Sunshine Journal

[JT Sunshine]

Enjoyed my day today, although it still feels like someone has been scraping out my vocal cords with a cheese grater. For the first time this year it FINALLY felt like summer! Forecast looks great too. This means I should have about 5 solid months to work on my daygame skills before it gets frigid again.

Decided it was a good day to location scout, and instead of going to the trendy lake that I know is a honey hole, I picked a scenic walking/biking area near the college campus closest to my house. I am finding out that while it's been nice living in this quiet, nice, sleepy area of my city, I am going to need to venture out a bit more to find "target-rich locations" during the day... I walked around for about an hour and encountered 6 couples, lots of middle aged men walking/jogging, one very plump woman I gave a quick "hi" to, and honestly nothing more. Putting this location at the bottom of my list for now.

I have a couple ideas for better locations to try out - let's call them "waterfall park" and "downtown park". These will be my next scouting trips.

When arriving back at my house, I saw the neighbor girl was on her porch having a drink. I've talked to her before, but it's been a while. I have no sexual interest in her, but she is very nice and has quite a few cute female friends. Decided to wander over and say hi. We talked for quite a while, I found out the downtown farmer's market just opened (literal goldmine - I used to go there with my ex and the scenery was so good I wished I was single LOL) and I got an invite to a bonfire next weekend. Nice!

Maybe not all was lost today after all! Now if only I could shake this stupid cold...

 

[JT Sunshine]

Still alive! I’ve been working 12 hour days all week (including today) and just finally got over my cold. I did go out both nights this weekend.

I feel as though all this work and being sick has completely killed my momentum. I hate making excuses, but I feel like I’m back at square one again. Trying to take this weekend as a learning experience, and fuel to my fire.

Went out last night. Saw my ex earlier in the day and we had sex again, which was electric but totally killed my motivation to go out. I know I need to cut her off, but my willpower weakens around hot women. She’s still very into me and while I have no interest in being back in that relationship, I have a hard time saying no. Fml.

So much anxiety when I went out I don’t know why. I went to all three bars I typically go to - and didn’t approach anyone. I could say that saloon so was packed that it was too hard to even move, legacy was full of guys, and the dance club was playing shitty music that was hard to fake dance to. And while all that is true - I have no excuses as to why I didn’t just say HI to someone. For fucks sakes, I am just trying to get good at this…

I was so mad at myself come bar close I decided to walk around downtown for 20 minutes and just compliment women “hit and run” style. First one was a beautiful black girl in a sparkly pink dress. As I was walking past her I put my hand on her shoulder and said “you have the cutest dress I’ve seen all night”. Her eyes lit up and she said “omg thank you!” with a huge smile. I think I made her night, and honestly, her smile made mine. I did the same thing with two more girls and neither one even acknowledged me. Oh well.

Back out tonight. Was obliterated tired from 12 hours of working and a bonfire. I learned a LOT tonight, but very disappointed in my performance. Let the rambling commence…

Started at Saloon. For anyone who did night game back in 2010, this place is exactly what it used to be like. Lots of groups of 3-6 people, mostly mixed sets of girls/guys, with a few girls-only and lots of random guys. Everyone is dressed exactly the same, drinking white claws or high noons. I didn’t drink at the bar tonight, so I was very clear minded….

Decided this will be the only place in downtown I do “night game” from now on. Legacy bar has been god awful, and I’m figuring out I really don’t like loud dance clubs when solo and sober. I’m a conversationalist (when I’m not a mute) and I need an environment where I can TALK.

Anyways… I learned tonight that for forever I have this terrible tendency of looking “past” people. Tonight I didn’t do that. I looked dead in everyone’s eyes. Made strong eye contact with at least 50 attractive women. I am not intimidated by them. I think what intimidates me is the group dynamic. I’m slightly older than everyone, I am by myself, and not in the group. Or any group at all. I have to get good at opening groups. I have done this recently back when I was starting to hit my stride… so I know I can do it.

Next realization. There are a LOT of guys there just standing around, looking around, drinking their beers, staring at their phones. When I go alone alone I think I’m *feeling* like I’m the only person in town who isn’t with a friend group. But that’s not true at all.

The question is - do I just fucking own it? I know from actually making approaches that I always will get asked “who are you here with?” I think I just need to be more comfortable and confident with the fact that I’m out solo because life is short, and I want to enjoy the party.

Also, I noticed there are a lot of guys at this place talking to GORGEOUS women who aren’t exactly lookers themselves… and I’m freakin handsome. Dressed well. In shape. WHAT am I doing not going for what I want?? It’s my analysis paralysis. I need to find a way to shut my brain off that isn’t alcohol… because that was my crutch in my early twenties. No more.

Bonfire was fun… I did get a phone number from a girl who was definitely into me but definitely not my type either. She was fun to talk to, but no physical attraction. I’ll try to penetrate that social circle and maybe it will lead me somewhere. It was nice to have some normal social interaction as I’ve been feeling very isolated lately.

Also cute sales girl was in again yesterday. We were both talking to others, but she looked over at me and waved with a smile. It’s only a matter of time until we get to talk, and I need to show interest right away. More on that when it happens.

Birthday girl keeps sending me selfies, initiating text conversations and apologizing for being so busy… but is always working when I suggest a meetup. Basically writing her off, but if the stars align, cool.

My goal for this upcoming week is to go do some real day game. I need to break out of this rut and take some action. Also might try some online… I’ve been avoiding that as I used to be VERY well known in my area and still am, but it might be useful to just crank out messages to all the matches I get and go for as many phone numbers/dates as possible to build up the experience. Maybe more on that if I do it.

This weekend was a disappointment but not a failure. I’ll get this.

 

[Casanova Newhouse]

Enjoying your reports JT ... I feel like we're on the same wavelength.

Since limerance girl broke up with me, I've been through three cycles with the ex-ex. We've got more than a decade-and-a-half of history and it's comforting for both of us. A couple times I loved it so much I thought there was maybe a chance we could get it right this time (ours was the most passionate relationship I've ever had, she might well be the love of my life) but then she'll pick a fight over something stupid and we'll go radio silent for weeks.

Doesn't seem like you've having the same situation with your ex - that intoxicating, and toxic, push-pull. So what if you scratch each other's itches now and again?

Re bonfire girl: Enjoying getting to know girls that you aren't wanting to bang is important. It's about establishing human connection. The world is a cold place, a little human warmth makes it tolerable for both of you. It doesn't always have to be about the ill na-na.

 

[JT Sunshine]

Enjoying your reports JT ... I feel like we're on the same wavelength.

I totally agree! Can’t wait to see where we both are in a few months

Since limerance girl broke up with me, I've been through three cycles with the ex-ex. We've got more than a decade-and-a-half of history and it's comforting for both of us. A couple times I loved it so much I thought there was maybe a chance we could get it right this time (ours was the most passionate relationship I've ever had, she might well be the love of my life) but then she'll pick a fight over something stupid and we'll go radio silent for weeks.

Doesn't seem like you've having the same situation with your ex - that intoxicating, and toxic, push-pull. So what if you scratch each other's itches now and again?

We too had quite our share of stupid fighting back in the day, but strangely enough there has been none recently.

Breaking up was a weird situation for me because while she ticks all of the boxes for me in terms of looks, personality, and sexually, we just… weren’t interested in hardly any of the same things. I feel we were a perfect match for each other in most aspects, except I love hiking, fishing, working out, any excuse to be outdoors and active. She hates bugs, being too hot or too cold, and walking… she much prefers to sit, watch movies on the couch with the blinds closed and the AC blasting. No clue how she kept her figure. I hung in there cause honestly she was WAY too hot for me, and we truly cared for each other, but towards the end I found myself wanting to always cut our time short so I could go breathe some outdoor air and enjoy the things I love.

But you’re spot on, I shouldn’t feel bad about the occasional sexy rendezvous. We both have needs and know each other very well in that aspect.

Re bonfire girl: Enjoying getting to know girls that you aren't wanting to bang is important. It's about establishing human connection. The world is a cold place, a little human warmth makes it tolerable for both of you. It doesn't always have to be about the ill na-na.

You couldn’t be more right! I’ve found myself growing slightly more isolated as I’ve gotten older and it’s a great reminder that making nice friendly connections is just good for the soul.

 

[JT Sunshine]

Celebrating the little victories today:

Finally got an hour break from these nasty 12 hour workdays and decided to take a walk around the neighborhood.

Kinda cute blonde girl around my age walking towards me from about a block away. In my mind I know I’m gonna be kicking myself if I don’t approach. Can’t think of a damn thing to say so I just smile and say “hi”. She smiles and says hi back. I turned towards her and stopped walking, held eye contact. She stops walking too. I just start talking about the new trees being planted, and we actually had a very nice conversation for a bit.

Doesn’t seem like much, but I’ve been on a cold streak this month, getting in my head too much, and I *think* this is the first time I’ve been able to stop a girl who was walking past me!! Big sticking point and now I know it’s possible!!

I actually have a couple days off work now and am going to keep trying this approach.

Side note - going to a large event this Saturday and heard through the grapevine cute sales girl will be working there. Should be a great opportunity to finally talk to her one on one instead of flirting from a distance. Also there will be a good 2000 or so people in attendance, so ample opportunity to work on my day-game skills.

It’s good to be back and feeling like myself again!

 

[Casanova Newhouse]

I love big public events. There's an anonymity in crowds. It seems ironic, but you feel free to be more bold and less constrained than within your typically social circle. Good luck!

 

[JT Sunshine]

I love big public events. There's an anonymity in crowds. It seems ironic, but you feel free to be more bold and less constrained than within your typically social circle. Good luck!

I couldn’t agree more. I plan to find every art, music and food truck festival around this summer and make conversation with as many people as I can. I’m coming off a very fun day today and I’m hoping tomorrow is a turning point in my introverted-ness as of late!

 

[JT Sunshine]

Today was a great day. I woke up rested, feeling good, no work and gorgeous sunshine. No excuses, time to go explore the world in the hopes of meeting some cute women.

I could have done much better or much worse, but I learned a ton, had a blast, and worked on my tan in the process.

Started my day with a trip to the gym. I’ve been slacking in that area lately as I’m pretty sure I had the flu and felt like total doggy doo doo. I’m not able to lift as much as I was late April, but fuck it felt good to put in a great workout. Smiled and said bye to the cute desk girl when I walked out. Cooked some chicken and broccoli for lunch and decided to spend the afternoon scouting a couple daytime locations that I remembered being full of women back in the day.

First stop, the lake! There’s a 4 mile walking path around it, and I walked the whole thing. I have mixed feelings about this spot, but it will remain on my list. Lots of people out, including some women and a couple real stunners! However, most of them were with a man, a group of friends, or most commonly - sunglasses and headphones/on the phone. Maybe it’s a generation thing with gen z to wear earbuds everywhere, but I don’t think I saw more than two women without some type of headphones on.

I gave one cute blonde a big smile and said “hi”, to which she kinda looked at me weird, then said “hi” back with a bit of a smile, but never broke stride. I imagine she didn’t actually hear me with her earbuds in, thought “what did he say? Oh, probably hi”.

Discovered there are three beaches on this lake, and a big grassy area where some people were tanning. These aren’t like your ocean beaches where you can walk forever - these are very small, with women laying down tanning. Does anyone have any experience approaching at tiny little beaches? They were full of hot women but all were laying down tanning. No volleyball/party type vibe like you find out in Florida or California. Maybe I just lay out there myself and wait for someone to kick sand on me then bust their lady-balls for it? or walk back and forth between the lake and my towel and if I make eye contact say “your towel is super cool/colorful/ugly?

There’s a little area with a cafe towards the end of the walking path. There was a woman standing looking at the menu. A little older than me but very pretty. I pulled up next to her to “look at the menu” until I caught her gaze, then said “hi” with a big smile. She said hi back, but for the love of god I could not think of anything else to say. She walked off. Damn!

I saw another girl standing by the counter. Mid 20s, shorter red hair and cute glasses. Kind of a hippie looking girl. I walked up to her and said “Hi, do you think I’m safe to put my winter gear away?” with a smirk (it’s hot as hell out). She laughed and said “yes, I still need to do that. Now I have fun plans for my Friday night!” we talked for a couple minutes about our love for tacos, exchanged names, and she seemed VERY excited to be conversing with a sexy stranger like me. All of a sudden her FRIEND pops up and drags her away. She turns back and says “it was really nice talking to you!” I should have gone for the number… but from our conversation I know she goes there a lot and it’s quite possible I’ll bump into her again. Very happy with how it went regardless!

Laid out on one of the beaches for a little while and just soaked up the sun. It felt great, but I wasn’t done yet.

Drove over to another park I know across the river from the city center with a shopping district around it. I lived there back in 2014 and it was always jumpin with people! Today… not so much. It was actually kind of comical, when I saw a girl on my side of the street by the time I got closer to her she crossed the street. If I saw one across the street, I would cross then she would cross back to my side. What are the odds

Got back home feeling good but wishing I did more. Proud of myself for getting out in the day and opening my mouth, but lots of missed opportunities. Fuel to the fire. As I’m standing in my porch I see a STUNNING brunette in a gorgeous dress standing at the end of my block, texting. There was an open house there earlier so I assume maybe she was checking it out.

I knew this was my shot at ending today on a high note, so I walked right down the street to her without hesitation, and said “they did a nice job with this house, eh?” found out she was the realtor. We talked about houses, the neighborhood, my job (it’s quite exciting), some more playful banter. We exchanged names. Fuck she was beautiful.

A couple of people walked up to see the house, and I basically took over for her job talking up the neighborhood, asking them questions about themselves - and she was just standing there kind of in awe. I used to work sales, and I’m good. When I bid her adieu, she stopped me and told me to take her contact info.

Idk if thats just a realtor thing or if she was into me (her eyes said the latter) but maybe I’ll text her in a week or two and ask if she sold the house yet. A million ways I could play it.

Tomorrow will be amazingly fun both day and night! I need to make bolder moves and go for what I want more, but I’m having a blast and feel I’m making small progress again.

 

[Casanova Newhouse]

Yes my friend, an excellent day all around! I am inspired for my forays tomorrow. I have very little free time, but I will make some approaches during my meetings and errands.

 

[JT Sunshine]

What a weekend it was!

The event was awesome. I somehow bumped into the recruiter for my dream job at my dream company and basically was told to start working on my application and when to submit it, then to reach out to them directly. Not that this relates too much to things here, but if all goes as planned I will get to travel the country and get paid handsomely for it. One of the main reasons I got back into cold approach was so that when I do land this job (and I will), I’d have the skills to make sure my hotel bed was rarely empty.

So I am already at cloud nine by this point…

Talked to three different women throughout the course of the afternoon. Two were pleasant but seemed more interested in the event than talking to a strange man the other I had a better conversation with. She was in the national guard, has been traveling quite a bit, and is married. Not trying to be a home wrecker, so I ended it with a “nice to meet you”.

I ended up with a wicked sunburn. It still hurts like hell. Part of me wanted to curl up and die… but NO! I was going out come hell or high water. I figured I could use something along the lines of “rate my sunburn 1-10” as an opener, but I didn’t have to. My first approach ended up as a same-night lay.

You can read about it here: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/late-night-pull.29026/#post-176099

I now have definitive proof that this stuff works, everything I’ve been working towards has paid off, and if I keep pushing I can only get better.

Since I’m a statistics guy, I have been tracking every approach. This was my 54th approach that turned into a lay. In the spirit of improvement, my next goal is to get my next lay in less than 54 approaches. Should be doable, eh?

Should have some time Wednesday/Thursday to day game, as well as Saturday night. Hoping my success breeds some new found confidence.

JT

 

[Casanova Newhouse]

One lay per 54 approaches isn't too bad at all. How'd she rate your sunburn?

 

[JT Sunshine]

One lay per 54 approaches isn't too bad at all. How'd she rate your sunburn?

She rated it "pretty bad"

 

[JT Sunshine]

Crazy week for me. Long workdays, followed by an impromptu trip to see my grandpa this weekend. I am his spitting image, he is my hero, and we had an amazing time catching up. We flew along the skyline of the city he grew up in, he had an absolute blast, and I'm still on cloud nine. I aspire to be just like him when I'm in my 90s - he has a 64 year old girlfriend who is actually pretty damn cute, he STILL does all his own landscaping, and when we went out to eat dinner, the waitresses all knew him and were fawning over him. I hope to be half that cool if I make it to be that old. My other grandpa made it to his 90s as well, so I think I have a decent shot!

No real approaches throughout the week, but I've made a point to walk tall, make eye contact and say "hi" to every woman walking past me. Keeping my skills somewhat sharp. Back home today so I decided to go out tonight, despite being insanely tired.

Felt very rusty. Started out at saloon - again, chock full of beautiful women, all in groups. My goal this week is to come up with a solid game plan to approach groups, because I chickened out there tonight. Next weekend I need to come correct. This is where all the hotties are.

Went to Legacy and did two approaches. Both were "Hi... how's your night going?" Pretty lame, but both started conversations.

The first girl was Latina, maybe 25. Super cute face and a tight little body. Figured out pretty quick she was a stripper working at the strip club next door. She was definitely running her "stripper game" on me. I played along and we flirted for quite a bit, but she was going to work soon and I had no interest hanging out with her as a "customer".

As we were talking, I see a cute Asian girl next to me. Maybe 30? I open her over the shoulder, same thing with "Hi... how's your night going?" We get to talking, and I figure out she recently moved back here from another state. We talked about travel, our experiences moving and hating where we moved to, and all the while I made sure to give her some light touch. Not only was she receptive, she reciprocated. She was waiting for a drink, and I told her that "while I'm not always a gentleman, if the bartender comes to me first I will tell them to get yours". She ended up buying my drink, and we talked even more.

She told me she was there with friends, and about 15 minutes into our conversation I felt that she was wondering where they were. I said "introduce me to your friends" and she brought me over to their table. I hung out with her friends (who were all females and really cool) while she went to the bathroom, and when she came back and saw me laughing it up with her squad, she seemed to get even more into me. I told her a couple stories from my week while running my hand down her spine and resting it on the small of her back, and she was loving every minute of it.

All of a sudden, one of her friends tells her "we have to leave" in a panic. I'm not sure what happened, but I know any shot I had taking her home was off the table. I said "quick before you go - put your number in my phone so we can hang sometime" and held it out to her with the number pad open. She put her number in, and right after she started to walk away, she turned back and made eye contact with me. I went in to give her a hug, said "it was great meeting you", and we made eye contact again as she pulled away. I leaned in a bit and we kissed very briefly. I said "see you soon", and we parted ways.

Going to text her tomorrow and see where things go...

Happy weekend!
JT

 

[alexlaguma]

Crazy week for me. Long workdays, followed by an impromptu trip to see my grandpa this weekend. I am his spitting image, he is my hero, and we had an amazing time catching up. We flew along the skyline of the city he grew up in, he had an absolute blast, and I'm still on cloud nine. I aspire to be just like him when I'm in my 90s - he has a 64 year old girlfriend who is actually pretty damn cute, he STILL does all his own landscaping, and when we went out to eat dinner, the waitresses all knew him and were fawning over him. I hope to be half that cool if I make it to be that old. My other grandpa made it to his 90s as well, so I think I have a decent shot!

No real approaches throughout the week, but I've made a point to walk tall, make eye contact and say "hi" to every woman walking past me. Keeping my skills somewhat sharp. Back home today so I decided to go out tonight, despite being insanely tired.

Felt very rusty. Started out at saloon - again, chock full of beautiful women, all in groups. My goal this week is to come up with a solid game plan to approach groups, because I chickened out there tonight. Next weekend I need to come correct. This is where all the hotties are.

Went to Legacy and did two approaches. Both were "Hi... how's your night going?" Pretty lame, but both started conversations.

The first girl was Latina, maybe 25. Super cute face and a tight little body. Figured out pretty quick she was a stripper working at the strip club next door. She was definitely running her "stripper game" on me. I played along and we flirted for quite a bit, but she was going to work soon and I had no interest hanging out with her as a "customer".

As we were talking, I see a cute Asian girl next to me. Maybe 30? I open her over the shoulder, same thing with "Hi... how's your night going?" We get to talking, and I figure out she recently moved back here from another state. We talked about travel, our experiences moving and hating where we moved to, and all the while I made sure to give her some light touch. Not only was she receptive, she reciprocated. She was waiting for a drink, and I told her that "while I'm not always a gentleman, if the bartender comes to me first I will tell them to get yours". She ended up buying my drink, and we talked even more.

She told me she was there with friends, and about 15 minutes into our conversation I felt that she was wondering where they were. I said "introduce me to your friends" and she brought me over to their table. I hung out with her friends (who were all females and really cool) while she went to the bathroom, and when she came back and saw me laughing it up with her squad, she seemed to get even more into me. I told her a couple stories from my week while running my hand down her spine and resting it on the small of her back, and she was loving every minute of it.

All of a sudden, one of her friends tells her "we have to leave" in a panic. I'm not sure what happened, but I know any shot I had taking her home was off the table. I said "quick before you go - put your number in my phone so we can hang sometime" and held it out to her with the number pad open. She put her number in, and right after she started to walk away, she turned back and made eye contact with me. I went in to give her a hug, said "it was great meeting you", and we made eye contact again as she pulled away. I leaned in a bit and we kissed very briefly. I said "see you soon", and we parted ways.

Going to text her tomorrow and see where things go...

Happy weekend!
JT

Good stuff bro. I really admire your balls going and running night game on your own. It takes serious commitment.

Sounds like your 'indirect' openers work great in the bar / nightclub setting ... because people are open and expecting conversations. But in day game it can be a little harder, people (certainly in the UK) tend to have their guards up and might find it odd striking up a random conversation. My way of opening in day game is to give a compliment .. that way it is pretty clear that I'm not just starting some random conversation. There is something I like about them and that is why i am talking to them. Have you considered doing that?

By the way ... Chase has an awesome article about this (genuine compliment opener) once I started applying it my openers have really got a lot better. Previously I was just going for a generic direct opener, but using a genuine bespoke compliment seems to really work, girls love it.

 

[JT Sunshine]

Good stuff bro. I really admire your balls going and running night game on your own. It takes serious commitment.

Sounds like your 'indirect' openers work great in the bar / nightclub setting ... because people are open and expecting conversations. But in day game it can be a little harder, people (certainly in the UK) tend to have their guards up and might find it odd striking up a random conversation. My way of opening in day game is to give a compliment .. that way it is pretty clear that I'm not just starting some random conversation. There is something I like about them and that is why i am talking to them. Have you considered doing that?

By the way ... Chase has an awesome article about this (genuine compliment opener) once I started applying it my openers have really got a lot better. Previously I was just going for a generic direct opener, but using a genuine bespoke compliment seems to really work, girls love it.

Thank you! It was very nerve wracking at first but I’m definitely enjoying the freedom of it now. Just me and the night!

I absolutely love that idea, as I’ve been struggling a bit to gain traction in day game and I’d like to get much better at it. You’re spot on that I mostly go with the indirect/situational opener, which seems to work well at night. However women here seem to have their guard up a bit during the day too (heads down, earbuds in).

I will make it my goal for the next week to give 5 girls genuine compliments during the day and see how far I can take the interactions.

I’ll search for that article unless @Chase knows a quick link to it?

Thanks for the great idea @alexlaguma !

 

[alexlaguma]

Here you go brother.

The key I think is to make it genuine and bespoke to them. I complimented a girl on her earrings (which actually were really cool) and she fcking loved it. Play around with it and see how you get on!

How to Compliment a Girl Like You've Known Her for Years

In the article on causes and cures for a moody girlfriend, a reader asks about how to compliment a girl, saying: “Hi there Chase, Can you write an article about compliments to girls that [you] are interested in. Not just from that you approached cold but girls that you met through hobbies or...

www.girlschase.com

 

[JT Sunshine]

Here you go brother.

The key I think is to make it genuine and bespoke to them. I complimented a girl on her earrings (which actually were really cool) and she fcking loved it. Play around with it and see how you get on!

How to Compliment a Girl Like You've Known Her for Years

In the article on causes and cures for a moody girlfriend, a reader asks about how to compliment a girl, saying: “Hi there Chase, Can you write an article about compliments to girls that [you] are interested in. Not just from that you approached cold but girls that you met through hobbies or...

www.girlschase.com

Much appreciated my guy! I will definitely play around with it and try to find something unique about them/their look to make the compliment genuine and stand out.

I have a little more free time this week and will report back on my findings. Thanks again!

 

[JT Sunshine]

Busy week so far. Set up a new summer schedule that will have me working 4 long days with the hopes of three days off a week and still logging 40+ hours. Let’s see how I like it. Reclaimed my spot as a top earner within my organization for the month of May, and that feels good. Exhausted, but I can finally do a couple upgrades to the house and not fret about eating well/getting a nice haircut and the like. Let’s hope some extra days off give me more time to practice talking to cute chicks!

Anywho, no approaches since the weekend. I’ve been talking to the girl from my LR, but treading very carefully. She was messaging and calling me CONSTANTLY for a few days. I think she would have moved in with me right then and there had I asked definitely seems like she wants a LTR and that’s not something I want at all currently. I’ve been metering out the replies and she’s backed off a little. Sent me some nude photos and damn would I love to f*ck her again, but I need to set the firm premise that we can be good friends who have dynamite sex, but I am not looking for a serious relationship. I think I can make that work for a while.

Birthday girl is still a mystery to me. She was out of town part of last week, sending me selfies of her (presumably) drunk in a hot tub with a tiny little bathing suit on. Tells me I look handsome. She will ping me all the time then when I reply go quiet for hours. Gets very excited about the idea of hanging out but is always busy when I try to set up a time. I am putting in *minimal* effort at this point and not expecting anything, but I’m not sure what she wants out of our interactions? Wondering if she perhaps has a boyfriend of sorts and is keeping me on the back burner as an option… someone to flirt with but she doesn’t want to actually “cheat”. Not going to pursue anything, but if the stars align and we hang out, cool.

Going to ping the Asian girl this weekend and see what her and her friends are up to, and if it ends up being conveniently close to downtown maybe we can meet up. Seemed like she goes out a lot and maybe I can steal another kiss, or something more.

ANYWAYS

I have the next three days mostly off work (I’m working seven hours total - not too shabby). This will give me time for two solid sessions of going out in the day, and two going out at night. My goal is ten approaches total - five daygame and five nightgame. Calling it out here to hold myself accountable for doing it.

For my daytime approaches I am going to try the genuine, bespoke compliment approach suggested by @alexlaguma (that article was brilliant, btw).

For night, I am going to face my damn fear of approaching groups of hotties at the saloon bar tomorrow, then Saturday there is a new venue “grand opening” happening in a trendy part of town. Always enjoy a good scouting mission, and the place should be packed.

Hoping to have some wonderful stories - whether they be of great success or spectacular failure

 

[JT Sunshine]

Went out tonight, didn’t go as well as expected. It was pouring rain all day, and AA got the best of me.

Who knew that slow nights downtown = no parking. Not me! After spending a ton of time finding parking and walking in the rain to the saloon bar, I found out they were closing early and not letting anyone in. Bummer!

Went to legacy, and it was dead as I’ve ever seen it. A few guys smoking cigs, a couple of couples, and two girls dancing on the stripper pole (who were being ogled by the guys, and not that attractive). I left after about 10 mins.

The only place that seemed populated tonight was the hip hop dance club. I was dressed for a cowboy bar, and soaked from the rain, but fuck it, might as well try and make the best of my night!

I’ll say that I made two approaches. I did dance with a couple of girls on the dance floor, but we never spoke more than “hi” and it didn’t go anywhere other than me getting to feel some nice ass pressed up against me, and some flirty eye contact. No complaints, but can’t count em. It’s interesting how some girls feel warm and dry, and others feel cold and sweaty.

Had my first real harsh “rejection”. I approached a blonde girl with little pink shorts on, she looked me up and down, gave me a nasty look, said “fuck off” and walked away. I laughed it off, she must have been having a bad night.

Next girl I talked to was SUPER hot, short brunette with the whitest teeth I’d ever seen, a tight body, perky boobs and a great ass poking out of her tiny little shorts. She was very receptive to my open, we joked about her friend flirting with the bartender and had some good banter, but she ended up leaving with her friend shortly after.

That’s it. Wish I had more to report. It’s looking sunny tomorrow so I should have some time to go out in the day and night! Hopefully it will be better. Happy that I at least tried, but know I could have done much better. I need to be bold with my approaches and take more risks. I missed some great opportunities tonight.

Fuel to the fire!

 

[gameboy]

Wow, "fuck off" is pretty harsh indeed. Kudos for laughing it off and not being fazed! It's true, you never know what kind of day the girl was having.

Just curious, what did you open her with? Been ages since I did some night game.