Hey Drexel,
I'm a little bit late, but hopefully I can help you somehow. My biggest fear is just plain approaching girls.
You see, I've been able to apply many things that I learned here passively - when I happen to get a chance with a girl, I know more or less how to proceed. Being the shit on seducing woman is still one of my top 3-5 goals, but I'm so emotionally invested in two other big ass goals that I've been postponing the "getting better with woman thing" for a couple of years (I found GC way back in the time. I'm probably one of the earliest readers).
I've been able to do the very least minimum acceptable for a man, otherwise I'd still be a virgin at 21 if wasn't for you guys. (Still, I'm in a very long sex drought right now.)
I'm certain that this is because I'm not putting the effort, but I'm so focused on succeed at other things right now that I'd like to think that's OK for now. Actually, now that I'm writing this post, I realized that I probably been like this during these years, then thought "but I'm about to accomplish this goal, then I'll be free to go there and slay some pussy!" and I never quite accomplish those goals. Something always gets in the way and I have to postpone them for a couple of months.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm making excuses for myself, or if it isn't possible to focus on 3 big goals at a time... But getting out and trying to pick up some pussy really seems like too much work for me now. I read a post by Hector the other day where he describes how one "should" feel if he wants to master this: "you have to be obsessed, reading the forums all the time, seeing others have success and have this huge drive to succeed too." And I TOTALLY get it. Because that's exactly how I feel with particularly one of my goals. I'm like this with seduction too, but it's inconsistent.
So, there you have it; But given all of this, something that you said grabbed my attention like a pair of titties walking by a snowy day on a fairly populated city. I'll detail it down below while I mention an article Franco linked, please keep reading.
Franco said:
Along the lines of what Drexel is telling you guys, here are some articles that will help you greatly with this information if you haven't checked them out already:
- Franco
Out of these articles, the only one that I haven't read to this date was "When Women Want You To Say Hi." Chase goes to describe obvious signs to the experienced seducer that women want to be taken as lovers. I though you had to approach dozens of women before you started recognizing these patterns?
How did you manage to build all that expertise with such low amount of cold-approach? I mean, you have to start from somewhere before you can identify those, don't you? Chase makes it look like it's easy to find woman who'd be DTF on the streets. That would be awesome considering my situation! Anyways, moving on... having read this kind of article for quite a time now, I'd like to think that I know at least some of the signals to look for, and even when I'm ACTIVELY looking for them, I can't seem to find them. Case in point:
Couple of weeks ago, I was in an electronic music festival with a couple of buddies of mine. It wasn't packed, I could walk easily, but it was LOUD AS MOTHERFUCKER (naturally) and it wasn't dark by any means, so I could see the girls' expressions, body language, etc. I'm not huge by any means nor dress like a gay popstar, so I don't draw lot's of attention naturally, but I was told in the past by girls I consider high caliber that I'm good looking, so I thought it wouldn't be that hard to look for bitches signaling me to go talk to them.
It came to a point that after a long time wondering if these girls were even noticing me, I started thinking that it'd be actually easier to find out if I approached 200 of them and see how it goes (which didn't happen). Also, I don't recall a situation in my life where a girl came to talk to me or came VERY close to me in the hopes that I'd say something. I'm guessing that's because of poor fundamentals?
In the short, I'd be very thankful if you could elaborate a little bit more on how you, particularly, do this. That seems to be the trend here and we're all eager to hear this more in detail, probably with an early, not-smooth and fucked-up example in which you barely failed so we can relate better and understand the dynamics of it when going out with the specific purpose of looking for these signals when going out.
BD