Gonna be completely honest here. I have weak fundamentals and struggling to FEEL the same level of desire and motivation in dating at the moment when cold approaching isn’t netting any dates as I’m pretty new to it and the apps produce mostly 5s and 6s, 7 and 8 I get sometimes but they are flaky and hard to get out. Not to mention these girls are so apathetic, high ego and bitchy sometimes
How do I get over the embarrassment and shame of this when I used to have a very pretty girl obsessed with me? And none of these girls I went on dates with have the mutual intense desire that I had with my ex on our first dates.
I do feel a self esteem hit thinking about how I had an 8 for 3 to 4 years and now I’m just regular / below average joe struggling for a year now when my ex easily left me / monkeybranched for a more conventionally attractive guy, even when she was chubbier in the end than when I first dated her. The only thing I have to show so far is several bad dates with average to attractive girls and one short fun relationship with a cougar who was average looking but the sex and novelty was hot
Me and my ex were both common in terms of being short height, Asian, and facially at least average but it’s an extreme uphill struggle for me whereas for her it’s like a walk in the park to find the next dude.
it’s mostly just the looks thing. My ex was very uninspiring to me after a year in and honestly I wanted to leave her, but I stayed due to lack of options
I know I should not be comparing but I’m being completely honest as I’m kind of pissed about my situation, and hard not to identify with the losers effect at the moment. I feel like it will take another year of serious work for me to get to where I want and even then I’m not sure if I can get an 8 as a girlfriend once more. I wonder if any of you have been in a similar situation before.
How do I get over the embarrassment and shame of this when I used to have a very pretty girl obsessed with me? And none of these girls I went on dates with have the mutual intense desire that I had with my ex on our first dates.
I do feel a self esteem hit thinking about how I had an 8 for 3 to 4 years and now I’m just regular / below average joe struggling for a year now when my ex easily left me / monkeybranched for a more conventionally attractive guy, even when she was chubbier in the end than when I first dated her. The only thing I have to show so far is several bad dates with average to attractive girls and one short fun relationship with a cougar who was average looking but the sex and novelty was hot
Me and my ex were both common in terms of being short height, Asian, and facially at least average but it’s an extreme uphill struggle for me whereas for her it’s like a walk in the park to find the next dude.
it’s mostly just the looks thing. My ex was very uninspiring to me after a year in and honestly I wanted to leave her, but I stayed due to lack of options
I know I should not be comparing but I’m being completely honest as I’m kind of pissed about my situation, and hard not to identify with the losers effect at the moment. I feel like it will take another year of serious work for me to get to where I want and even then I’m not sure if I can get an 8 as a girlfriend once more. I wonder if any of you have been in a similar situation before.
