On rewarding women after sex

[Darius]

Hello everyone,

Coming from just reading @Chase 's post on rewarding women, I really got a few 'ah ha' moments, especially on the timing of giving women attention.

There is still one small thing that I'm unsure about though, and it might sound like a beginner issue.

Say you meet a woman, run your seduction course, you build a great connection with her, and take her to bed in a timely manner. After sex, you reward her with pillow talk, giving her your undivided attention (honestly this is sometimes my favourite part of a seduction. It's the little things ). You make her breakfast in the morning maybe (after you ask her to do the dishes), and walk her out the door. She leaves happy as a clam. A bit later on, you text her that you enjoyed your time together.

All of this was pretty big attention (i.e. rewards) towards her. And it was justified, you had sex, she was a good girl to you. She complied with everything you asked her. Maybe she let you do kinky stuff or anal first time.

But. Now you want to see her a second time. You text her to meet, and she agrees.

So here comes the tricky part: how do you act towards her? do you still reward her from last time? or do you act as if nothing happened and you just met first time?

I feel like based on this last post you should not reward her and build compliance first. But I've been in both positions: I've had girls autoreject after sex, no idea why; and I had girls act disinterested after sex as well, no idea why (my theory is too much attention, toning down rewards tended to work and get her chasing again).

So what do you guys do as a general rule?

 

[Rakehell]

So what do you guys do as a general rule?

Regardless of how you treat her afterward, the number one thing that’ll keep her coming back is the quality of the sex.

I’ve had a girl tell me that despite how her ex treated her like shit she’d drop everything when he called because the sex was so good. (Her words not mine)

 

[Will_V]

Hello everyone,

Coming from just reading @Chase 's post on rewarding women, I really got a few 'ah ha' moments, especially on the timing of giving women attention.

There is still one small thing that I'm unsure about though, and it might sound like a beginner issue.

Say you meet a woman, run your seduction course, you build a great connection with her, and take her to bed in a timely manner. After sex, you reward her with pillow talk, giving her your undivided attention (honestly this is sometimes my favourite part of a seduction. It's the little things ). You make her breakfast in the morning maybe (after you ask her to do the dishes), and walk her out the door. She leaves happy as a clam. A bit later on, you text her that you enjoyed your time together.

All of this was pretty big attention (i.e. rewards) towards her. And it was justified, you had sex, she was a good girl to you. She complied with everything you asked her. Maybe she let you do kinky stuff or anal first time.

But. Now you want to see her a second time. You text her to meet, and she agrees.

So here comes the tricky part: how do you act towards her? do you still reward her from last time? or do you act as if nothing happened and you just met first time?

I feel like based on this last post you should not reward her and build compliance first. But I've been in both positions: I've had girls autoreject after sex, no idea why; and I had girls act disinterested after sex as well, no idea why (my theory is too much attention, toning down rewards tended to work and get her chasing again).

So what do you guys do as a general rule?

At this point I consider familiarity and assuming frame to be more powerful than rewarding or withholding reward.

After we've had sex, I treat a girl like she's already mine and the negotiation phase is over. I like to reinforce my frame by being more demanding (but warmly). I will ask her to do things for me, grab and smack her butt, pull her in toward me, kiss her and then walk away etc. This is much better because it implies that she has a position now with me that she didn't have before (even if that position is one of giving me even more of what I want). This makes her feel safe and validated.

The worst thing you can do with a woman post sex is to give her the sense that you think you still need to negotiate to cross some barrier between you, because it implies that you feel like you didn't already deserve what she gave you.

That barrier is gone, she has given you her most valuable asset, now its time for you to own it.