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For a long time in my life, I wondered why the hottest girls could be so mean and dismissive to guys who had the courage to approach them. Why were they falling in love with guys who cheated on them and treated them like dirt and treating those guys like kings? It made no sense to me whatsoever until I learned about the depth of the stalker problem.
Note that while average or “cute” girls share this trait, it is nowhere as pronounced, meaning they will allow more romance early on, won’t flake as much, etc.
On the other hand, top girls have to deal with the devastating effect they have on some men’s minds. I’m sure you’ve heard stories of gooey love declarations at awkward moments or desperate guys ambushing them with confessions of their feelings.
Truth is, the girls have learned to mistrust guys who are too much into them because they have learned from their mistakes earlier in life. Maybe they dated a guy in their late teens or early twenties that they weren’t that much into, because he wasn’t a great lover or was too insecure or jealous or another reason. She broke up with him, but he wouldn’t take it. In his mind, this girl was the girl of his dreams, the woman of his life. So he started stalking her and trying to prevent her from dating other girls and tried to get back with her. Usually it ends very badly.
Now what do you think happens when the hot girl identifies the same kind of behavior as the former stalker in a guy.
Don’t you think she would associate feelings of fear with him?
Don’t you think she would be turned off by him?
Don’t you think she wouldn’t want to sleep with him even if she found him attractive, because she was scared he would become too attached and maybe turn into another stalker?
This is a very serious issue for them. Some guys are really dangerous when they lose their mind over a lover, especially if she’s very hot.
So when she flakes on you because she’s unsure if you like her too much and you call her out on the flaking, she immediately puts you in the “potential stalker” category and she won’t answer the phone or your texts. It’s not because she’s vapid, superficial or mean. It’s because she’s taking precautions against a very real threat.
But when she meets a cool guy who doesn’t treat her special and puts her on a pedestal, she thinks “Finally a man I can relax with. Finally I can be myself.” With this guy, she doesn’t have to worry about sleeping with him because he doesn’t harass her with texts or asks her on a date all the time or professes his love to her immediately. She knows that if she just wants sex with him and then move on to another guy, he won’t be upset or angry at her. In fact, she wonders if he’ll even care at all, and she wonders if his other options are better than her. She loves the fact that he’s not jealous at all.
The key word is “safe”. She feels safe with him, while her many of suitors are left scratching their heads. These men are very rare for her to find, so when she finds one, she’ll try to keep him around. If he dates many women at once, she’ll try to make him commit to her and be exclusive to her, something she almost never did before with men.
That’s why, with very hot women, what you need to do above all else is to never appear “sold on them”. You express very composed interest at her body and personality, never showing any emotional reaction to her. Emotions are clunky and awkward. Never be upset or angry or overly excited. “Grace” is le mot du jour.
That’s how you avoid being classified as a potential stalker and show your value to a hot woman.
Note that while average or “cute” girls share this trait, it is nowhere as pronounced, meaning they will allow more romance early on, won’t flake as much, etc.
On the other hand, top girls have to deal with the devastating effect they have on some men’s minds. I’m sure you’ve heard stories of gooey love declarations at awkward moments or desperate guys ambushing them with confessions of their feelings.
Truth is, the girls have learned to mistrust guys who are too much into them because they have learned from their mistakes earlier in life. Maybe they dated a guy in their late teens or early twenties that they weren’t that much into, because he wasn’t a great lover or was too insecure or jealous or another reason. She broke up with him, but he wouldn’t take it. In his mind, this girl was the girl of his dreams, the woman of his life. So he started stalking her and trying to prevent her from dating other girls and tried to get back with her. Usually it ends very badly.
Now what do you think happens when the hot girl identifies the same kind of behavior as the former stalker in a guy.
Don’t you think she would associate feelings of fear with him?
Don’t you think she would be turned off by him?
Don’t you think she wouldn’t want to sleep with him even if she found him attractive, because she was scared he would become too attached and maybe turn into another stalker?
This is a very serious issue for them. Some guys are really dangerous when they lose their mind over a lover, especially if she’s very hot.
So when she flakes on you because she’s unsure if you like her too much and you call her out on the flaking, she immediately puts you in the “potential stalker” category and she won’t answer the phone or your texts. It’s not because she’s vapid, superficial or mean. It’s because she’s taking precautions against a very real threat.
But when she meets a cool guy who doesn’t treat her special and puts her on a pedestal, she thinks “Finally a man I can relax with. Finally I can be myself.” With this guy, she doesn’t have to worry about sleeping with him because he doesn’t harass her with texts or asks her on a date all the time or professes his love to her immediately. She knows that if she just wants sex with him and then move on to another guy, he won’t be upset or angry at her. In fact, she wonders if he’ll even care at all, and she wonders if his other options are better than her. She loves the fact that he’s not jealous at all.
The key word is “safe”. She feels safe with him, while her many of suitors are left scratching their heads. These men are very rare for her to find, so when she finds one, she’ll try to keep him around. If he dates many women at once, she’ll try to make him commit to her and be exclusive to her, something she almost never did before with men.
That’s why, with very hot women, what you need to do above all else is to never appear “sold on them”. You express very composed interest at her body and personality, never showing any emotional reaction to her. Emotions are clunky and awkward. Never be upset or angry or overly excited. “Grace” is le mot du jour.
That’s how you avoid being classified as a potential stalker and show your value to a hot woman.
