The Ladykiller Chronicles

[Kvothe]

4 approaches today but elements of fear, shame, and inertia popped up. Along with non-approaching due to social impressions. Following gut instincts is still the main improvement to be made. Cutting out phone usage to better be present throughout the day also matters.

Not going to beat myself up over this. Also there is a balance between relaxed groundedness and expressivity. Ideally you are both, so I need to make sure to practice expressivity.

Self-kindness. Also the difference between urgency and panicked energy. One denotes moving forward decisively towards an end because of knowledge that our time is finite. The other is fear because of an opportunity that might vanish.

 

[Kvothe]

Had a date yesterday and the girl was amazing. I need to approach more because I have some rose colored glasses from scarcity and being touch starved. But still this girl is incredibly my type so we'll see where it goes. Did 2 date model just bc she wasn't free over the weekend and I had other plans after the date already.

She seems excited.

Minor notes-upon making a sexual tease, make sure to keep eye contact to amp tension, as opposed to shifting eye contact.
On a kiss that is not super well-received, don't go for it again-keep in control.

Was really pleasant to enjoy a girl's company who was super warm and sensual and just physically draped all over each other. Very excited to see her again because I want to see how fun she is while getting fucked really well. Need to attune my sexual self more because yesterday was definitely more emotional-toned. I also understand I don't have as much control now over whether we meet again, so I won't beat myself up, but will continue to approach and learn.

Humility, and gratitude.

 

[Kvothe]

A lot of socializing last weekend and improving. Hector says I'm talking more simply, which is good. Mood is up.

Been better at attuning to the girl's level of interest, and am improving at making interactions fun. Have to take a mini-break to finish something else.

Girl from above got deported so yet another reason to move faster.

 

[Científico]

• She's not attractive enough
• She's too attractive
• She looks too young
• I don't feel attractive enough to approach right now
• It's too crowded
• There are too many people watching
• There are too few people
• I feel so emotionally negative that I expect her to reject me so it doesn't make sense to approach

I have experienced all of these. The last one in particular. They are currently preventing me from reaching full potential re: cold approach.

Is there truly a way to overcome?

 

[Kvothe]

I have experienced all of these. The last one in particular. They are currently preventing me from reaching full potential re: cold approach.

Is there truly a way to overcome?

Approach anyway until you get over it? Meditate? Eat healthy, sleep well, workout, and get other things in life handled? Take time away, spend time with friends? Avoid weed, alcohol? Go out with wings? Have a good support system? Journal? Do something nice for other people and get your mind to focus on others?

I do a lot of things, some help-sometimes I feel just taking action is enough.