Texting advice?

[Tugtugtug]

Getting to know her a bit over text before date? Or no?

 

[Will_V]

It's usually best to get her out on a date in the shortest reasonable time, as it's very hard to create/maintain rapport over the phone with someone you barely know. You can't sexualize, flirt, deep dive or do anything really to stimulate raw attraction over text, and since attraction expires quickly that makes it risky.

I usually go straight for setting up the date over text, with a little chit chat and joking mixed in as I do it but not letting anything distract. I even want her to get the impression that I don't consider the phone to be a good place to get to know her.

 

[Tugtugtug]

I get a reply after nice to have met, but nothing after that when I try to set up the date. Is it a value issue?

 

[Tugtugtug]

And thanks for your advice I’ll take it on board

 

[Skills]

Getting to know her a bit over text before date? Or no?

You need to follow some type of texting structure, the goal is to get her out for a meet or to get her out for a sexual encounter...

 

[Will_V]

I get a reply after nice to have met, but nothing after that when I try to set up the date. Is it a value issue?

Yes as @Skills said you need a guide. His texting tips are useful, and this article as well.

Basically the phone is just for logistics and moving toward the date.

I'll throw in an example of a texting sequence of mine from a little while back that might help, since it can be hard to know how to close the date from the get go without being uncalibrated:


Me: Hey HB, save my number

HB: Hey Will. Nice to see you

Me: Hey yeah was fun talking .. we should hang out sometime when the bus won't interrupt haha

Her: Yeah cool. I was nervous when the bus stopped

Me: Haha you didn't want the conversation with the handsome stranger to finish when are you free this week

Her: Well I have a plan this weekend with my friend. And on weekday, I get off late as you saw. Do you work nearby at that street?

Me: I have an office in the city where I often work evenings, its an eclectic writers lifestyle .. what do you say we grab a coffee tea sometime when you get off work

Her: Well if you'd like to, you gotta be patient. I'm really not good at speaking english.

Me: Haha you'll learn quick with me .. are u free tonight? Getting a haircut rn

Her: Sorry I got off now, and I couldn't check my phone while working
Her: How bout tomorrow

Me: Tomorrow sounds good, what time do u get off work

Her: Sorry but usually I gett off late on Friday. So how about Saturday lunch?

Me: sat works better for me too, I'm in the city around 11 so let's meet around midday, I know a good place

Her: Yeah beautiful. See you around

Me (on the day): Hey HB, meet me at the bottom of the mall, 12pm

Her: Cool see you then


You can see that it was almost entirely about setting up the date, and needed a bunch of replanning, but never needy or pushy and always assuming that she wanted to see me. It's not perfect from my end but that's what solid texting should look like imo.

To your point about value, if you have good text game (by which I mean it has worked successfully for you on many occasions) then ghosting is usually a question of lack of attraction during the approach which can be for a huge number of reasons, and can only really be diagnosed with a field report.

 

[foggy]

Getting to know her a bit over text before date? Or no?

it's one strategy you can employ, yes

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[Skills]

Yes as @Skills said you need a guide. His texting tips are useful, and this article as well.

Basically the phone is just for logistics and moving toward the date.

I'll throw in an example of a texting sequence of mine from a little while back that might help, since it can be hard to know how to close the date from the get go without being uncalibrated:


Me: Hey HB, save my number

HB: Hey Will. Nice to see you

Me: Hey yeah was fun talking .. we should hang out sometime when the bus won't interrupt haha

Her: Yeah cool. I was nervous when the bus stopped

Me: Haha you didn't want the conversation with the handsome stranger to finish when are you free this week

Her: Well I have a plan this weekend with my friend. And on weekday, I get off late as you saw. Do you work nearby at that street?

Me: I have an office in the city where I often work evenings, its an eclectic writers lifestyle .. what do you say we grab a coffee tea sometime when you get off work

Her: Well if you'd like to, you gotta be patient. I'm really not good at speaking english.

Me: Haha you'll learn quick with me .. are u free tonight? Getting a haircut rn

Her: Sorry I got off now, and I couldn't check my phone while working
Her: How bout tomorrow

Me: Tomorrow sounds good, what time do u get off work

Her: Sorry but usually I gett off late on Friday. So how about Saturday lunch?

Me: sat works better for me too, I'm in the city around 11 so let's meet around midday, I know a good place

Her: Yeah beautiful. See you around

Me (on the day): Hey HB, meet me at the bottom of the mall, 12pm

Her: Cool see you then


You can see that it was almost entirely about setting up the date, and needed a bunch of replanning, but never needy or pushy and always assuming that she wanted to see me. It's not perfect from my end but that's what solid texting should look like imo.

To your point about value, if you have good text game (by which I mean it has worked successfully for you on many occasions) then ghosting is usually a question of lack of attraction during the approach which can be for a huge number of reasons, and can only really be diagnosed with a field report.

Good used of the sequence will.... you get it! you have improved...