Hey all!
A huge part of my current situation is coming out of a 5 year relationship I thought would end up being "the one". There's been plenty of processing and such, and sadness strikes very rarely at this point, but there's several lingering effects. The one this post is for is how to present the situation to other girls. I just went through Chase's article on rebound sex, and I agree, but not sure the best way to communicate my breakup.
She is the one that left me, a lot of it was due to me not making money yet (she's doing quite well and I graduated college a week after the breakup), a good amount was me not wanting to stay in the city and her being pretty tied to the area (family, work), and there was a general fading of attraction (I got blah towards the end, in response to lessening affection from her, though passionate sex still happened every time we saw each other).
Maybe something along the lines of, "She just couldn't wait any longer for me to start making money and broke up a week before I got my degree." (In an ironically amused tone)
Maybe spice it with, "We were passionate up to the final day, but I had to move away from *blank city* to start my career and be near my family, and she was fixated on staying for her family and her career." (probably explain why I couldn't stay, because it honestly wasn't feasible)
I also have had a hard time being in long conversations without referencing "my ex", so any tips there would be helpful (beyond JUST DON'T DO IT). It feels like such a huge part of my experience comes from the relationship, it's hard to not include it. Is there a way to include it correctly, so as not to blow out new girls? (Sexual prizing?)
Thanks all!
A huge part of my current situation is coming out of a 5 year relationship I thought would end up being "the one". There's been plenty of processing and such, and sadness strikes very rarely at this point, but there's several lingering effects. The one this post is for is how to present the situation to other girls. I just went through Chase's article on rebound sex, and I agree, but not sure the best way to communicate my breakup.
She is the one that left me, a lot of it was due to me not making money yet (she's doing quite well and I graduated college a week after the breakup), a good amount was me not wanting to stay in the city and her being pretty tied to the area (family, work), and there was a general fading of attraction (I got blah towards the end, in response to lessening affection from her, though passionate sex still happened every time we saw each other).
Maybe something along the lines of, "She just couldn't wait any longer for me to start making money and broke up a week before I got my degree." (In an ironically amused tone)
Maybe spice it with, "We were passionate up to the final day, but I had to move away from *blank city* to start my career and be near my family, and she was fixated on staying for her family and her career." (probably explain why I couldn't stay, because it honestly wasn't feasible)
I also have had a hard time being in long conversations without referencing "my ex", so any tips there would be helpful (beyond JUST DON'T DO IT). It feels like such a huge part of my experience comes from the relationship, it's hard to not include it. Is there a way to include it correctly, so as not to blow out new girls? (Sexual prizing?)
Thanks all!
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