Question on inviting multiple girls out with you

[ElderPrice]

I don’t have much time during the week to meet women. Friday and Saturday nights are my social nights. There’s several venues I go to that each include bumping into friends, dancing, and meeting new women.

I’ve met a lot of girls online lately, plus I’ve gotten some numbers from night time. Often the interactions naturally lead to ‘let’s go dancing sometime.’

I don’t like giving up my Friday or Saturday night opportunities to meet new women for a one on one dancing date with a girl that might even flake, so my question is this:

Is it smart or really dumb for me to just go out like I normally do, and just casually invite all these girls along? “Hey I’m going out dancing tonight. Come join.”

This isn’t instead of one on one dates, like coffee dates. In some ways I’d prefer that with each girl. This is just a thought to best make use of my time.

I get to go to my spots each weekend and have fun and meet new women, I don’t have to worry about flaking messing up my night, and if a girl tags along then I know she’s investing and I can always adjust and devote more time to her.

Thoughts?

 

[ulrich]

It depends on wether you want to maximize your number to sex ratio or your going-out to sex ratio.

If you want to fuck the most possible number of girls, follow up with each individually.

If you want to have the time of your life and end up in bed most of the times you go out (and don’t care losing some girls in the process), then invite them all for the same day.
And yeah, this can probably bring some pleasant surprises, I guess.

 

[MuST0BtA1NSkR1Lla]

I don’t have much time during the week to meet women. Friday and Saturday nights are my social nights. There’s several venues I go to that each include bumping into friends, dancing, and meeting new women.

I’ve met a lot of girls online lately, plus I’ve gotten some numbers from night time. Often the interactions naturally lead to ‘let’s go dancing sometime.’

I don’t like giving up my Friday or Saturday night opportunities to meet new women for a one on one dancing date with a girl that might even flake, so my question is this:

Is it smart or really dumb for me to just go out like I normally do, and just casually invite all these girls along? “Hey I’m going out dancing tonight. Come join.”

This isn’t instead of one on one dates, like coffee dates. In some ways I’d prefer that with each girl. This is just a thought to best make use of my time.

I get to go to my spots each weekend and have fun and meet new women, I don’t have to worry about flaking messing up my night, and if a girl tags along then I know she’s investing and I can always adjust and devote more time to her.

Thoughts?

It has worked very well for me, I have a super high flake ratio though. What I say is that I’ll meet at a certain spot to two different girls. Without saying what specific venue we are showing up too.

I don’t feel bad about it either I’d put my date numbers in 9/10 chicks will flake.

Now bringing both chicks at the same time I have no experience with. I remember Mystery Method had a procedure for dealing with it but I don’t think Grodmeister is around to explain it.

 

[Tr1cky]

I think the confusion many people in the community experience is due to engaging in activities that only the “hyper social” among us do because they read about it online and want a better dating life.

Approaching strangers, sleeping with a lot of women (or trying to) are things that only the top 1% of socially extroverted people do. In a way PUA’a are trying to fake being a top 1% social extrovert while; 1) not being one 2) never seeing one in action.

extremely socially extroverted people live for hanging out with others. They invite everyone and anyone to go along and do anything they’re doing. They find nothing weird about that. They will invite two chicks they’re banging to hang out at the same time AND NOT EVEN THINK THERES ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT.

they will invite out four chicks that they have slept with in the past to hang out with the current chick they are sleeping with. THEY DONT THINK THATS WEIRD. And because girls have weak frames and look to men to know how to feel, they don’t feel weird about it.

when you approach a stranger in a bar (if you’re good at it) she will think you are just an outgoing person. It would not be weird to invite her out to an event only to show up and have other people you invited to the same event. They will not get upset, they will not cuss you out, they will not team up on you and leave you. They will think you’re cool and want to win your attention. They will compete with the other women.

if you want to have the best chance of hooking up with a girl (assuming you can’t do the snl) you get her number, send a couple ping/value texts that she doesn’t have to respond to. Funny memes, quick insight or joke.

Then you invite her to shit you’re doing anyway. If she doesn’t show up, you don’t even notice. You’re having fun anyway. Post it on social media if you have a good one and she will get fomo. Keep sending her low key low pressure invites until she shows up or tells you to stop texting her.

do this with all the women in your pipeline. Invite them to the same place at the same time. Don’t not tell them where you’re going, that does you no favors. Tell them exactly where they can find you. Chances are most of them won’t show up anyway. Fine. You were going there anyway and you met 5 new women that night. It’s a win win. Do not live at the mercy of these bitches. Planning dates and shit. Fuck that. She doesn’t deserve that until you’ve banged atleast three times.

I remember when I first started hanging with a top 1% extrovert, we were at the club and he had me invite these two different girls that were friends with the chick I was with. I go, wait, what if they both show up? And he shrugs. I go okay, so the worst case scenario is they both show up so basically the worst case scenario is the best case scenario. We still laugh about that joke to this day years later. And yes both women showed up and it was indeed the best case scenario

 

[PalmaSailor]

I don’t have much time during the week to meet women. Friday and Saturday nights are my social nights. There’s several venues I go to that each include bumping into friends, dancing, and meeting new women.

I’ve met a lot of girls online lately, plus I’ve gotten some numbers from night time. Often the interactions naturally lead to ‘let’s go dancing sometime.’

I don’t like giving up my Friday or Saturday night opportunities to meet new women for a one on one dancing date with a girl that might even flake, so my question is this:

Is it smart or really dumb for me to just go out like I normally do, and just casually invite all these girls along? “Hey I’m going out dancing tonight. Come join.”

This isn’t instead of one on one dates, like coffee dates. In some ways I’d prefer that with each girl. This is just a thought to best make use of my time.

I get to go to my spots each weekend and have fun and meet new women, I don’t have to worry about flaking messing up my night, and if a girl tags along then I know she’s investing and I can always adjust and devote more time to her.

Thoughts?

In principle it’s a very good idea.

you’ll need experience to handle a group and it will be interesting.

do it and report back!

 

[ElderPrice]

Tried it this weekend. I texted the 10-15 leads I have "Dancing tonight at *venue*. Come join."

Almost all of them didn't respond. Two said they couldn't make it.

One I actually didn't text because a few days prior she was telling me how she had family coming to town and would be spending all weekend with them. She ended up finishing early with them and by chance decided to show up to this same venue, so that was a pleasant surprise.

*shrugs*

In any event, it seems like the general takeaway is that doing something like this is rational and shouldn't be a disaster. Thanks guys!

 

[ulrich]

@ElderPrice, I would add that the text invite you used could have been much better, it was easy to ignore and probably you could have gotten 3 or 4 of them to show up.

Nevertheless, your attitude and everything else seems on point to me so congratulations.

 

[ElderPrice]

@ElderPrice, I would add that the text invite you used could have been much better, it was easy to ignore and probably you could have gotten 3 or 4 of them to show up.

Nevertheless, your attitude and everything else seems on point to me so congratulations.

Thanks! What text would you have gone with? My rationale was that these girls were very lowly investing prior to my invite... so none of them were blowing up my phone, initiating conversations, texting good morning, anything like that. I think for all of them it had been days since I last texted with them. So I figured a simple, low investment approach was best. What do you think?

 

[ulrich]

I would have invested more, definitely. I know that it would have taken some effort and it is a little time consuming but hey, you gotta chase a little to have them chase.
I would have tried to strike a fun personal conversation before like:

"Hey, Jessica. How you been? Sorry for being out of reach... life has been craaaaazy. Whats up with you? Did you aced that job interview?" (something specific to her)

If she responds, strike normal conversation and then invite, if not throw a hail Mary:

"Anyway, a bunch of friends and I are going to hang out at Mc´Clubs tonight. You seem like you would like the place. Want to join?"

It is more work but it also has a higher probability of success. Only you know if it is worth your time.
Also, I would avoid using the word "dance" in the invite... even if she loves dancing, it feels like work and like she is commiting to a tiresome activity.... it will make it easier for her to say yes if she is not obligated to dance.

 

[ElderPrice]

I'll try it next time. I like how it asks her to respond and THEN give the invite. Rather than inviting her out of the blue as a reward for her silent treatment.

 

[D. Gately]

You should always plan on going out with multiple girls when you go out. For multiple reasons. Extroverts as noted above are all about 'the more the merrier,' whats the downside to drinking the night away with multiple hot chicks? Hell, I usually invite ~2 girls with me when I got to the strip club, works great on them[ and the strippers.] One time as as I was leaving with one of the models who met me there, she was all over me in the car and begged me to take her to a hotel all night. She was bi- and needless to say I did.

Almost every fun, hot girl will want to visit a strip club at some point if not go with you regularly.