Texting Latina from bench in the centre

[politepilot]

Texting Report: Girl from Daygame








Context

• Met a girl during the day, approached direct and got her number.
• Initial vibe was solid — she seemed happy to hear from me when I texted later.

Timeline








First Text


Me: “Hey [Name], nice meeting you earlier ”


Her (hours later): “Hi [my name]. Nice to meet you too!”


→ Good compliance and positive opener.











Escalation Attempt


Me: “What are you up to tonight?”


Me: “Tbh it would have to be at your place bc my studio isn’t ready yet ”


Her: “? And why did you ask me all of a sudden?”


Me: “Bc I thought you were cute. I want to make a painting of you?”





→ Too fast. Went straight to logistics without comfort.











She probes more


Her: “Okay, but tell me more about you, I think I’m confused haha.”


Me: “I’m an artist.”


Me: “When are you free?”


Me: “Tonight?”


Her: “At night? How will you do the painting?”





→ She’s still engaging, but I looked needy by hammering “tonight.”











She offers availability


Her: “I think I have an hour free tomorrow, I could let you know. Do you have any photos of your paintings?”


Me: “I can just bring my supplies.”





→ Instead of rolling with her offer, I forced logistics again.











Art sharing

• Sent her one painting, then multiple IG screenshots (some semi-nude/female portraits).
  Her: “Just one?”
  Her: “Is it real? Can you send me a screenshot of your profile?”
  Her: “Are they girls you’ve seen on the street?”
  Me: “No.”

→ Now she’s suspicious. The art raised red flags because it looked like I paint random women I meet.














Outcome

• Positive initial response.
• Over-pushed for logistics right away.
• Repeated “Tonight?” made me look desperate.
• Shared art that triggered concern before I had built comfort.
• Momentum fizzled, she cooled off.

Lessons

1. Don’t rush logistics. Build more comfort before suggesting specifics.
2. Avoid spamming the same ask — comes across needy.
3. Lead with safe/friendly art. Save edgier/sexual stuff for later once trust is built.
4. When she’s confused, slow down and reframe instead of doubling down.

Next Steps

• Let this one cool off.
• Ping in a week with something light and art-related (no pressure).
• Focus on pacing — keep it playful and gradual instead of rushing.

I think she ahas a bf

 

[gameboy]

What's with all the white space between paragraphs? Makes me not wnat to read it.

 

[politepilot]

Ah okk
I tanked it on purpose due to her having a bf. She did not text me 2dY

 

[politepilot]

Using ChatGPT to help write posts neatly

 

[Skills]

When it comes to texting your structure was open follow by a hard close... What your schedule looks like? What are you up to tonight?

I call it neo direct texting.... As you can see not too effective..

What i recommend open, banter,at highh point of interaction soft close then hard close...

For day game i like to get the bf status sorted out pre getting number...

 

[StrayDog]

dude, first thing when you're texting a girl. read what she sent and ask yourself where she is at with the interaction based on that text, then respond to that.

don't just jump right to the close. especially just straight to a asking to go over to hers.... like before she even responded to your what are you up to tonight question (which was probably too soon for a soft close) you jump right into the hard close. beyond that a hard close to her place which you have gathered no logistics on.

furthermore she offered you ample opportunities to calibrate and turn things around and you just pressed the issue. again and again.

I tanked it on purpose due to her having a bf.

I highly doubt you tanked it on purpose. this looks more like a cope than anything

 

[StrayDog]

also, bait and switch "I want to paint you, but I am actually going to try and put the moves on you". Dude this is hardly game. Women see right through it and it looks super incongruent. Aside from you being pushy, this is why she keeps asking questions about your art. She doesn't trust your intentions.

 

[Skills]

i will give you a break down for future:

Me: “Hey [Name], nice meeting you earlier ”


Her (hours later): “Hi [my name]. Nice to meet you too!”

^ i don't like this style is too normie, but is not bad.... but i would not send the happy emoji, it subcommunicate too much eagerness, i like to send my name right then and there to get momentum going.... I usually start the text going in her presence at least minimally, and if i don't it in the present i do like a normal follow up of the interaction... but again not bad... Just try to get rid of the emoji.

for example i would open:

me: how is my favorite latina(for example replace latina for colombian if you know the latin country) from the bench in the center

her: oh hi

me: i am here working on some paintings for my upcoming art show, what are you up to besides thinking of me and smiling?

her: lol, you paint?? (see you bait her)

me: yes painting is my passion i have been doing it for 5 years, i love the freedom on how it allows you to express yourself.... next time we see each other i will show you some of my paintings, and maybe even paint you, so you can never forget me?? (soft close)

her: oh really, i would love that?

me: deal, how does thursday evening sound? (hard close)


The way you did it was creepy, and she was high interest, she does not have a boyfriend... This is a brief sample, usually she would ask to show you stuff, and you send her some pic and banter a bit, (if the convo. flows that way)... That way she is more comfortable...

the way you did it was creepy maxing... ( you still can recover though)...but change the way you are approaching it more chill, and strategic, vs creepy desperate sub... Smoothness also shows social intelligence which is attractive

 

[StrayDog]

i will give you a break down for future:



^ i don't like this style is too normie, but is not bad.... but i would not send the happy emoji, it subcommunicate too much eagerness, i like to send my name right then and there to get momentum going.... I usually start the text going in her presence at least minimally, and if i don't it in the present i do like a normal follow up of the interaction... but again not bad... Just try to get rid of the emoji.

for example i would open:

me: how is my favorite latina(for example replace latina for colombian if you know the latin country) from the bench in the center

her: oh hi

me: i am here working on some paintings for my upcoming art show, what are you up to besides thinking of me and smiling?

her: lol, you paint?? (see you bait her)

me: yes painting is my passion i have been doing it for 5 years, i love the freedom on how it allows you to express yourself.... next time we see each other i will show you some of my paintings, and maybe even paint you, so you can never forget me?? (soft close)

her: oh really, i would love that?

me: deal, how does thursday evening sound? (hard close)


The way you did it was creepy, and she was high interest, she does not have a boyfriend... This is a brief sample, usually she would ask to show you stuff, and you send her some pic and banter a bit, (if the convo. flows that way)... That way she is more comfortable...

the way you did it was creepy maxing... ( you still can recover though)...but change the way you are approaching it more chill, and strategic, vs creepy desperate sub... Smoothness also shows social intelligence which is attractive

yeah the difference with the way you use the painting thing here as opposed to OP is that you have set a subtext where there is a clear flirtatious undertone and the dialogue is about you and her getting together. you are clearly flirting, so the painting thing just becomes a date plan/plausible deniability.

the way OP does it there is no established man to women rapport. so he is just using painting thing to bait her into a meet up that has no clear subtext. for all she knows he is a killer who invites women over under the guise of painting them.

she has to get a clear sense of where then interaction will potentially be heading for her to feel comfortable meeting up.

"I'm going to paint you" has no clear direction unless he is just an artist looking for a model. in which case he would probably offer money for her service. but he didn't so whole thing is quite ambiguous.

and ambiguous intent+pushy= creepy

 

[average_daygamer]

Texting Report: Girl from Daygame








Context

• Met a girl during the day, approached direct and got her number.
• Initial vibe was solid — she seemed happy to hear from me when I texted later.

Timeline








First Text


Me: “Hey [Name], nice meeting you earlier ”


Her (hours later): “Hi [my name]. Nice to meet you too!”


→ Good compliance and positive opener.











Escalation Attempt


Me: “What are you up to tonight?”


Me: “Tbh it would have to be at your place bc my studio isn’t ready yet ”


Her: “? And why did you ask me all of a sudden?”


Me: “Bc I thought you were cute. I want to make a painting of you?”





→ Too fast. Went straight to logistics without comfort.











She probes more


Her: “Okay, but tell me more about you, I think I’m confused haha.”


Me: “I’m an artist.”


Me: “When are you free?”


Me: “Tonight?”


Her: “At night? How will you do the painting?”





→ She’s still engaging, but I looked needy by hammering “tonight.”











She offers availability


Her: “I think I have an hour free tomorrow, I could let you know. Do you have any photos of your paintings?”


Me: “I can just bring my supplies.”





→ Instead of rolling with her offer, I forced logistics again.











Art sharing

• Sent her one painting, then multiple IG screenshots (some semi-nude/female portraits).
  Her: “Just one?”
  Her: “Is it real? Can you send me a screenshot of your profile?”
  Her: “Are they girls you’ve seen on the street?”
  Me: “No.”

→ Now she’s suspicious. The art raised red flags because it looked like I paint random women I meet.














Outcome

• Positive initial response.
• Over-pushed for logistics right away.
• Repeated “Tonight?” made me look desperate.
• Shared art that triggered concern before I had built comfort.
• Momentum fizzled, she cooled off.

Lessons

1. Don’t rush logistics. Build more comfort before suggesting specifics.
2. Avoid spamming the same ask — comes across needy.
3. Lead with safe/friendly art. Save edgier/sexual stuff for later once trust is built.
4. When she’s confused, slow down and reframe instead of doubling down.

Next Steps

• Let this one cool off.
• Ping in a week with something light and art-related (no pressure).
• Focus on pacing — keep it playful and gradual instead of rushing.

I think she ahas a bf

This is fascinating. As someone who's last 3 phone numbers have flaked, your opening text isn't anything special.

I have sent similar texts to you and got silence in response. So when you have silence, you have nothing to work with which means you have to double text completely blind and can't adjust to the girl.

I normally leave a week between following up so as not to look too desperate. I am planning to send a 3rd and final follow up message later this week.

I do wonder what we are doing differently.

 

[StrayDog]

I normally leave a week between following up so as not to look too desperate. I am planning to send a 3rd and final follow up message later this week.

I used to wait any where between a three days and a week. but now a week is rare circumstances.


as long as stay at the top of her radar in a low effort non needy way you can double text if she is not responding.

the formula I use when she doesn't respond, which I learned from Skills, tominho, dreamer, top cat. is to send a simple ping.

First off, if she doesn't respond to your intro text, chances are way way low. So I always aim to do a solid number close in person with a clear sense of direction, ideally landed on at least some basic date ideas, some good rapport and momentum, solid man to woman vibes. I like to use skills number close where I tell her to hand me her phone so I can put my number in. Then I let her know I'm going to send my phone a text and I send my self a text that says "hey cutie Sarah!"

then an hour or so later I send her a reply that says something like "awww too sweet. making me blush with that. hope you weren't too distracted studying after our fun conversation"

something around those lines. basically pick up a conversational thread where we left it

"oh stop, you're gonna make me blush. bet that presentation was simple after that energizing convo we had"

this makes it easy for her to pick up the thread.

since you already sent a text from her phone (I am always sure to let her know I am doing this, when she has a heads up feels less sneaky and the "hey cutie" thing lands better once she sees it) the ice has already been broken.

any way that's an ideal number close but sometimes I just take her number and send an ice breaker from my phone.

if this is the case my ice breaker will usually just be "nice to meet! Stray Dog "

if the interaction was solid and there had been some clear momentum she will usually respond "nice meeting you too"

and then I will switch from the normie ice breaker to the more flirty style like skills said above

"how's my favorite blonde architect doing? hope you weren't too distracted at work after our spontaneous rendezvous"

90% of the time if she doesn't respond to ice breaker it's dead. but either way I will ping. which is what I will do at any point in the conversation that she goes silent. after the first text, or five texts in. whatever.

the amount of time between pings varies. can be as short as later that day, and as long as months later. on average it's a day or two.
but two days can honestly be long if there was at least some back and forth between you two.

the idea is that you are staying at the top of her mind in a non needy way. just a simple reminder she has gotten caught up in her life and forgot to respond.

the most mastic pings I use are

morning

evening





I also might use a ping like "didn't take you for the shy type"

or pretend like she had responded even though she didn't. like say I asked her schedule and she went silent I might say something like "that makes perfect sense, thanks for sharing"

there's a ton of variations but that's the basic idea.


aside from pings, the basic text formula I use is like this:

respond directly to her contribution, which acknowledged her engagement in the convo.

then up the ante slightly by sending a text that slightly escalates. this allows her the opportunity to invest more, and gives you a sense of where she is at.

you keep escalating like this until a soft close makes sense

here is a basic example

you: how's my favorite blonde architect? hope you weren't too distracted in class after our lively convo

her: haha only a little distracted

you: yeah me too. but only a little (responding directly to her contribution)

I'm about to hit the gym so I'm fit for our adventurous date (up the ante. note this isn't exactly a soft close yet, since you ideally had discussed going on a date when you approached her)

her: haha what gym do you go to?

you: oh nowhere special, just anytime fitness (responding directly to her contribution).
studying, training dogs (callback to initial convo), and thinking about me. what else do you have going on this week? (upping the ante, gathering logistics)


You can see how this method naturally moves you towards a soft close.

sometimes you have to focus on rapport a little more and such, but you are aiming to always move things forward with a clear sense of direction. the conversation is about you two, and each thing you contribute clearly points towards a date.

I use a lot of "us" "we" "our" sentences. Or even "are you going to do this for me" or "be sure to do this for me" sentences

for example

you: you're definitely going to have to teach me some of your painting methods. promise I'll give you credit when I make it big

her: haha that's a secret

you: understandable. suppose well just have to figure out some different secrets to share that aren't so personal. I know, here's a secret
you said you're fond of wine, right?

her: thanks for understanding. yeah wines great

you: well I actually know a secret for buying
the perfect bottle (soft close)


you get the idea.


honestly aside from wild card moments or moments when I can skip steps and such, I do not deviate from this formula. it works like a charm and there is not much sense in reinventing the wheel.


get a solid number close-ice breaker (ideally sent this to me from her phone)- keep the convo "us" "we" "our" "you and me" in nature-respond directly to her contribution then escalate/move things forward with a clear direction-banter until soft close-banter until hard close


if she goes silent ping. ping time frame is between later that day-a week. depends on circumstances. on average 1-2 days.

ping on holidays for leads that were yellow but dropped off

"happy new year "


again I didn't come up with this, I learned from the guys on this forum.

when it comes down to it, if she's interested, and you are non needy, she will respond to your pings. if she doesn't respond to a ping sent 1 day later no amount of waiting is going to make you look less needy. she wasn't going to respond no matter what.