Zac, you're onto some really true stuff here.
I posted
another thread recently where I talked about how I feel completely disconnected from game, and my results have been going downhill with women for years, because I focus on what I see is really there, the "reality state" as you say, and I can't fool myself into playing what feels like false games to me. I honestly feel like the society I live in (America) is so distracted and disillusioned, there is no hope for people.
Let me illustrate. I run into this issue with a lot of guys I meet and try to befriend, but I'll use one individual as an example.
This guy lives on my floor. I've run into him a few times, and he usually seems mopey/depressed. He's good looking, successful, even has a good group of friends, but he's single. Since I met him I've invited him to go out with me, go to bars, social events. He's always "too busy". Meanwhile, he sits at home, plays video games and watches porn (I know from conversing with him). I know basic human biology. I know how old this guy is, and why he's watching porn... He wants to fuck! Big surprise! But I don't think he'll admit it to himself. So he just keeps calling himself an "introvert" and declining my invitations step outside his comfort zone.
The question is,
How hard am I willing to work to make this guy see what he really needs to do to be happier? The answer is,
not very hard. I gave up trying to "educate" or "enlighten" people a long time ago, it's never worth it if they won't do it themselves. If he would just sober up, put the distractions down and be honest with himself for a day, he might find the motivation he claims he's lacking.
Now here's the kicker: It's the exact same conundrum I run into with women.
At some point in my interaction with a girl, I realize she wants to fuck me. I can detect that primal attraction. But, for any number of reasons, she will not admit it to herself. She will go through a laundry list of reasons in her mind why she can't do this thing she obviously wants to do... Her friend is in town, she has homework due, has to feed her dog. Now, the seductionist will skillfully find ways to subvert all these mental hang-ups. He will find a way to make sex happen in a way that feels so natural and organic to the girl, she will not even have to verbalize that she wanted it until after the fact. But I say,
Why do I need to do all the work for this girl? Why can't she come to the conclusion that she wants sex with me on her own?
I hate the BS of society that we live in. But damn if seduction doesn't feel like contributing to the problem. I want to empower people, men and women. I want people to wake the fuck up and start making decisions for themselves, I'm tired of doing it for them. That goes for women too. And I've felt that way for a while now.
P.S. I remember a while back, Chase wrote an article about why it's not worth it to try to empower women the way I'm describing. I'll have to go read it again.
