Marriage The Mistaken Beliefs that Ruined My Marriage

[Reformed_Gentleman]

The Mistaken Beliefs that Ruined My Marriage: Lessons from the Wreckage

Girls Chase's collective wisdom revealed to me the mistakes that cost me my 24-year marriage. It took me some time to process and understand the mindset completely, but once it sunk in, it led to a period of growth.

I would appreciate feedback on what I learned and now believe (read the link above). This mindset is new to me, so I may not fully grasp the details and nuance or even be missing key points.

That posting is part 3 of 5, but it's perhaps the most pertinent to this board's people.

 

[Skills]

Brah you were married 24 years... Most people in this board can retain a girl more than 24 hours... That is a success not failure...

 

[Reformed_Gentleman]

Brah you were married 24 years... Most people in this board can retain a girl more than 24 hours... That is a success not failure...

Thank you. I appreciate the broader perspective. If a successful lifelong marriage is a moonshot, I only got as far as a decaying earth's orbit before we incinerated on re-entry. If I build a sturdier rocket, next time, I will reach the moon.

 

[POB]

Take your time.
24 years is a lifetime together!
Give yourself space to heal and be reborn as a free man!
Also don't make the stupid mistake I see all my divorced friends do...to get a serious gf less than 6 months after the divorce (face palm).
Talk about being dumb and not seizing the opportunity for major growth.

 

[Skills]

I notice op is going into the self blame process (which is normal).... Op i read your blog, is all blue pill mix, with red pill, mix with pua all over the place to be honest, again normal post break up, but you are all over the place...

I would recommend you follow the break up post, and all the entries responses is a very detail post, recently karea and tyler rsd videos in the second post (trust me on this man):

Break Ups - Break up dynamics for secret society members (seducers, women, gays)

Most break up posts, blogs, videos are mainly accurate but from a normal person view, not from a secret society (specially seducer/player) perspective. What is the difference you may ask? A secret society member is able to access sexual partners fairly quick and usually do not get onitis...

www.skilledseducer.com

Best resources of dealing with neediness and onitis....

Ok, so @Karea Ricardus D. looking for this video, i finally found it.... But for everyone in general, Again the best book how down of dealing with neediness is Mark Manson Models...... Hands down! the best video is one of tyler best work in mho crawling out of neediness when first dating here...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[Reformed_Gentleman]

I notice op is going into the self blame process (which is normal).... Op i read your blog, is all blue pill mix, with red pill, mix with pua all over the place to be honest, again normal post break up, but you are all over the place...

I would recommend you follow the break up post, and all the entries responses is a very detail post, recently karea and tyler rsd videos in the second post (trust me on this man):

Break Ups - Break up dynamics for secret society members (seducers, women, gays)

Most break up posts, blogs, videos are mainly accurate but from a normal person view, not from a secret society (specially seducer/player) perspective. What is the difference you may ask? A secret society member is able to access sexual partners fairly quick and usually do not get onitis...

www.skilledseducer.com

Best resources of dealing with neediness and onitis....

Ok, so @Karea Ricardus D. looking for this video, i finally found it.... But for everyone in general, Again the best book how down of dealing with neediness is Mark Manson Models...... Hands down! the best video is one of tyler best work in mho crawling out of neediness when first dating here...

www.skilledseducer.com

Thank you for the time you put in to review my other writings. That's far above and beyond what I hoped for.

Yes, it is a mix of both, and for a reason. The series of articles you read was me taking the red pill. All the other writings were written in the blue zone. Perhaps I will revisit each of those posts with my new perspective and see if it comes out differently. My guess is yes. Wisdom is perspective, and mine just radically changed, so it will take a while for my brain to process all this in the background. I wholeheartedly agree with your assessment that I need to take time. Until I feel like my mind fully, deeply understands this, my mind will be at work, like a dog gnawing on a bone. Until that's done, been road tested, perhaps chasing really hot women and see if I can maintain my composure--I have to feel more certainty and direction than I do today.

Thank you for your attention and feedback.

 

[Reformed_Gentleman]

Take your time.
24 years is a lifetime together!
Give yourself space to heal and be reborn as a free man!
Also don't make the stupid mistake I see all my divorced friends do...to get a serious gf less than 6 months after the divorce (face palm).
Talk about being dumb and not seizing the opportunity for major growth.

I almost did that. I convinced myself that since my relationship with my ex was dead that I was ready to move on. I wasn't. Embarrassingly, it took a few less-than-masculine encounters with new women to wake me up to the fact that I needed to re-establish a personal identity and be single for a while.