Two dates, a frustrating 95% and one with good night kiss. Should I text or wait for them?

[razir110]

Hi all,

So really quick opinion please,

For context, rn I am in Colombia, Medellin.

Met this girl at the gym, asked her out, went out next day. The date was fine, I wouldn't say there was super chemistry, anyways we ended up in my place started making out and she decided to leave. Like a lot of LMR and eventually I also lost my drive to fuck her so she left. Then she texted like "I loved the date, I hope we can see each other again" a bit vague, this was 5 days ago. Honestly when this happens, if she is so into me we would have had sex right?.. So I am not sure if I even should text her or just let it go and if she is interested then she will text. What you think? She is 10y younger than me btw. (all well within socially accept age difference rules, don't worry )

2nd: Met the girl in a restaurant. Got her number, set the date. On the day of the date (2 days ago) she texts: "I don't go out with guys I met in a restaurant, how about a coffee instead?" I reply "Dates is how people meet each other right? Let's have some fun and meet at night" she accepted. I don't do these sexually dry coffee dates shit, f that.. So the date was actually nice, she is my age with a kid, and I just couldn't get her to come to mine, so we went to another place, a lot of physical touch, then ended up making out in her car when she left me at mine. I didn't kiss her too much, I stopped it and said there is more next time, enough for now. She didn't text anything. Same question, do I text, do I wait?

You see lads, I am in my late 30's and honestly I don't have time for this chasing people shit anymore, like if someone is into me, be it romantic or a friendship, then they will call. Am I being a grumpy old man and missing out?

 

[topcat]

Am I being a grumpy old man and missing out?

Yes

Then she texted like "I loved the date, I hope we can see each other again" a bit vague, this was 5 days ago.

That was your cue to text her maximum three days later for a second date.

Who knows why she resisted.. could be she was on her period or hadn't shaved. THAT HAPPENS.

these sexually dry coffee dates shit, f that..

Lol don't underestimate the coffee date, I've pulled alot of chicks home after cup warm green tea. YOU make it sexual, not the venue..

 

[TomInHo]

Hi all,

So really quick opinion please,

For context, rn I am in Colombia, Medellin.

Met this girl at the gym, asked her out, went out next day. The date was fine, I wouldn't say there was super chemistry, anyways we ended up in my place started making out and she decided to leave. Like a lot of LMR and eventually I also lost my drive to fuck her so she left. Then she texted like "I loved the date, I hope we can see each other again" a bit vague, this was 5 days ago.

She texted you after so regardless what happened it’s a good sign she wants to see you again

Honestly when this happens, if she is so into me we would have had sex right?

You’re being salty. Who knows why she didn’t want to fuck on the first date? Could be multiple reasons that have nothing to do with attraction

But you can see her again and find out. Very high chance sex would happen on the next date if you don’t fuck it up

.. So I am not sure if I even should text her or just let it go and if she is interested then she will text. What you think? She is 10y younger than me btw. (all well within socially accept age difference rules, don't worry )

Just text her and drop the ego

2nd: Met the girl in a restaurant. Got her number, set the date. On the day of the date (2 days ago) she texts: "I don't go out with guys I met in a restaurant, how about a coffee instead?

I would have said… “Sure no problem. Let’s do coffee and keep it more chill and lowkey”

Then would have gone on the coffee date and pulled anyways

I reply "Dates is how people meet each other right? Let's have some fun and meet at night" she accepted. I don't do these sexually dry coffee dates shit, f that.. So the date was actually nice, she is my age with a kid, and I just couldn't get her to come to mine, so we went to another place, a lot of physical touch, then ended up making out in her car when she left me at mine.

Wow. So you did the date at night, probably spent more money and still left empty handed… interesting

I didn't kiss her too much, I stopped it and said there is more next time, enough for now. She didn't text anything. Same question, do I text, do I wait?

Text her

You see lads, I am in my late 30's and honestly I don't have time for this chasing people shit anymore, like if someone is into me, be it romantic or a friendship, then they will call. Am I being a grumpy old man and missing out?

No one cares how old you are and what you want.

If you want to fuck more girls you have to accept they are the selectors in the mating game before sex

Doesn’t mean you should kiss ass but the men that are able to be flexible and put their ego aside are the ones that tend to get laid the most

 

[razir110]

So got a stop response form the 1st and I will let you know for the 2nd.

The good old wisdom of GC holds true, if it happnes it happens on date 1 or probably doesn't

And lads, don't do non romantic stuff with girls you are romantically into.. I have to disagree with the coffee dates, those are not dates, she is likely to have plans after etc. She wants a sexually dry environment, I i don't dig that

 

[topcat]

I have to disagree with the coffee dates, those are not dates, she is likely to have plans after etc. She wants a sexually dry environment, I i don't dig that

Lol disagree as you wish, my coffee dates never left me with blue balls

 

[TomInHo]

So got a stop response form the 1st and I will let you know for the 2nd.

First one waited way too long and 2nd is still up in the air but not good

The good old wisdom of GC holds true, if it happnes it happens on date 1 or probably doesn't

I don’t agree with that “wisdom” at all. But realized that was written for most guys that struggle to close in general and have bad follow up game

I used to have a hard time getting second dates if I didn’t close on the first. Gladly that problem is a distant memory

And lads, don't do non romantic stuff with girls you are romantically into.. I have to disagree with the coffee dates, those are not dates, she is likely to have plans after etc. She wants a sexually dry environment, I i don't dig that

Aye do you

Nothing wrong with night dates and I still do those but I’ve lost count on how many girls I’ve banged in the middle of the day with innocent dates like coffee or ice cream

And you are correct. Some of the coffee dates I banged had other plans with guys later that night. Hope those girls brushed their teeth before going tho

 

[razir110]

This forum has a lot of flex nowadays.. anyhow, thanks for the inputs

 

[TomInHo]

This forum has a lot of flex nowadays.. anyhow, thanks for the inputs

Not really. Trying to get you to realize being flexible can get more of what you want

But you don’t have to try new things. Can keep doing what has always worked for you no problems

 

[topcat]

This forum has a lot of flex nowadays..

A woman's gag reflex, yes