Been seeing this girl for three months- past the purely fwb phase and slowly progressing towards a relationship (waiting for her to breach the topic though).
Here’s how its currently going down between us:
1. She comes over 1-2 days a week and always spends the night + the day after. Sometimes spends the second night over as well.
2. During this time, we fuck a bunch, go out and get into fun adventures like getting coffee, going on small day road trips, bars, exhibits, and other fun date style stuff
3. She knows Im seeing other girls too, but she also knows shes my favourite and that I’m really into her
4. She’s submissive, always brings things gifts/snacks over, and remembers what i like and dont like. She does shit for me like clean my room, fold my clothes just cause, etc
5. I tend to pay for about 75% of our stuff + adventures (just cause im quite generous with my money in general and I make much much more than her and like doing fun shit)
6. She almost always initiates texts, and with calls its even- ill call her, next call will be her, then back to me at random times, usually once every two days or so. We don’t really text much in between seeing each other though, about 4-10 lines of texts between us maybe, with her initiating most of the time and me letting the conversation die off. Its always just banter really nothing else
7. This one is a bit alarming but some massive investment on her side. On valentines day, she came over with flowers, cake, etc. I wrote her a poem myself. Last week she said she wanted to get my favorite part of the poem tattooed on her. (She has 7 other tattoos as well) So we went to the shop and she got the quote tattooed on her back, going down her spine with my nickname from her that she gave me, all in arabic. A bit impulsive but fuck it
8. She tells me things like how she always thinks about me all day, how “im her person,” etc. We havent said i miss you or i love you to each other ever
Now some things that throw me off, perhaps someone here can explain it???:
1. She never asks if I’m seeing anyone else, never seems to care if I’ve been with another girl. I go on trips once a month, and she never asks if I’ve been with another girl. Why? Don’t you think if she was really into me then she would care who I was with?
2. We don’t follow each other on social media. I casually told her once that i dont really care about it and she said the same. I always thought girls that were really into you would always be watching your stories on instagram and shit, or trying to figure out what you’re doing at any given moment, but it seems like she doesnt care to know. My experiences with past women show that they ALWAYS want to know if they’re really into you so something feels weird here
3. She hasnt tried to push for commitment even once after 3 months, or even hint at it?
4. Lately (just in the past week literally) ive initiated more calls and texts than her (she didnt initiate this past week, i dod). She picked up the call no later than second ring every time no matter what she was doing, and i was always the one to end the call first, but something still feels like she slightly distanced herself. Am i overthinking? because clearly her actions show full investment and plenty of devotion
Here’s how its currently going down between us:
1. She comes over 1-2 days a week and always spends the night + the day after. Sometimes spends the second night over as well.
2. During this time, we fuck a bunch, go out and get into fun adventures like getting coffee, going on small day road trips, bars, exhibits, and other fun date style stuff
3. She knows Im seeing other girls too, but she also knows shes my favourite and that I’m really into her
4. She’s submissive, always brings things gifts/snacks over, and remembers what i like and dont like. She does shit for me like clean my room, fold my clothes just cause, etc
5. I tend to pay for about 75% of our stuff + adventures (just cause im quite generous with my money in general and I make much much more than her and like doing fun shit)
6. She almost always initiates texts, and with calls its even- ill call her, next call will be her, then back to me at random times, usually once every two days or so. We don’t really text much in between seeing each other though, about 4-10 lines of texts between us maybe, with her initiating most of the time and me letting the conversation die off. Its always just banter really nothing else
7. This one is a bit alarming but some massive investment on her side. On valentines day, she came over with flowers, cake, etc. I wrote her a poem myself. Last week she said she wanted to get my favorite part of the poem tattooed on her. (She has 7 other tattoos as well) So we went to the shop and she got the quote tattooed on her back, going down her spine with my nickname from her that she gave me, all in arabic. A bit impulsive but fuck it
8. She tells me things like how she always thinks about me all day, how “im her person,” etc. We havent said i miss you or i love you to each other ever
Now some things that throw me off, perhaps someone here can explain it???:
1. She never asks if I’m seeing anyone else, never seems to care if I’ve been with another girl. I go on trips once a month, and she never asks if I’ve been with another girl. Why? Don’t you think if she was really into me then she would care who I was with?
2. We don’t follow each other on social media. I casually told her once that i dont really care about it and she said the same. I always thought girls that were really into you would always be watching your stories on instagram and shit, or trying to figure out what you’re doing at any given moment, but it seems like she doesnt care to know. My experiences with past women show that they ALWAYS want to know if they’re really into you so something feels weird here
3. She hasnt tried to push for commitment even once after 3 months, or even hint at it?
4. Lately (just in the past week literally) ive initiated more calls and texts than her (she didnt initiate this past week, i dod). She picked up the call no later than second ring every time no matter what she was doing, and i was always the one to end the call first, but something still feels like she slightly distanced herself. Am i overthinking? because clearly her actions show full investment and plenty of devotion