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What do you do if your girlfriend gets fat?

Alpha13SC

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Hi,

I'm asking this question because I know this can be a difficult situation for both partners, for men because he wants that his partner to be as attractive as possible, and for her because she may be self conscious and aware of the phenomen much earlier than him.

How would you approach this topic to be a win-win? What if she doesn't improve?
Another question: How would you approach this if you would get injured and fat(because lack of sport, I don't see another plausible reason not to do it) as well?

Alpha13SC
 

trashKENNUT

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How would you approach this topic to be a win-win? What if she doesn't improve?
Another question: How would you approach this if you would get injured and fat(because lack of sport, I don't see another plausible reason not to do it) as well?

Men and Women don't compete on the same playing field. The secret is making sure that they think that they do.

anyway, aside from that life and business redpill.

There's two ways to approach it.

1)Chase method of screening and reminding. (I could not remember that post but it was something simple and not judgemental)

2)Get high value

If you see Messi's wife. If you see Sergio Ramos wife. If you see Cristiano Ronaldo girlfriend. I sincerely believe that we should strive to be number 2.

z@c+
 

West_Indian_Archie

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Hi,

I'm asking this question because I know this can be a difficult situation for both partners, for men because he wants that his partner to be as attractive as possible, and for her because she may be self conscious and aware of the phenomen much earlier than him.

How would you approach this topic to be a win-win? What if she doesn't improve?
Another question: How would you approach this if you would get injured and fat(because lack of sport, I don't see another plausible reason not to do it) as well?

Alpha13SC

A lot of this depends on where you are physically, socially, and how strong your game is.

The typical girl's chase veteran is 1) in shape, 2) has a social life, 3) has decent enough game to go bag a new 7 within a month. (if not the same night)

So if that describes your position - essentially a "catch" - to most women, you have a heart to heart conversation about her weight.

She's gonna get upset, defensive, etc. And after that part calms down, you (who is already in shape) give her additional attention during the weight loss process. Be her "accountability" buddy.

If that doesn't work, and her weight is really the crucial issue you say it is, you gotta start to withdraw from her and seek an exit.

Now it's not because she's fat. That's the tip of the iceberg.

It's because she won't take direction from you.

There are far more important things coming down the pike than weight gain when it comes to a long term relationship.

A woman in your life should be a bonus to you, not a burden. Ideally she helps you with your mission. But she can never hinder you.

A female that doesn't want to be on your program - you have to drop.

Please believe it when I tell you that dropping her for something like this won't be easy, AND she's gonna be in the gym extra hard to get her "revenge body". And she'll get a guy that's "better than you". And he'll benefit from her zeal for working out.

But you already banged her.

WIA
 

trashKENNUT

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She's gonna get upset, defensive, etc. And after that part calms down, you (who is already in shape) give her additional attention during the weight loss process. Be her "accountability" buddy.

Now that you mentioned it.

I do have a Spidey sense that it is just part of the female psyche to want you to be involved more in her life.

z@c+

TLDR: Females are Japanese Investigator Porn. They actually love to fail the mission. Don't read this. HAHAHAHAHAHA!
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Skills

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Hi,

I'm asking this question because I know this can be a difficult situation for both partners, for men because he wants that his partner to be as attractive as possible, and for her because she may be self conscious and aware of the phenomen much earlier than him.

How would you approach this topic to be a win-win? What if she doesn't improve?
Another question: How would you approach this if you would get injured and fat(because lack of sport, I don't see another plausible reason not to do it) as well?

Alpha13SC

If she is your girlfriend this should not be happening, and is on YOU, you need to let her know this is a boundary not to be crossed... She needs to follow your leadership and mirroring you... Are you in shape, are you eating healthy, are you obsessed with look maxing... Are you teaching her and coaching her on all that..... When you are dating a girl she should be improving in all aspects of life if she is your main, or girlfriend... If she is a side girl is irrelevant.... Follow this post: https://www.theskillsmethod.com/introduction-fixer-upper-game-create-hottie/
 

Rakehell

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Hi,

I'm asking this question because I know this can be a difficult situation for both partners, for men because he wants that his partner to be as attractive as possible, and for her because she may be self conscious and aware of the phenomen much earlier than him.

How would you approach this topic to be a win-win? What if she doesn't improve?
Another question: How would you approach this if you would get injured and fat(because lack of sport, I don't see another plausible reason not to do it) as well?

Alpha13SC
get a new one

its a win win because you get to be with someone you’re attracted to and she doesn’t have to feel insulted by your lack of attraction
 

Will_V

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This is something best brought up early in the relationship before it happens. You know those times (especially after sex) where you're lying there together and all these random questions and topics come up? I remember talking with a gf about this one time, I think she was asking me curious things like 'what do you like most in a girl?' 'what would make you break up?' etc etc. I told her I thought sexual attraction was important all through a relationship, and both people had to take care of themselves to go for a long time and turn the other person on, and if either one got fat and lazy they were letting the other person down and betraying their trust. I don't think I directly said I'd break up but it was implied. Of course she had to agree and the frame was set.

I also learned this from girls chase and used it, after you've just banged her silly, she's so high you can talk about anything in a light hearted way and she's way more trusting and secure, because you've just shown her how much she turns you on. It's the best time to set frames that she will easily accept and influence her behavior down the track.
 
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