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AJAK

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Greeting's fella's. Glad to be apart of this forum. I would like some assistance for a potential gym pickup. I would also like to state that i'm completely new to this and this is why i'm asking for help.

Some insight into what has happened until now.

I'm not a bad looking guy and I guess getting my body into shape has only made me more attractive.

There is a girl at the gym who I guess has been checking me out for a few months. It was all subtle like once she was walking towards the gym exit when she suddenly turned around quickly and darted a look at me.

Last week, she made it very clear. I was sitting on the leg extension machine resting between sets when she goes and sits on the leg press machine. Now, from the leg press machine she has to lean forward in order to see me which she does. I stare at the space waiting for her to do it and when she noticed that I caught her, she immediately moves back.

Still on the leg extension machine, she gets up and moves onto the adductor machine which is directly in my line of sight. She then proceeds to turn her head towards me and hard stare me for 6-8 seconds. MY heart was racing at this point and I was caught off guard. I thought to myself that I need to approach her but I didn't.

Next time I saw her in the gym (a week later) I approached. I waited for her to finish warming up on the elliptical machine and I guess I caught her off guard because she had a confused look on her face. After she removed her earbuds, I greeted her and ask her how she was doing and introduced myself. She then said her name, smiled, offered her hand and said nice to meet you. Then she abruptly walked away and began doing her workout. The exchange lasted not even 10 seconds.

She is not very social in the gym, stony faced and seems to be very reserved. She comes in, does her workout and then leaves without saying anything to anybody.

Since I have been paying attention (since she stared at me), i've only been able to observe her coming to the gym on Thursday. I could swear she used to come to the gym more often, or maybe she comes on different times on different days.

I'm not sure how to proceed with this. I would appreciate advice from more experienced fellas.
 
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MrVariety

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Stop obsessing about one girl. You should be meeting new girls every day. I hope you do and realize how much mental energy you put into over analyzing this girl is ridiculous.

MV
 

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Greeting's fella's. Glad to be apart of this forum. I would like some assistance for a potential gym pickup. I would also like to state that i'm completely new to this and this is why i'm asking for help.

Some insight into what has happened until now.

I'm not a bad looking guy and I guess getting my body into shape has only made me more attractive.

There is a girl at the gym who I guess has been checking me out for a few months. It was all subtle like once she was walking towards the gym exit when she suddenly turned around quickly and darted a look at me.

Last week, she made it very clear. I was sitting on the leg extension machine resting between sets when she goes and sits on the leg press machine. Now, from the leg press machine she has to lean forward in order to see me which she does. I stare at the space waiting for her to do it and when she noticed that I caught her, she immediately moves back.

Still on the leg extension machine, she gets up and moves onto the adductor machine which is directly in my line of sight. She then proceeds to turn her head towards me and hard stare me for 6-8 seconds. MY heart was racing at this point and I was caught off guard. I thought to myself that I need to approach her but I didn't.

Next time I saw her in the gym (a week later) I approached. I waited for her to finish warming up on the elliptical machine and I guess I caught her off guard because she had a confused look on her face. After she removed her earbuds, I greeted her and ask her how she was doing and introduced myself. She then said her name, smiled, offered her hand and said nice to meet you. Then she abruptly walked away and began doing her workout. The exchange lasted not even 10 seconds.

She is not very social in the gym, stony faced and seems to be very reserved. She comes in, does her workout and then leaves without saying anything to anybody.

Since I have been paying attention (since she stared at me), i've only been able to observe her coming to the gym on Thursday. I could swear she used to come to the gym more often, or maybe she comes on different times on different days.

I'm not sure how to proceed with this. I would appreciate advice from more experienced fellas.

Welcome to the forum!

Be patient, don't give her too much attention while she's not talking to you, wait for another opportunity maybe for a situational opener and open her again.

Sounds like she might have been surprised and/or shy on your first approach. Important not to let too much silent staring/tension develop in places like the gym where you'll be seeing her regularly, or it can get a bit much for her.
 

AJAK

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Stop obsessing about one girl. You should be meeting new girls every day. I hope you do and realize how much mental energy you put into over analyzing this girl is ridiculous.

MV

You're 100% right. Just because other girls don't give signals doesn't mean that I shouldn't talk to them. This is something that I need to address.
 

AJAK

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Welcome to the forum!

Be patient, don't give her too much attention while she's not talking to you, wait for another opportunity maybe for a situational opener and open her again.

Sounds like she might have been surprised and/or shy on your first approach. Important not to let too much silent staring/tension develop in places like the gym where you'll be seeing her regularly, or it can get a bit much for her.

Yeah, I feel the same way. I kind of just appeared out of nowhere and it was kind of like an ambush. I felt that I needed to approach after what happened and was very eager.

Thanks for the advice. I will follow it as best I can.
 

POB

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Welcome to the boards!

Gyms are a social environment, so you have to calibrate acordingly.
Usually there are 2 ways you can go about it:
- pick a single target, be social everytime you guys meet and, when the opportunity presents itself, get her on a date outside the gym (more friendly aproach);
- create a social bubble, then proceed to do social game, pick your girl(s) from that social circle (more advanced aproach);

That said, gyms are a notorious difficult place for beginners...there's almost NO margin for error there.
If you crash and burn, better to move out and go to another gym (and hope they don't label you as a stalker).
Err on the cautious side and you will be fine.

P.S. (there are 2-3 recent posts about gym game...you should search them to get some ideas for your next aproach).
 

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Stop obsessing about one girl. You should be meeting new girls every day. I hope you do and realize how much mental energy you put into over analyzing this girl is ridiculous.
He is not obssessing...he likes that the girl has a small crush on him and is willing to make it happen.
Nothing wrong with that.
 

MrVariety

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He is not obssessing...he likes that the girl has a small crush on him and is willing to make it happen.
Nothing wrong with that.

When someone keeps track of which weekdays a girl goes to the gym, and thinks of strategies to meet *her*, then I start to worry.

I wasn't there so I wouldn't know but when OP said she walked abruptly away within ten seconds of him approaching her, it's time to let her go. There's no need to push this one any further.

Studies have shown men have a tendency to think women are more interested than they really are - maybe evolution have shaped men to be blindfully optimistic, which has served to our advantage. But at certain times it's good to be aware that maybe she's just not that into you. The fact she "stared" at OP probably is a misread indicator of interest.

Mr Variety
 
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