FR Rejected by every girl in the club

[average_daygamer]

Well, I finat went to the club in my small approaching city (NOT the town where the incident occured from my previous field report). And I got rejected and a lot of blanks, ignoring, told to go away/f off, it was a chavy crowd. But I must be doing something wrong, because this can't be right.

Is it because they are too young and they as see me as older, I wonder. But I shouldn't be racking up blanket rejections like this.

Anyone down for some club game? I must be doing something wrong but there is nothing on nightgame on YouTube.

How does anyone get laid in these hellish establishments.

Luckily, I am gonna be heading out to the big bad city in a couple of weeks time. It's time for a reset. A HARD reset. London, is calling.

But then it's just street game, which means running after girls again.

This can't be all there is.

 

[lindsayrrr]

Were your fundamentals in check?

Was your opener in sync with the vibe of the venue?

Were you alone or with friends?

Were your rejections subtle or visible for all to see?

Were you feeling good and happy to be out?

Was your alcohol intake too much?

What's the age difference between you and the general crowd?

 

[average_daygamer]

Were your fundamentals in check?

Was your opener in sync with the vibe of the venue?

Were you alone or with friends?

Were your rejections subtle or visible for all to see?

Were you feeling good and happy to be out?

Was your alcohol intake too much?

What's the age difference between you and the general crowd?

1. No, I suffer from Asperger's

2. No, it was a chavy venue and I am middle class, atleast in mannerisms if not economically

3. Solo

4. Blowouts/visible

5. I don't like staying up late or alcohol, so no

6. I don't drink alcohol

7. The age difference is 15-20 years between me and the general crowd.

 

[lindsayrrr]

1. Fundamentals are covered in the book HTMGC and on the site.

2. I am middle class too and don't do too well. In higher class venue, so I'm not best person to ask on opening in classier venues. I would imagine it would require low key situational or direct high energy (venue dependant).
Go out and watch how the other guys open girls if you in a new place. Helps a lot.

3. Best way to learn and gain experience although a solid wingman can make it better.
It stands out tho if you getting rejected a lot. You become the "guy who hits on girls that no one likes". Take intervals between approaches if you get rejected alot.

4. Try to make the interactions fun so when a rejection happens it appears as if two people stopped talking and not a rejection.

5. You have to enjoy some part of it. Else if you in a bad mood it leaks into your vibe and approach and

 

[lindsayrrr]

6. Thats okay, being too drunk can mess up your approaches and turn off girls.

7. I'm no expert on approaching much younger girls though I would say be chill and calm about it.

 

[KJ Francis]

What sort of openers are you using?

I remember one you used in the past was walking up with your phone in hand and asking for their number?

Chase wrote a bit article for guys on the spectrum around the time and recommended using routines... A replicable process to follow.

I don't know much about aspergers (inability to read social cues?) But if you are a process based thinker you might want to read the Venusian Arts Handbook.

If you are getting all these blowouts you might be too high attainability (too easy) like you are coming in needy and wanting something from the girl. A value leech, so to speak.

I think the key there would be dialing back the early interest you are showing.

Have you tried just forgetting about trying to hit on girls and just start with socializing? Can you consider your first few sets as social warmups and just talk to people as if it were a work event or family party?

 

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

Well, I finat went to the club in my small approaching city (NOT the town where the incident occured from my previous field report). And I got rejected and a lot of blanks, ignoring, told to go away/f off, it was a chavy crowd. But I must be doing something wrong, because this can't be right.

Is it because they are too young and they as see me as older, I wonder. But I shouldn't be racking up blanket rejections like this.

Anyone down for some club game? I must be doing something wrong but there is nothing on nightgame on YouTube.

How does anyone get laid in these hellish establishments.

Luckily, I am gonna be heading out to the big bad city in a couple of weeks time. It's time for a reset. A HARD reset. London, is calling.

But then it's just street game, which means running after girls again.

This can't be all there is.

Tbh if ur going out alone my recommendation is to make friends with a couple cool dudes that want to meet women as well

If ur chill with them and create a positive interaction they should have no problem wingmaning you, and vice versa

Even if a group of girls are receptive it’s harder to isolate if you’re the only one talking to them, it requires a lot more investment on a girls part that she may not be ready for, even if she is interested in you

Plus with a couple of people behind you, you seem more sociable and cool(unless the people with you are antisocial or doofuses)