Ok, this seemed to me such a perfect interaction from start to end. I even set the date while being with her, which I forget a lot of times. BUT I got blocked?! I was so surprised I actually laughed when I realized she blocked me
Overall I thought it was good, but might have had some hiccups which I might have missed. So, writing with as much details as possible. Apologies for the long post!
Spotted a cute blonde sitting on a bench in the waiting area. Lots of people sitting around her, but her face looked receptive. I saw a guy pass by her bench and I noticed she checked him out, the guy was oblivious lol. Passed by her bench with a slow sexy walk and out of my peripherals saw that she checked me out as well. Good! I could feel she would be receptive to my approach.
Gathered myself for a few moments and breezed in, sat beside her without looking at her and turned towards her the next second with a slight smile: hey!
She smiled back (in my experience these always go well) and took her earphone out.
We vibe, just being fun and bantery. I'm being very self-amused. She's waiting for the train which was canceled coz someone jumped on the tracks. Studies law. I tease her about it, saying she does not seem like the lawyer type at all. She turns a bit more towards me at some point, I mirror that.
Don't remember the whole conversation but it was all playful and light vibes, strong eye contact, and felt like we both were super comfortable in our presence. I wasn't feeling passive or stifled like in this FR. I was free, also was touching her here and there which she was pretty cool with.
Shit test
I also qualified her a bit:
We keep on talking.
Age question
She seemed slightly disengaged for a few seconds after this, looked at her phone and re-engaged while I was still rambling (I'm probably overanalyzing)
We keep on talking and I continue being self-amusing.
She seemed pretty into it all still. Mentioned once or twice she loved my dry humour.
Now maybe a hint of what was to come later:
So we look together, we're sitting even closer.
I just did a friendly caress on her shoulder, said "ok, see you soon HB!"
"See you! and have a good day!"
I texted her, with assumed familiarity:
Overall I thought it was good, but might have had some hiccups which I might have missed. So, writing with as much details as possible. Apologies for the long post!
Approach
Was getting out of a train and into my city train station during lunch hour. I was in a chill playful headspace, nonchalant.Spotted a cute blonde sitting on a bench in the waiting area. Lots of people sitting around her, but her face looked receptive. I saw a guy pass by her bench and I noticed she checked him out, the guy was oblivious lol. Passed by her bench with a slow sexy walk and out of my peripherals saw that she checked me out as well. Good! I could feel she would be receptive to my approach.
Gathered myself for a few moments and breezed in, sat beside her without looking at her and turned towards her the next second with a slight smile: hey!
She smiled back (in my experience these always go well) and took her earphone out.
Looks a bit corny when I write it, but I could sense she's a playful type and she took it really well.DJ: So.. I gotta go soon, gotta get back to working... but...(I smile wider, HB does the same)... I saw you, and you had the most chill and cute expression on your face...
HB: (smiles more) Yeah?
DJ: Yeah, so I decided to spare 5 more minutes and see what's up, let the universe do its thing
We vibe, just being fun and bantery. I'm being very self-amused. She's waiting for the train which was canceled coz someone jumped on the tracks. Studies law. I tease her about it, saying she does not seem like the lawyer type at all. She turns a bit more towards me at some point, I mirror that.
Don't remember the whole conversation but it was all playful and light vibes, strong eye contact, and felt like we both were super comfortable in our presence. I wasn't feeling passive or stifled like in this FR. I was free, also was touching her here and there which she was pretty cool with.
Shit test
I felt like this was more like an attraction shit test and not a comfort one, so I agreed and amplified, but might have been a problem?HB: So do you normally chat up girls in the train station?
DJ: Hahaha yeah all the time, but only sweet-looking lawyer chicks from X (where she's from)
HB: Hahaha ohh right!
I also qualified her a bit:
DJ: But yeah, I do feel you can sense what kind of a person someone is by their faces a lot of times. And you seemed a sweet, fun girl. Looks like my intuition wasn't too far off!
HB: Thanks! But I think I look like a bitch when I'm just idly sitting (takes out her phone and checks herself in her phone camera)
DJ: Hahahaha you? A bitch? You gotta try harder!
We keep on talking.
Age question
I don't know if this was a problem for her. Girls in this country balk at even 5 year differences when they're 21 (more feminism, less social acceptability of age gaps probably, unlike more eastern countries). But also ime, when they suspect an age gap girls here ask your age outright and reject you outright.DJ: Did I ask you your name btw?
HB: Not yet
DJ: What's your name?
HB: HB
DJ: (shakes hand) I'm DJ
HB: How old are you?
DJ: Hahahaha is that the next question you ask after introductions?
HB: Hahaha yes, always
DJ: Guess
HB: Hmmm (looks at me for a few seconds) 26, 27?
DJ: A bit more, 29 (I lied, lost too many chicks coz of age and trying this now). How old are you?
HB: Guess?
DJ: twentyyyyy--threee?
HB: nope
DJ: 16?
HB hahaha what? nooo
DJ: 21
HB: yess
DJ: Ahh I was close the first time
HB: yeah true
She seemed slightly disengaged for a few seconds after this, looked at her phone and re-engaged while I was still rambling (I'm probably overanalyzing)
We keep on talking and I continue being self-amusing.
She seemed pretty into it all still. Mentioned once or twice she loved my dry humour.
Closing
Called so that she got my number.DJ: So, I really gotta go now. Can't keep you company for the rest of your wait. But, we should get a drink some other time
HB: Sure!
DJ: Perfect. You got whatsapp?
HB: I do have whatsapp yeah?
DJ: (gives her his phone) Well, put in your digits then
HB: (saves her name) You should call me, to make sure its a real number
DJ: Hahaha I was not doubting you, but now I gotta call you to make sure
Now maybe a hint of what was to come later:
Then I decided I should set a dateDJ: So do you normally give out a lot of fake numbers?
HB: No, I just give my number and block them (smiles)
DJ: Ohh really? Well I don't think that's gonna happen in this case
HB: Why do you think so?
DJ: (pause, strong eye contact, slight smirk) Just a feeling, and from how your face looked when I approached you
HB: (smiles and nods slightly)
She keeps on looking at the calendar, so I sneak a peek and say "Can I have a look?". She says sure!DJ: So, see you in the coming days.
HB: Yes, let's do that
DJ: Wait, what are you doing this Sunday?
HB: (pulls out her phone to check her calendar)
DJ: Hahaha of course you and your little agendas
HB: Hahaha yeah. On Sunday my girls are coming over
So we look together, we're sitting even closer.
Seemed like she was invested in making it happen and all was well.HB: So, look. Saturday we might have something
DJ: I see "work"
HB: Yes but I start at 5
DJ: Till?
HB: Do you know what this means? -> pointing to something in her calendar in the local language
DJ: Hmmm...closing time?
HB: Yes!! 9
DJ: owkay!
HB: But I'm free in the afternoon. We could have a drink.
DJ: Sure, we could do Saturday
HB: I just have to receive a package sometime, so we have to coordinate over text
DJ: Sure, we'll figure it out
HB: Perfect
I just did a friendly caress on her shoulder, said "ok, see you soon HB!"
"See you! and have a good day!"
Texting
I saw on Whatsapp that her picture wasn't shown, so she hadn't saved my number. Checked 4-5 hours later and it was visible, so she did save it later. Which was a positive.I texted her, with assumed familiarity:
I saw later that she'd read it and blocked me!DJ: Well, I hope there weren't any more "incidents" and you're back chilling at home by now!
Takeaways
I'm confused. Her vibe was great throughout, she invested in setting up the date, unless it was just her playing. I have some theories:- Mostly light and attraction stuff happened. I didn't deep dive unlike other times, so maybe lack of enough connection? (I tend to focus on deep dives too much, tried to keep it light this time, and she seemed more of a fun happy girl)
- The age was an objection but she felt weird to mention it further out into the conversation
- Did I give a player vibe? (I have been getting the "do you talk to every girl" question more lately, thrice this week)
- Did it seem too cocky to her when I said I know she won't block me and she was like "I'll show you by blocking you as well"
- The frame was subtly hers. I did feel she had control of the frame at points, but didn't seem it was too skewed
- Need more tension?
- She was just flirting and liked the attention
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