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Chiming in..I appreciate this input. One question I have is how would you recommend keeping track of personal or social improvement without observing what others are doing?
Would you recommend just setting a mental end date? So 2 different ways to handle it:
1.
Ask girl on a date: We were to meet at 6 PM. It is now 6:15 PM. She has not texted or called and when I try to call her, she does not respond. So I just get up and leave the venue. I never check my phone or social media to see what's happening. All I know is she flaked.
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2.
Ask girl on a date: We were to meet at 6 PM. It is now 6:15 PM. She has not texted or called and when I try to call her, she does not respond. I check her Whatsapp and see she is Online. So the phone is in her hands but she refuses to answer. So I give her the benefit of the doubt "She is probably on an emergency call".
I get up and leave the venue still. But I keep analyzing the situation to try to learn what is happening. So 2-6 hours pass. She goes online and offline. The next thing I know, she posts 2 pictures on her Instagram at 6:45 PM. I can now make proper mental to learn from this situation. I can chalk it up that this girl lacks basic respect because she had the phone on hand.
In this case you don’t observe social behaviour patterns, you observe metrics -
“10 dates scheduled, 8 girls flaked, hmm, why did this happen? what in my process can i tweak?”
improvement = 10 dates scheduled 6 girls flaked
and so on so forth…
Also in dealing with flakes/no shows:-
To check for flakes before you make an effort and leave your home for the venue, send her a “flake temperature check”
maybe 30mins before date text her “running five mins late”
if she responds she’s green, if not be cautious..
or text “meet you outside [the venue]. see you soon
if she’s late -
after 15 mins text “you alive?”
then grab yourself a drink or a meal and tuck in. start a convo with bar staff, amuse yourself and enjoy yourself. worst case scenario she doesn’t show, you had fun anyway.
Then delete her number, and go meet other women (tracking your metrics, experimenting and adjusting as you go).