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In the beginning of this year I visited Cody Lyans for a couple of days. He basically showed me what is/was (still working on that) lacking in my game: warmth/emotional proximity/openness (whatever you want to call it...).
As a DIRECT result of that I was able to deeply connect with a woman that I had a first date with just a day before I flew to Cosy. As I kind of picked up from him I completely opened myself up and connected with her. That was the start of my second relationship in my life. I have fucked a lot of girls before. But this girl is one that I really like for a couple of reasons. She's smart, she's educated, she's creative, she's confident, funny and she's beautiful AND sexy. We shared a wonderful time together and opened up towards each other. Just in the recent weeks I observed myself emotionally closing towards her and stop being authentic. I started interrogating myself why this is the case and I came to the following conclusions.
1) Although I thought we both were super honest to each other, she revealed some different aspects of stories that she already told me. Stuff that I'd call "crippled truth". For instance did she compliment me a lot on the way that I approached her. (It was indeed a pretty good approach lol) and added that "most guys are really creepy because they add too much pressure on the girl. For example one time I got a piece of paper ("Hi " written on it). in the train from a guy, I directly gave it back." Now the part that she didn't mention when she told me the story the first time is that the guy kept being persistent (Hector style I'd imagine haha) and ended up fucking her although he wasn't her type physically for month until she fell in love with him.
(Where I am from, it is a technique called "salami tactic" and utilized by politicians to reveal the truth gradually not to scare off any voter lol. And yes, I knew before girls/women operate like that.)
2) "If you once have a special connection to a guy, it'll stay the same even if you are not together anymore. Love transforms into something different then, but it will forever be something special". Call me narrow-minded, but For me that's Polyamory.
3) Lots of stuff and places we did together, she did already with her previous "lovers".
I admit that I am a little emotionally affected and disappointed. For me something is special because - among other things - it's rare. But if as it turns out not that much is required to get a girl to a date, seduce her, have sex with her and make her fall in love with you AND eventually love you - (because others did as well, even with shittier game/looks/status whatever) what's so fucking special about it?!
And now please attack me for being bitter
As a DIRECT result of that I was able to deeply connect with a woman that I had a first date with just a day before I flew to Cosy. As I kind of picked up from him I completely opened myself up and connected with her. That was the start of my second relationship in my life. I have fucked a lot of girls before. But this girl is one that I really like for a couple of reasons. She's smart, she's educated, she's creative, she's confident, funny and she's beautiful AND sexy. We shared a wonderful time together and opened up towards each other. Just in the recent weeks I observed myself emotionally closing towards her and stop being authentic. I started interrogating myself why this is the case and I came to the following conclusions.
1) Although I thought we both were super honest to each other, she revealed some different aspects of stories that she already told me. Stuff that I'd call "crippled truth". For instance did she compliment me a lot on the way that I approached her. (It was indeed a pretty good approach lol) and added that "most guys are really creepy because they add too much pressure on the girl. For example one time I got a piece of paper ("Hi " written on it). in the train from a guy, I directly gave it back." Now the part that she didn't mention when she told me the story the first time is that the guy kept being persistent (Hector style I'd imagine haha) and ended up fucking her although he wasn't her type physically for month until she fell in love with him.
(Where I am from, it is a technique called "salami tactic" and utilized by politicians to reveal the truth gradually not to scare off any voter lol. And yes, I knew before girls/women operate like that.)
2) "If you once have a special connection to a guy, it'll stay the same even if you are not together anymore. Love transforms into something different then, but it will forever be something special". Call me narrow-minded, but For me that's Polyamory.
3) Lots of stuff and places we did together, she did already with her previous "lovers".
I admit that I am a little emotionally affected and disappointed. For me something is special because - among other things - it's rare. But if as it turns out not that much is required to get a girl to a date, seduce her, have sex with her and make her fall in love with you AND eventually love you - (because others did as well, even with shittier game/looks/status whatever) what's so fucking special about it?!
And now please attack me for being bitter