Yes guys. I was very impatient with her. Actually contrary to what you said, alot of my texting was, atleast intentionally, to show empathy for her. I texted her good morning to not make her feel used, i text her how the mid terms are going. All to show her that there is no need to feel ashamed, it's all cool, i'm not a dickhead. Maybe alot of the texts were garbage, but i just tried bringing her joy in a stressful time. Also ya, the massage text was trash.
I was very impatient with her but honestly she has been unresponsive and aloof over text since we were together only dropping a text a day and idk it just messed with my brain like
@Skills says with girls who are weird interested, it's like, my dick was right on top of her pussy and didn't let it in and now i'm just desperate to get a second time where i can successfully put it in.
@Glow i sent the message you wrote about being sorry for being insensitive. I didn't ignore her resistance to sex, what do you mean? Do you mean as in my lack of empathy in my follow-ups? When i sent her the goodmorning text and she said "hi
" should i ask her how her sleep was? Idk
Honestly a sticking point i probably have is i put wayyyyyyyyyy too much mental energy into this sort of stuff. I never showed this girl lack of empathy except my texts were clumsy. I did an A-fucking-job when i was with her in person and very attentive to how she was feeling and showing plenty of empathy. I kissed her 2 seconds after she swallowed my load and cuddled with her for over half an hour and when she said how "What the hell even just happened and stuff" i told her how she did nothing wrong and it is perfectly natural to give into your desires and you shouldn't be ashamed for it and blah blah blah. It seems we are back to the 80/20 rule again. 20% of what i can control is giving me 80% of the mental stress. There is so little i can move over text with most of the job being done in person and here i am overthinking what text to send and why she isn't texting me back. Waste of my time. That time is better spent in other productive endeavours like generating more leads. Didn't know one text message could crash and burn the whole thing because i said she needed a relaxing massage hahaha. Jesus christ ok.
I went on a date Thursday with a girl and yesterday we were texting:
And i just hit her with "Yes, checks out. I do not want platonic friendship" and either A) she says "Haha okay
" and i can push forward or B) she ghosts or says "It was nice knowing you". Either way i win. It was so liberating to just let bullshit fall to the ground instead of catching it mid-air and trying to make something of it. Not trying to produce the perfect text message in response and do this and that re-frame and invest sooooo much energy in changing the mind of a girl saying she just wanna be friends and just letting that noise go to hell and focus on other women who aren't saying they wanna be friends. To just cut bait and run. It actually felt good, like a burden being lifted from your shoulders. You don't have to worry about that nope you can just chill and do other stuff.
I feel the same here. I shot off the message
@Glow wrote and then i'll just leave it at that. It's too tiresome jerking off the same, non-compliant girls instead of just starting over fresh.
