly, work on your mind to learn how to be fully happy right now, in the present. The truth is, you're not a new city away from feeling good about yourself. You're not a high quantity of women away from feeling good about yourself. This is your mind we're talking about. You're fully capable of BEING happy right now, with whatever hand you've been dealt.

 

[NewBeeWinner]

4/2/21:

So I attempted two approaches today n they both didnt end great. But I can definitely see how my mindset is messing me up.

First one was a girl from another state with her two dogs on a walk. I opened talking about how nice the weather was today (the first warm day in months), found out where she was from, got her to laugh, etc. etc.

Anyways she stopped n was going to make a turn so I asked if I could meet her dogs n she said they arent really friendly to people. So I told her ok, welcome to the state, and let her go.

So two things:
1) I took her telling that to mean "I dont want to talk to you anymore so leave me alone" even though she had a big smile on her face. I couldve turned it into flirting or persisted in a cool way, but instead took it wayy too personally.
2) I didnt ask her which way she was going.

So those were mistakes and for whatever reason, again, I feel uncomfortable persisting because its something Im not used to doing too much. But me taking something like that personally shows theres a deeper problem.


Second was literally moments after the first (when I got around the corner). Long story short, I got way too much into otherthinking the opener, wanting it to be natural instead of just opening her. It resulted in making a weird vibe and we didnt even end up talking. At one point she turned back away from the way she was walking towards where she started from and I took that very personally to mean the same "Dont try to talk to me. I dont want to talk to you" feel. Instead of just opening her finally or making light of it.

So yeah both failed. The lessons were to not overthink it stupid and persist past the bs.

Im really out of practice.

NBW

 

[Toby2030]

4/2/21:

So I attempted two approaches today n they both didnt end great. But I can definitely see how my mindset is messing me up.

First one was a girl from another state with her two dogs on a walk. I opened talking about how nice the weather was today (the first warm day in months), found out where she was from, got her to laugh, etc. etc.

Anyways she stopped n was going to make a turn so I asked if I could meet her dogs n she said they arent really friendly to people. So I told her ok, welcome to the state, and let her go.

So two things:
1) I took her telling that to mean "I dont want to talk to you anymore so leave me alone" even though she had a big smile on her face. I couldve turned it into flirting or persisted in a cool way, but instead took it wayy too personally.
2) I didnt ask her which way she was going.

So those were mistakes and for whatever reason, again, I feel uncomfortable persisting because its something Im not used to doing too much. But me taking something like that personally shows theres a deeper problem.


Second was literally moments after the first (when I got around the corner). Long story short, I got way too much into otherthinking the opener, wanting it to be natural instead of just opening her. It resulted in making a weird vibe and we didnt even end up talking. At one point she turned back away from the way she was walking towards where she started from and I took that very personally to mean the same "Dont try to talk to me. I dont want to talk to you" feel. Instead of just opening her finally or making light of it.

So yeah both failed. The lessons were to not overthink it stupid and persist past the bs.

Im really out of practice.

NBW

What she told you had nothing to do with you talking to her. Her dogs literally might not be friendly towards strangers. Even though she had told you something different, as long as she has a big smile on her face, you should persist and stay there. It seems like you have a fear of rejection, which we all had to go through at some point. Check this out

5 Mindsets to Overcome the Fear of Approaching Women

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