No, nothing like that.
It was half out of consideration to the woman, half for myself.
For the woman's part... I had a girl I started up with when quite young who was 9 years my senior. I was 23; she was 32. Beautiful girl. I gave her, overall, I think, a wonderful relationship, but I also dragged her through a small hell. She wanted marriage and a family; I was always just totally honest with her about not being a one girl guy and how crazy I was about her but how I couldn't give up pickup because it was my project then, I'd just started learning it, it was something I needed to learn, and leaving it now would destroy me and so on. So she stuck with me, but it was clear her thought was, "Well, sooner or later, he'll get serious."
After a few years, she gave up on me, but I'm me, and I was young, so I kept sucking her back in. She was this mess of being totally in love with me but also hating my guts. Both, IMO, pretty justified. Eventually after I knocked her up and she miscarried I realized I couldn't keep doing it to her, as crazy about her as I was. She called me a jerk in her journal (which I found and read... lol), but she didn't want me to go.
When I left, she was 36, same as my other couple of oldest lays. I felt like I'd wasted some of her most important years to settle down with a guy. It felt really bad, like I'd taken this amazing girl I was crazy about, and totally squandered her time... time is so precious for a woman at that age.
I tried to hook her up with a really cool, attractive, successful older guy I knew, but she passed (I felt responsible for her). I also advised her freeze her eggs, which she at least seriously considered (I don't know if she did). I was really worried I'd screwed over this girl who was so important to me. You know, if she hit menopause, and never got to have a family, because I sucked up too much of her time without giving her that, then man, I'd be lower than dirt.
Eventually she did fully move on... at 39 she married a great, fun, in-shape, wealthy-ish guy... guy seemed perfect for her. Weight off my conscience. I haven't kept track since then, just left her alone to build a new life. I hope she got to have her kids. She'd be in her late 40s now.
Anyway, after her, I made a few resolutions about long-term relationships. One of them was that I was not going to date any women 30 or older, ever again. Girls at that age need to be focused on guys who are on the same commitment track as they are, or who at the least are not going to suck them into falling into love with some guy who won't commit.
That's the consideration for the women's part.
For my part... I haven't ever really been attracted to older women.
I could go into my psychology around that, but I don't think it's that important. Just the basic details of it is if a woman's infertile, or her fertility is declining, and any of the signs that's the case (wrinkles, saggy 30-something butt, older woman voice, etc.), she's not someone I'll be romantically interested in.
However! When I was in my 20s, and learning seduction, in my "maximize notches & experience!" phase, I'd be a lover to what sufficiently-attractive girl I could get on any given night out. So long as she wasn't horrible (
or totally infertile... lol), if she was down, she was fair game
I also did a lot of night game, and used to drink a LOT.
So, like, if she was old (early to mid 30s), but not unattractive, then well all right, we can share a night together. Or if she's mid-20s, and cute, but a little chubby, though not FAT, then all right... let's spend a night together. Or if she's young and skinny but her face is nothing special, then okay, she will do for a night. Etc.
Obviously I had my share of hot girls during that period too. But in general I was a lot less discriminating. It does help you appreciate the hot girls more when they're sandwiched between more ordinary ones though, I will say.
Eventually you reach a point you don't need or want to compromise anymore though. So, you stop compromising on things.
(another thing that helped: doing bars and clubs a lot less. It's a lot easier to be discriminating when you're not hammered drunk, picking up chicks in the dark, under strobe lights, going for a fast lay where no one's ever going to see this girl with you in the daylight. When you do day game, or meet girls up for dates, suddenly there's some extra pressure to be a bit choosier...!)
If a woman has a hot, young body, that turns me on in one way. But at least 50% of what turns me on is her capability to 'let go' to an experience, so that I can play her like a piano with all my fingers. There's a certain openness of spirit that makes me want to fill it with something exciting. I find it's early 20s women who are typically more like this, but if an older woman looks good and has that about her, I'm definitely turned on.
This is a great comment, and also true for me.
That older girlfriend I had was this way. People often thought she was younger than I was, purely by her bouncy, bubbling energy (most people aren't very good at reading ages, I've found). If I look at all the oldest girls I've had, they've all been this lively, vivacious type, who seem much younger than they are.