superiority and inferiority dynamics

[foggy]

i am getting girls interested with talk of superiority and inferiority in social and sexual dynamics

and then im going and saying superiority and inferiority in the context of dominance and submission is really interesting!

really gets them thinking but i cannot explain it in a stimulating way yet as i have to take some time to explore what these concepts mean to me

anybody ever experimented with superiority and inferiority? in the context of dominance and submission?

did the ego come into it at all?

looking forward to hearing your opinions and experience

 

[HoofHearted]

What do you mean?

Dominance and submission are such rich topics. The dominant partner can assume a position of superiority, but it's certainly not a requirement.

Sometimes the desire of the submissive partner is to interact with the 'boss' or the 'teacher' so to speak. But there are a million ways to submit, and a million desires.

Some submissive partners want 'daddy' to take care of 'sweet little girl.' I would have a hard time labeling 'daddy' as superior to 'little' girl, though he certainly holds respect and authority (a nuance).

If I understand the question correctly, you're interacting with only a very narrow vein of dominance.

The best dominance works when it is calibrated to the submissive partner's desires, and not all submissive partners want to feel 'inferior.'

Find out what they want to feel is my advice. Feelings/desires are an ocean, and always swirling waters/changing, and that's part of the fun.

 

[foggy]

What do you mean?

what i mean is, my understandings of this nuance are a little baby eager to grow

when i think of inferiority and superiority, the only thing i have to work from is an example of air superiority:

a country controlling another country's identity. the planes fly above the airspace in a show of force, proudly showing off their flag. the minute the other country tries to exert its identity, it is immediately suppressed by the power of the air superiority. go ahead, try to express yourself. we'll force you to surrender, and it will be pleasurable for you

i am struggling now because i have limited perspective on the fresh dynamic i have stumbled across. right now i dont know

- the main language choices to use [there is a strong association with the word "peasantry" in my ideas of inferiority]
- how it gets used in the context of showing interest, during sex, and everything in between
- the potential upsides and downsides
- how to behave to enter this sexual dynamic with a girl [maybe she likes it, maybe is eager for a demonstration and wants to learn]

my ideas and understandings are swirling, and they are being shaped in this moment

 

[HoofHearted]

Well you've hit a gold mine.

Understanding dominance and submission on a deep level will benefit your life and your interactions with women, even in non-kink contexts.

But dominance does not mean 'superior.' In *consensual* dominance, dominance means someone who is given interpersonal power that usually belongs to someone else.

To start to unravel the mystery and gain the benefits of its understanding, you could ask yourself a question: "why would someone give away their personal power to someone else?" or "under what conditions would someone give someone else their personal power?"

The answers you find may be enlightening, and may inform actions that you take.

 

[foggy]

ok questions for you

- why would someone give away their personal superiority power to someone else?
- under what conditions should someone some give someone else their personal superiority power?

 

[HoofHearted]

I don't know.

 

[foggy]

I don't know.

alright. ill answer them and you can refine

1. why would someone give away their personal superiority power to someone else?

• you will feel validated by me
• its an self growth exercize of letting go into mediocrity
• it is a form of lesser expression

2. under what conditions should someone some give someone else their personal superiority power?

• when they are not scared of the new superiority
• when its clear it is warm inferiority, not cold inferiority
• you are refining yourself in unique moments of secondary status

 

[HoofHearted]

Since you've substituted the word 'superiority' in there, now I really have no clue.

But when it comes to submission, there are always natural desires, and the willingness to give up one's own power isn't always as blatant as you would think.

Consider the notion that most women I meet tell me they would just love to not have to make any decisions. It's too much pressure, it takes too much thinking, whatever. "You pick where we eat, or what we're doing, or what we will do today."

See the submission in that. They give you their power of choice, and you decide for them. They get emotional content/flavor/logistics handled for them, burden free of responsibility and any potential consequences (ie, food not good, activity boring). You get power, responisbility, all the glory if things are good, all the creativity to shape the day... and all the blame and disgust if things suck or break down.

I'll leave it at that. Enjoy your new thing to think about.

 

[foggy]

thanks! as i fill in my wide gaps from the inside out, i will continue to look at your information!

 

[foggy]

update with more appropriate language choices...from Hoof's pastings

1. why would someone give away their personal superiority power to someone else?

• its a self growth choice of being present in empty inadequacy
• it is a form of fun, safe expression everyone must experience to understand the richness of human experiences

other thoughts for later - worship

 

[DonGately]

There's tons of stuff to read about D/s relationships. My experience is that about 80% of hot girls are submissive and 15% very happy to try it with a guy they like - anything from wearing a collar, to kneeling at your feet, to doing whatever you ask sexually.

 

[foggy]

There's tons of stuff to read about D/s relationships. My experience is that about 80% of hot girls are submissive and 15% very happy to try it with a guy they like - anything from wearing a collar, to kneeling at your feet, to doing whatever you ask sexually.

Hey Don, thanks for chiming in here with expertise of your realm

My interpretation of your comment: build my own definition of a superiority inferiority dynamic, present it to the girl, and explore her receptiveness for trying it out

It's an exciting thought. Generating intrigue with talk about the sup/inf dynamic. Then pulling to my place in order to show her a document describing the rules of the dynamic, and giving her a demo