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Fluxcapacitor

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Dudes! I had this FB before the lockdown hit, we kept in touch for a couple of month an she was having a hard time with the lockdown, having depressive super moody moments.

She randomly went silent for a few days, when she came back she apologised for the late reply and said she was feeling very down lately, still very depressed I guess. We exchanged a couple of texts where she was sending massive texts and investing an then she went silent again. I guessed she was still feeling down and she’d get in touch when she was feeling better. After a week or so I totally forgot about her, earlier this week I seen a girl that reminded me of her, then remembered that I still haven’t heard from her.

I originally thought this was a giant mood swing where her texting has changed and even completely stopped like in this article under genuine distress
  • she's off somewhere you don't know where, sitting by herself, sulking. Correspondence-wise, she isn't the same as usual either; her text messages or phone conversations will be less lively, or may stop coming altogether

Discussing this with DarkKnight last night he thought this was a female state change and linked a great article

With 5 weeks radio silence she isn’t getting back in touch anytime soon, so I either continue to wait or try to revive it. Currently we still can’t really meet with the restrictions although there is a loophole I wouldn’t want to suggest until she's warm and receptive.

I was thinking of sending something like a typical message when they haven’t replied being cool, unfazed,, being warm and providing value/info. I think the timing of trying to revive this is key any ideas? Thanks Dudes!
 

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I was thinking of sending something like a typical message when they haven’t replied being cool, unfazed,, being warm and providing value/info. I think the timing of trying to revive this is key any ideas?
call her. "yo yo yo what's up, dork? :p"
 

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Ping her once every week/every second week until you are able to set up a date. Just offer value, and check if she's good under corona. When you get the chance to meet up, I would start moving the conversation towards a meet up. It won't make sense to push for anything when you don't have the chance to meet up. Just ping her, and keep the line open until you have the chance to do something about it.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

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Ping her once every week/every second week until you are able to set up a date. Just offer value, and check if she's good under corona. When you get the chance to meet up, I would start moving the conversation towards a meet up.
the phone call is an opportunity to warm her up for the follow-up invite to bang under the restrictions loophole. I'd rather attack it in one feel swoop then drag it out and have this mood swing come in and cockblock me again. who knows how she gonna feel a week from now ya know?
 

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the phone call is an opportunity to warm her up for the follow-up invite to bang under the restrictions loophole. I'd rather attack it in one feel swoop then drag it out and have this mood swing come in and cockblock me again. who knows how she gonna feel a week from now ya know?
I don't know their relationship, and the compliance level. Of course, if he has enough compliance to get her directly on the phone it could be worth it. I don't know the loophole, and if he will use it, but yeah. If he's able to use the loophole in the next couple days, then yes I would agree with the phone call (if he's sure that he has the required compliance). However, if he's isn't able to set it up before like 1-2 weeks, I wouldn't dare to call her already and work for the close - when you think about her mood swings. She's probably very likely to flake if he choose to arrange a date in the future.
 

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I don't know their relationship, and the compliance level
she's flux's fb. and the reason for her not being responsive is due to her being depressed. Nothing to do with her losing attraction for flux. So he has enough compliance for the phone call.
If he's able to use the loophole in the next couple days, then yes I would agree with the phone call
Currently we still can’t really meet with the restrictions although there is a loophole I wouldn’t want to suggest until she's warm and receptive.
ya he just wants her warm first before he arranges the meet.

I like the use of a phone call here because its a complete change of scenery from the usual texts from flux she's used to. and when she sees his caller ID, she's gonna be intrigued, what is it that flux has to say?
 

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@Velasco @DML thanks dudes! Ironically I'm unsure if I'd have the compliance depending on what mood she's in, i don't imagine anyone being depressed wanting a phone call. We've also never talked on the phone :') but I guess that's the intrigue!

I tried to keep the line open during lockdown but only managed to keep it open a couple of month. I imagine this is due to the depression "sorry for replying late I've just been feeling really down lately" seems congruent with other messages. "I'm having a hard time" "I'm not coping well" "I hate not knowing when this will end!"

I'd want to know she was warm and receptive before trying to use the loophole and I'd try to use it as soon as possible because I really don't know when the mood swing or depression will hit again or if it's even in my favour at the moment.

My thoughts are attraction has an expiration, and like velasco's post on- be nice to girls - our only memories are the dancefloor and sex, which definitely blew her mind but if she's had the pandemic blues of I want a husband I haven't been boyfriend potential enough :')
 

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We've also never talked on the phone :') but I guess that's the intrigue!
exactly :)
My thoughts are attraction has an expiration, and like velasco's post on- be nice to girls - our only memories are the dancefloor and sex, which definitely blew her mind but if she's had the pandemic blues of I want a husband I haven't been boyfriend potential enough :')
what I had in mind when I talked about boyfriend potential in that thread is: does she have memories of you doing sweet shit while doing what BlackDragon calls 'romantic behaviors'.

Here’s a list of things that are romantic but non-boyfriend behaviors, and are thus okay in a MLTR or similar relationship:

1. Going out to dinner and paying for it.
2. Cuddling, eye gazing, and other physical romantic contact.
3. Spending the night (as long you’re still only seeing her once a week).
4. Sincere compliments that have nothing to do with her appearance.
5. Getting her a card and/or a small, inexpensive gift for her birthday or Christmas.


For example: I was asleep with my fb, when I received a phone call from my mom, which required me to speak Spanish. so I answered the phone and started speaking Spanish (I have a really attractive Spanish accent haha. And she has no idea what I'm talking about. but just sees me smiling at her from time to time), while I cuddled with my fb (romantic behavior) and brushed her hair from the back. sweetie pie points ("he is so adorable" feeling) :)

but yeah, ANYWAYSSS...I'd try and set up that meet with this chick ASAP :)
 
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@Velasco @DML Thanks for your advice dudes! I made the call yesterday and it went well after a shit start. She didn't answer, text me a few minutes later to ask if I rang by accident and put no kisses on the message (she always puts 2), I was like ah she's still in a mood, then called her back a couple minutes later so she knew this was intentional. She answered and seemed very happy to hear from me.

She then told me she was furious at me for not replying to her. It turned out she replied and I didn't get the message, she sent a screen shot there and then so I totally believe her Haha. The phone call got playful and a little sexual, ironically when we text after she's still ignoring sexual topics so I don't get it.

I wasn't able to suggest the loophole, although she was very warm. She derailed me when she said she's using the loophole to see her best friend and she's been very strict on following the rules, in hindsight I should have used a playful guilt trip here, I guess it was a good bonding call to get the channel back open and I can use the guilt trip of leaving 10 supermodels on read and that I'll be stuck with my pet goldfish next time Haha.
 
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