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Hey guys, went out to a bar in a nearby town, bunch of college kids and recent grads go there, at one point, it becomes more like a club vibe.
Went with 3 friends of mine, one of who has a gf. We got there around 11, when the venue was already packed, closing time at 2.
Definitely find it hard to approach with my friends, even when I would approach a group of girls, when I opened them, they would just not come into the conversation.
First approach of the night I approach two girls, one of them starts giving me faces of disgust, while the other one is receptive. I tease the girl with disgust, who eventually says that she just can’t really hear me. There was a Love Island viewing tonight, so I ask them if they watched it(chick crack). They say no, I talk a little about it and tell them both that they should be on Love Island, if it was up to me, and that I would be there with them. Idk how smooth it was but I’m trying to show more sexual intent. I tell my girl once she gets a drink that we should talk more, which she says sure.
Around this time another group of guys approach the other girl, I try to get my friends to talk to the girls with me, since it’s a group of two, but they said nah I need to buy drinks.
This is where my limiting beliefs may have come in, I disengaged the girl and she joined with her friend, who was talking to the other guys.
Made some approaches throughout the night, didn’t really go anywhere, simple names, introductions and that’s it.
Talked to one girl, who guessed I was Indian, she said she had a bf, but still got her instagram.
We all went over to the other bar, where for the most part we were just moving around and standing in a circle and dancing.
Near the end I see two girls I just said fuck it imma go in myself, they seem receptive, I start talking about love island, she doesn’t really like the show, I ask why to see more of what she likes. I only have a couple minutes so I say(not ask) “I can get to know you another time tho” to which she says “yes” I say ok lemme get your instagram.
Personally I go for insta if I feel like I didn’t build as much of a connection with the girl, I’d go for number if I got to know her more.
We went outside since the venue was closed, we were trying to call the uber(which was a mess). Approached another group of two girls outside eventually, I just said fuck it let’s see what happens.
They end up being extremely receptive to my approach, especially the target one. We get to know each other, upon realizing we go to the same university, she went for a high five, I gave it to her, and then I went in for a hug, which she reciprocated. She said she had to sit down, I asked if I could sit with her, and she said yes. The other friend was there, but giving us her space(ig she approved of us talking to each other). When my uber came, I took her ig and left.
I messaged both girls this morning on ig, “nice to meet you, hope you got back safe.” Neither have responded yet, either way it’s been a few hours, maybe that changes.
Some takeaways I have are that some guys are all talk no action, like my friends who said they wanted to talk to girls, didn’t really help me as wingmen. I do want to go out with them and have fun with them, but also go out and approach, even if they can’t help keep the other girls occupied.
Also, I think my friends are more skeptical of pickup working than me, I got the ig of a fitness coach who had 19k followers on instagram, they were in shock and disbelief. Would have gone for the number I need to build some more comfort since it’s the gym, a social circle environment.
Any advice?
Went with 3 friends of mine, one of who has a gf. We got there around 11, when the venue was already packed, closing time at 2.
Definitely find it hard to approach with my friends, even when I would approach a group of girls, when I opened them, they would just not come into the conversation.
First approach of the night I approach two girls, one of them starts giving me faces of disgust, while the other one is receptive. I tease the girl with disgust, who eventually says that she just can’t really hear me. There was a Love Island viewing tonight, so I ask them if they watched it(chick crack). They say no, I talk a little about it and tell them both that they should be on Love Island, if it was up to me, and that I would be there with them. Idk how smooth it was but I’m trying to show more sexual intent. I tell my girl once she gets a drink that we should talk more, which she says sure.
Around this time another group of guys approach the other girl, I try to get my friends to talk to the girls with me, since it’s a group of two, but they said nah I need to buy drinks.
This is where my limiting beliefs may have come in, I disengaged the girl and she joined with her friend, who was talking to the other guys.
Made some approaches throughout the night, didn’t really go anywhere, simple names, introductions and that’s it.
Talked to one girl, who guessed I was Indian, she said she had a bf, but still got her instagram.
We all went over to the other bar, where for the most part we were just moving around and standing in a circle and dancing.
Near the end I see two girls I just said fuck it imma go in myself, they seem receptive, I start talking about love island, she doesn’t really like the show, I ask why to see more of what she likes. I only have a couple minutes so I say(not ask) “I can get to know you another time tho” to which she says “yes” I say ok lemme get your instagram.
Personally I go for insta if I feel like I didn’t build as much of a connection with the girl, I’d go for number if I got to know her more.
We went outside since the venue was closed, we were trying to call the uber(which was a mess). Approached another group of two girls outside eventually, I just said fuck it let’s see what happens.
They end up being extremely receptive to my approach, especially the target one. We get to know each other, upon realizing we go to the same university, she went for a high five, I gave it to her, and then I went in for a hug, which she reciprocated. She said she had to sit down, I asked if I could sit with her, and she said yes. The other friend was there, but giving us her space(ig she approved of us talking to each other). When my uber came, I took her ig and left.
I messaged both girls this morning on ig, “nice to meet you, hope you got back safe.” Neither have responded yet, either way it’s been a few hours, maybe that changes.
Some takeaways I have are that some guys are all talk no action, like my friends who said they wanted to talk to girls, didn’t really help me as wingmen. I do want to go out with them and have fun with them, but also go out and approach, even if they can’t help keep the other girls occupied.
Also, I think my friends are more skeptical of pickup working than me, I got the ig of a fitness coach who had 19k followers on instagram, they were in shock and disbelief. Would have gone for the number I need to build some more comfort since it’s the gym, a social circle environment.
Any advice?
