Relationship ended

[Maron]

Hello!

I am new to the forum and in dating in general.

Recently me and my ex GF break up.
I have read the article how to take your gf back and it has 3 reason.
I am in the most difficult one the second one, that we break up because he felt very bored. So the sexual tension is out of the window for the last months, and this is probably the real reason.

We feel very comfortable talking to each other, and she wants to still treat me with meals and asking questions about her personal staff and generally to see how am I doing. There is love, but without sex tension.

In order to bring back the relationship, should I decline all these requests and keep a distance between us, just in case something will happen in the future, or its ok to take these treats and maintain a closer relationship with her?

Let me know if you have experience in similar situations, it will be much helpful to me

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

I've read the article you talked about before. To me, your situation is a combination of reason 1 & 2. But mostly 2 (her feeling bored). I say 1 because even though she might be bored there's that element of "I couldn't have him" due to the fact that she's checking up on you & stuff.


First, you have to find out WHY that sexual tension left. If it's your fault (most times it is) there's plenty of articles on the site to make you a more exciting man.


Second, YOU ABSOLUTELY DO NOT want to keep a "closer" relationship. You guys break up and then you want things closer. Well that's chasing and certainly won't work.

Third, give her some space. Not in a rude way. Just enough for her to get the idea that things won't continue as usual. You can respond to SOME of her requests.


Fourth, personally preselection has been my favourite move when a girl is pulling away. There are many ways to do this on the site as well.

 

[Maron]

Thank you very much for your answer.
It really helped me to understand the situation better.

 

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