Ninja's Newbie Assignment

[LemurKing]

Exposure Therapy is the process by which you lessen your fear and become more comfortable. The more you do it, the better it gets. Read the short story of Dr Albert Ellis on how he overcame AA. Dr Ellis was an early PUA. Albert Ellis.

Ues, I suppose that's essentially what "Set Acclimatization" is, except foxused on specific types of sets on done in a gradual process

 

[LemurKing]

Day 12​

December 27th, 2021
NOTE #1: I think I got Day 10 above mixed up with another day
NOTE #2: Get Grammarly for your browser. It makes spotting spelling, grammar, and general structure mistakes soo much easier

The Challenge​

Indirect Direct
Open 4 sets with one of the previous openers learned, then follow up with "I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you [Intruduce yourself]"

• "Are you single?"
• "Hi, hows is your day going"
• A genuine compliment

What Happened​

I returned to the mall where I attempted to do this challenge a few days ago (and failed), and well, actually did it.
It took about 1h 30m to get 4 approaches in. Unlike most all the other challenges I've done in the newbie assignment, today I felt very afraid, timid, and low energy.

They were all attractive, young, single stationary sets inside stores, half had very hostile, kind of bitchy, "get the fuck away from me" responses. For all of them, I observed them for a few minutes doubling back and back before actually approaching. I saw some less to unattractive sets but I'm unsure if I should approach them and use them as practice as well or if that would be cheating; like lifting lighter weights at the gym because I'm too scared to go heavy?

I noticed, when I got into the set my voice, while deep and somewhat masculine, carried with it a sort of low volume and needy vibe as if I was unsure of what I was doing

The Sets​

1. Attractive single in a store
   I wandered around the store looking like I was shopping for about 6 min and made eye contact with her about twice. Finally, I got frustrated and approached her from the side and asked if she was single
   
   She was friendly, said no, and then quickly turned away to keep shopping
   I then left, though if I weren't so afraid, it would have been good practice to keep going and see what I can make out of bad situations like that
   
   
2. Attractive single set in a store
   This time, I only wandered for about 2 min before approaching
   I asked her how she was then said she was cute and I wanted to meet her. She responded in a confused and irritated manner
   "I have a boyfriend and he's here with me right now"
   
   Either I came off as really creepy and needy (voice and facial expression likely the culprit) or she's just poorly socialized and doesn't understand how the mating game works, or a bit of both but I always error don't the side of I'm fucked up, not her
   
   
3. Attractive single set in a store
   I was on the brink of throwing in the towel for the day and going home; the responses from those two previous sets just got me so low but I knew that no matter how badly a woman rejects me, the torment I'd put myself through for quitting would be MUCH MUCH WORSE
   
   I asked if she was single, she said no but was really friendly and didn't immediately turn away or try to end the interaction as if I was mutant
   
   
4. Went to a Target to buy some things and get my last set in
   Older less attractive female. I opened indirect asking for female advice then just went blunt and said she was attractive. She said thank you and I then bailed because "what the fuck do I say now"

Take-Aways​

1. Some days I feel great and find Game really easy, other days like today, I feel like shit and just want to lay in bed
2. Gaming when I'm low like this is a double-edged sword
   • My responses are almost guaranteed to be bad as my low state is reflected in my body language the
   • The bad responses bring down my morale and confidence
   • But, as I get approaches in, entering further sets is a bit easier and I think it carries on to the next day (momentum)
3. Louder voice - Stop whispering like a fucking hamster
4. Day Game is a numbers Game. I can't judge my worth based on 4 approaches. I must do more
5. Even though I technically succeeded at the Challenge, I still feel like shit, as if I was looking for an outcome other than just challenge completion
6. Something deep inside me is telling me to keep going. I think it knows that however absolutely shitty I may be at Game now, with time and practice, I'll get better
   When I first started the guitar, I was absolute shit. It took me 2 months before I could play anything decent, and it's not like I felt super highly motivated every time I practiced. But I did practice, every day, for 1h whether I felt like it or not

I'm likely going out to Game again today, (Day 12). I have to keep going