Yeah of course conversion rate matters, but it mainly matters if your results aren't good.
IOW what I meant was - the most important metric is overall lay count.
If a guy fucks 10 women a month I can almost guarantee you he is a very seductive individual. Provided he goes for women he actually likes and does not pay for sex.
Just as you wouldn't ask an entrepreneur : 'hey man, sure, you are a millionaire.. that's good..
but how much time do you spend working ???? Is your work to money ratio good ?'
He'd be like, ' how could it not be ? '.
My point being - the ratio is a means to an end. And as useful as one could find it, I think it is more dangerous than useful on a mental level.
Maybe it isn't the same for you man, but for me focusing too much on the meet to lay ratio looks like one of these things that are very good at.....
....reducing the number of your approaches, and as a consequence your lay count.
I remember hector saying that once you are a sexy guy , your problem is much likely not approaching enough.
Which I completely agree with.
If your fundamentals are good, talk to 4 women a day. Do just that for a month, and see where that takes ya. It is likely all you need.
As far as daygame/street game taking up to 2 hours a day (14 hours per week) I was counting the time spent walking - as you guessed.. not just the three minutes it takes to talk to a girl ; )
Night game to me is interesting - especially if you do it with friends - but I see quite a few downsides with it.
- Doing it solo isn't as fun.
- It depends a lot on the venue.
- It isn't always lifestyle friendly (i'd rather go on dates or see some friends at night than go bymyself gaming in a bar).
Of course, if you find the right spot, it can be great.
I remember discovering this great venue a month ago, where I got laid 3 times in a row. But then, I discovered that you always see the same people there.
So now, I have to go find a new venue etc... Whereas daygame is harder but you can rely on it.
I've never tried online game, mainly because I like to force myself to cold approach.
If you want my opinion, I find it difficult to believe online to be a reliable acquisition channel for hot girls - given that the barrier to entry is non existent.
Have you ditched day game or do you keep doing it ?
Firstly, I mostly do daygame now due to my circumstances. I mostly did nightgame for most of my 20’s, with some daygame here and there.
I don’t do online game anymore because it’s a bad ROI, which is why I think this discussion is relevant.
Most guys here just keep plugging away at online game or shitty seduction methods because they think it’s “easy”, when really they could be doing so many other things to better themselves in that time and they should be doing daygame, social circle or club game and do far better with the time spent.
With respect to Hector, I disagree.
You can be the most seductive guy around but you need several other things to actually seduce girls:
1. Time to meet them (in person) and seduce them
2. Some money - for your own place, car, logistics, cost of drinks, your fashion, clothing etc. and other expenses.
3. A job - providing the money above.
I know that when I have plenty of time to meet girls, like when I’m on holidays or when I had a job that I had plenty of downtime during the day, I had more girls than I knew what to do with, it was almost a part time job to spin so many plates.
But we’re not all dating coaches who can approach dozens of girls every day or who have plenty of downtime - which again is why this dicussion is so relevant.
For the people here that have jobs, we’re working 8-10+ hour days (working & not meeting any women), then after that, gym, exercise and hobbies.
Unless you’re meeting girls at your job (so dangerous), on your lunch break (doubtful) at the gym (I do but they’re mostly the same girls, like a social circle, so they’re not unique) or your hobbies (social circle - great place only if there are girls there), or going shopping/getting groceries (honestly not that many targets) there isn’t alot of time in a work week to go out gaming to approach 4 unique girls that turn me on per day.
But if you’ve met girls on the weekend (as I do) - you’re going on dates or fucking girls after all of that during the week after work/gym/exercise/hobbies and between meeting freiends and family anyway.
Most guys that I know who are dating girls that are, in my opinion, below their league, are because they work full time in great jobs and have the same downtime as me, but they’re game is just ok.
So they have less options because the little time they do have, they’re not getting alot of “leads” so to speak, in the time they have.
Again, this comes down to ROI for time spent and the point of this discussion.
This is why clubs are so busy on weekends - everyone is too busy to meet people during the week, even women.
This is why most normal people meet their partners at their jobs, in university or on holidays - it’s the only time most people have alot of downtime.
How are you approaching 4 girls per day that are attractive to you? I could get one or two in, on a good work day. 4 would be a stretch.
I’m guessing you’re university age and don’t work full time?
This is why this discussion is important - time. And you’ll learn how little you have of it as you get older and have a career and it’s something almost no dating coaches talk about and they almost completely disregard when I bring it up to them in person - because they spend all their time coaching & approaching.