Hi everyone,
I've been seeing this international girl since august (we both go to college in new york), and at first it was pretty rocky--I was chasing her, and she would give in sometimes, but she always seemed to have one foot out of the door. She is a very independent girl. As time progressed, we started sleeping together and she suggested dating. I took her up on the offer, but it never really felt like dating and the relationship quietly moved along. During this time she could be cold, many times treating me poorly, but not bad enough for me to leave her. One night before our college winter break, she publicly embarrassed me and I ended it the next day.
There was silence for about a week, and then after she approached me and made apologies and crying, I said we could be friends, and we ended up sleeping together (sex) right before we left for winter break. All winter break she would text me, make plans for what we would do when school started up again (which was in 2 months), etc very excited. She even bought me presents. Once we both got back, we immediately got together with lots of sex for a week. I had made it clear before that we were NOT dating or even exclusive.
Since coming back, she had/does seem less cold and more caring/patient, and is always suggesting things to do during the daytime (walking around, visiting museums, seeing movies), but recently she has started to be less interested in sex. Even though we do go out and do things (we are still not technically dating although we spend lots of time together), she has excuses/doesn't want to have sex nearly as much. She's likes having me sleep over, and hang out, but specifically not sex. This may be reading into it too much, but before we would have sex once or more a day. Now it might be a few times per week. Still, she brings up the question of our relationship status somewhat frequently, usually through indirect means.
Now, I haven't made any decisions about dating her yet. Frankly, based on the fact that she treated me poorly last year, I should move on. However, I am trying to understand whats going on here and would like some feedback if you guys are interested. What worries me is her loss of sex drive this early on.
What do you think?
student94
I've been seeing this international girl since august (we both go to college in new york), and at first it was pretty rocky--I was chasing her, and she would give in sometimes, but she always seemed to have one foot out of the door. She is a very independent girl. As time progressed, we started sleeping together and she suggested dating. I took her up on the offer, but it never really felt like dating and the relationship quietly moved along. During this time she could be cold, many times treating me poorly, but not bad enough for me to leave her. One night before our college winter break, she publicly embarrassed me and I ended it the next day.
There was silence for about a week, and then after she approached me and made apologies and crying, I said we could be friends, and we ended up sleeping together (sex) right before we left for winter break. All winter break she would text me, make plans for what we would do when school started up again (which was in 2 months), etc very excited. She even bought me presents. Once we both got back, we immediately got together with lots of sex for a week. I had made it clear before that we were NOT dating or even exclusive.
Since coming back, she had/does seem less cold and more caring/patient, and is always suggesting things to do during the daytime (walking around, visiting museums, seeing movies), but recently she has started to be less interested in sex. Even though we do go out and do things (we are still not technically dating although we spend lots of time together), she has excuses/doesn't want to have sex nearly as much. She's likes having me sleep over, and hang out, but specifically not sex. This may be reading into it too much, but before we would have sex once or more a day. Now it might be a few times per week. Still, she brings up the question of our relationship status somewhat frequently, usually through indirect means.
Now, I haven't made any decisions about dating her yet. Frankly, based on the fact that she treated me poorly last year, I should move on. However, I am trying to understand whats going on here and would like some feedback if you guys are interested. What worries me is her loss of sex drive this early on.
What do you think?
student94