What not to wear...

[Marty]

Hey folks, does anyone have a process for the following common situation? I see a cute girl and want to do a direct opener on daytime cold approach, because I find the polarizing effect useful and frankly can't be dealing with the tiptoeing around of indirect any more, but: it's tough to find something to compliment... She's on her way back from the gym, her clothes are a mess, her hair is more or less as Nature left it, etc. What on Earth am I supposed to say? "You have such nice eyes"? Of course, not being fools, we men know that underneath she's hot enough to flash-fry an eggplant, but honestly, what can you plausibly say? I've been missing lots of potential approaches due to this dilemma...

 

[Richard]

At times like this, you don't have to open directly with a compliment, and lately, I've been adding a lot of openings to my tool belt, not just complimenting. Instead, I've been using Ricardus's "Are you single" opening, indirect openings, playful openings, situational openings. Work on adding non-compliment openings to your repertoire.

 

[Marty]

Thanks Zphix, sound advice as always. I might go for indirect-direct... "Is this Times Sq? ... Actually, I just wanted to say hi. Oh, you have a really lovely smile!"

There's something about the directness of Ricardus's tone that I really love, I might book a consultation with him one day once I get a bit more practical experience. That said, I've never yet experimented with his "Are you single?" opener, for the simple reason that I am, shall we say, not single myself I think this one needs a rock-solid process behind it, so that you have a comeback regardless of the response. I think I might find Ricardus's slightly softer variant: "Are you married?" a little easier to work with, in the beginning at least!