Calls & Texts Trying to be careful...

[Anonymous]

Hello guys, since I found this site last week I haven't read everything, but I have read a LOT. Anywho, let me describe my situation.

I met a girl, she's a bartender, she works 8PM to 5AM at a club. So that's obstacle #1, graveyard shift lol. She seems to like me, said I'm easy to talk to and I'm not fake like most of the other guys she meets. I don't know if she was being serious or just trying to be nice.

I got her number, sent her a text that night, no answer.
Sent her a text the next day, no answer.
I CALLED her 3 days later, she answered, she said she was gonna be busy till December
I texted her the next day, said I hope you had a good night, she said "thank you I did, hope you did also,"

And that was the last I've heard from her. I've texted her 3 times since then, the last was thursday morning, no answer.

I'm trying not to overdo it, but it's hard because she lives an hour away. She won't go on a date till December, 2 weeks away, I'm trying to build a rapport with her over text while trying to keep it cool, relaxed, no pressure, law of least effort etc. She said she wants to get together in december, but I'm worried that she's gonna forget what it was like when we met and that magic is gonna wear off.

I'm not stupid, I know she's getting the texts, I just don't know what to do. Should I just ignore her till december and hope she doesn't come up with some lame excuse to not see me?

 

[Thedoctor]

Quiz,

Whenever you're playing a cat and mouse game via text, usually, it's for one of three reasons:

1) You failed to impress her enough (sexy vibes, fundamentals, flirting, conversation etc.)
2) You missed and escalation window
3) She's not interested

I'll usually just send one or two texts, maybe another one the following week if I really want to pursue it, but that's it. A lot of guys look for a magic texting formula, when in reality, if she's interested, it won't be too hard to schedule a date over text. Bartenders are usually a really hard nut to crack as well.

but I'm worried that she's gonna forget what it was like when we met and that magic is gonna wear off.

Unfortunately, it already has worn off, otherwise she'd be eager to see you again, busy or not. Your best bet is radio silence for a couple weeks. If you really want, send her another text in December asking her schedule and when she'd like to meet.

And I highly recommend this article:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... -text-back

Regards,
-Doc