Finally, something fun to report on
I have a date lined up on Thursday with this girl I met on the plane to my hometown for Thanksgiving, so I wanted to get the interaction written down to A) make the FR easier to write this weekend and B) hash out everything that happened in the interaction.
So last Wednesday after a super busy day of work, trying to cram everything needed before Thanksgiving into a shortened day, I made it to the airport and changed out of work cloths in the parking garage. I changed into my black Joe's jeans, white crew cut T-shirt and my black and white Steven Madden sneakers. My hair had been getting longer and I had grown out a solid November beard. Simple outfit that looked masculine but was comfortable enough for the airport. Before I hit the elevators I took a quite peak over the 9th floor parking garage wall and soaked in the Miami skyline. It's been a really crazy 3 months of work and life and this TG was the first long weekend I've had in seems like forever.
The terminal was packed so I decided to avoid any of the bars or restaurants and went straight to the terminal. I started to go through some of the older GC articles that I haven't read in years as I try to refresh my mind for the weekend to come. I settled on focusing on some articles on body language just trying to remind myself what to do and how to act. I used to have a lot of success making sure I had good open body language, slow movements and then would look at everything while focusing on nothing. This way I can easily ID IOI's.
When your focused on something and someone looks your way the natural reaction is to jerk your head/eyes their way which puts pressure on them to stop looking or staring... so eventually when I lined up to board the plane. I lined up at the very back so I could easily view everything, got in an extremely comfortable position bracing myself against my suitcase staring off into space above the crowd. Off to my right I noticed a cute blonde girl in yoga pants heading towards the line, but honestly I didn't catch her looking my way( This didn't even register until later).
Once on the plane I head toward the back, as usual, picking an aisle seat.... easy bathroom access and legroom
Eventually a guy my age sits in the window seat and later on.... the same chick I saw earlier chooses to sit right in the middle. I'm engrossed in Talent is Overrated (courtesy of Mr. Rob) so I don't pay much attention to her at first and don't really make eye contact.
Her: Excuse me, is anyone sitting there?
Me: Nah, it's all yours
Her: Thank you
Me: You got it, it's no big deal
She had blonde hair that barely reached her shoulders, a cut off shirt which barely exposed her stomach and yoga pants. She also had extremely angular cheekbones such that when I did notice her I thought wow she's beautiful. 8-9 on looks alone for me.... I have a weakness for natural blondes for sure.
And then I went back to reading.... once I realized it was the same girl I perked up a little bit and opened my awareness, but kept reading. I made sure I was as comfortable as possible and minimized my movements as much as possible. I didn't talk her, didn't look her way and barely moved while things got going.
Even while I was acting like I didn't notice her, I was considering when to open the conversation. I assumed a girl like her would get guys hitting on her immediately all the time so I decided to wait. She had put headphones in and was trying to find music to listen to. I noticed she looked a little nervy and assumed she didn't like flying or was uncomfortable with take-offs... which I understood because I used to hate them as well.... but i've now flown so many times it cake. That being said... I didn't want to talk to anyone at that part of the flight either, so I decided to leave her alone for the moment.
Once we were in the air I noticed she still seemed unsettled as her hands we fidgeting and she couldn't decide what music to listen to. She even did a number of hair flicks and looked my way toward my book. I began to interpret them as signs of attraction and my heart rate began to pick up. It felt like there was this massive tension between us that you could cut with a knife. The cabin was completely dark because it was nighttime and the armrest we shared was up... so we were so close to each other.... but so far away lol.
I'd never felt like that around someone without talking to them.... the feeling was intoxicating. I imagine this is what approach anxiety feels like? but either way I loved it strangely enough. A couple times I decided to mirror her hair flicks with some slow hair rubs of my own... pushing my hair back slowly and re-adjusting myself in the seat.... never looking her way though. This continued for 15 or so minutes after which some of the lights came on for the stewardesses to serve drinks.
Once they served the snacks she opened me with "They change the snacks on these things all the time don't they." haha. I ran with it and I deep dove her about a number of different topics: job, family, interests, why she moved to Florida. Nothing extraordinary but it was a good conversation and I could feel a strong connection whenever we mad eye contact. Good long eye contact holds.
The guy at the window woke up from his nap and joined our conversation. I had extra drink coupons and since it was TG I offered the 2 of them drinks. I think this worked out well because with 1.5 hours of flight time left our conversation could have easily hit a stand still. Window seat guy allowed the conversation to breathe.... I was also able to earn social proof by navigating the 3 way conversation without a problem.
Nothing much of note happened for the rest of that conversation except that I dropped a poorly delivered chase frame to blondie after buy them drinks, along the lines of.... "I bet you always pick young guys to sit with on the plane that order you drinks." After a said it I cringed inside.
The 3 of us talked of getting together next weekend to go to Art Basel in Miami and we exchanged phone numbers. Because of the 3 way conversation that took place I never got an opportunity to seed the date before texting her. It didn't feel natural at all to make the move in that context.
As soon as we were walking off the plane she called to my back... "how tall are you?", " I'm 6'2", I said.... which let me know she was still interested.... but as soon as we got off the plane she said bye and fell back behind the 2 of us.
I made a substantial mistake here, in that I should have slowed down to gather my stuff and break away from our 3rd.... and then re-engaged her to set up the date. Instead I was took focused on taking a raging piss.
Even though I completely failed setting the table for a date in person. I texted her the next day as if I did.
Thursday
Me: Nice to meet you
N from State X enjoy thanksgiving with the fam - 1pm
N: Happy Thanksgiving to you too Lotus (inserts 3 emojis) it was great meeting you too. Hope you have a great day with your loved ones too! - 1:30pm
N: How hungover were you today? I ended up going to the strip club lol
Me: I don't know how.... but it wasn't so bad. I bet that was a good time
Me: I am 100 percent crashing now though - 7:30 pm
N: It was a good time. Made some ladies very happy lol
N: Crash away. All that tryptophan got you (sleepy emoji)
Me: I bet you did haha. Also, I want to get a drink with you when we get back.
N: Yeah I'd like that
Me: Cool
stay warm up there
Sunday
Me: Hey N, hope you enjoyed the rest of the of your holiday weekend. Make anymore ladies happy- 6pm
Monday
N: Hey Lotus, I did enjoy the rest of the weekend. I mostly spent it with my dad. Lol no I didn't spend any more time with the strippers. lol How was yours?
Hope you have a safe flight home!
Me: Lol probably for the best. I actually flew back already since i had to work. When do you get back?
N: I get back on the 4th. Were going to get 8 inches of snow tonight.(she also sent a video with a fake snowman throwing a snowball)
Me: Wow, that's crazy! Assuming you make it back... will you be free later this week/weekend?
N: Haha yes. I'm free, Thursday, Friday, Sunday
Me: Perfect, lets do Thursday in my town. Next time we can go to your town
N: Alright. I'm down
So i know that was an absurd amount of text.....but i needed to replay everything as I plan for the date.
Mr. Rob and I were talking yesterday and he was like dude... why didn't you open her?? I'm really not 100% sure, but after replaying and writing it all down it feels like the right move. Although that could just be a justfication.... so I'm 50/50.
On one hand it's over a 2 hour flight so keeping a conversation going that long would be challenging and could have caused other problems later on. On the other hand, not opening could have de-valued my stock and made me look less masculine.
It's hard to say in retrospect.... my outfit and vibe was communicating IDGAF and I definitely didn't come off as nervous around her. So she could have been thinking to herself, If I don't say anything it doesn't look like he will, he doesn't look interested.
Sunday I did think I blew it because she didn't answer until over 12 hours later....I was very confused because of how the interaction/ texts went. She was very warm the entire time. The fact that I immediately jumped to the wrong conclusion and overthought the situation does prove I need to get more abundance... as it was pointed out to me.
Anyway... feels good to be back! More to come!
Lotus