Re: FR/FU: A powerful epiphany, desire to succeed, and no more excuses.
Locking this thread.
Altair,
How you choose to proceed is entirely up to you.
As for a full explanation of what's going on here, you're attempting to finally make these changes after being on these boards for over a year. That's fantastic, and writing Field Reports is what we've always wanted you to begin doing. However, for some of the members here, it feels almost "too little, too late" in the sense that they aren't really willing to help you until they don't see an ounce of poisonous mindsets in your post. We've seen it for the entire year you've been here, and most of the members are so tired of seeing it that it's hard for them to give you purely objective advice when they continue to see the negativity in your reports.
So, if you want to truly receive the help of the board members here, you need to make a Field Report that is completely objective and working toward improving your game. It can't contain material about "I saw this white guy doing great with this one blonde that gave me a dirty look" or "I saw this Indian guy get made fun of at the bar" or anything of that nature. None of that helps you, and none of that helps us -- and at this point, as is obvious, it only angers members who've been seeing it for so long.
If you can write a Field Report that contains nothing about your poisonous mindsets and instead focuses solely on your game, your approach, what was said by you and the girl, and how you can improve, then I think you will receive different (read: helpful) responses from the members here. If you don't think you can do that, then maybe this is not the place for you.
- Franco