When approached by a pair of girls?

[NiceGuy110]

One night recently I was approached by these two good looking girls. It wasn't long before I was asked "are you out for a reason?". I felt like saying "hell yeah, I am" but managed to pass it off a bit better than that.

I realised that one of these two, was taking the initiative to ask me the questions on behalf of the other (target), who was out looking to meet a guy. I think I got a few things right during the interaction, but the big mistake I made was that I was directing most of my answers at the the 'representative' rather than the 'target'.

I slagged her off a bit about needing her "bestie" to hold her hand to try meet new guys, and joked about that the 'representative' could be working for a dating agency with the way she was carrying on. I quickly stopped with the jokes in case I over did it. The target had been acting a bit shy, and ultimately I felt that I didn't have the momentum to move things forward. I messed up a bit in the end when I said "well, it was nice to meet you", as if I could afford to walk away. The representative said "we might bump into you before the night's out", and I kissed the target on the cheek before I left - which in itself contradicted my decision to leave them! I didn't see em later.

There's something about these situations that I haven't quite figured out. I think it's a situation where a beginner might think they're actually in with a shot. It is nice to get the female attention though, as it can give you more confidence to approach other girls. But other than that, these scenarios seem just kind of a tease.

 

[ResentMasculinity]

almost never happens

 

[silenceinthesnow]

Hey NiceGuy110,

Ultimately in these situations you are in with a shot, its better than an approach invitation because they've opened the frame and set you as a prize. All you have to decide is are you interested. You said you noticed the social dynamic, so therefore if you were interested in the viable 'target' you move the interaction further. Feel free to keep talking more to the representative at first, but acknowledge the 'target' and welcome/invite her to the set. If she's the one you're interested in you'll have to involve her or you'll find it difficult to escalate things with her if you ignore her and keep her as a spare part. Third wheeling much?

Start to engage, escalate and get her to invest to show interest. This is a perfect opportunity to lead her away, her friend isn't going to be judgmental of her actions because she's out to get her friend set up. You might get resistance from the target if she needs more from you if she wasn't instantly sold on you anyway; although I find in these situations they usually are. The games a little to easy which can make you second guess yourself, but usually stumbles can easily be recovered in these situations. Just don't keep tripping up!

To bring her friend in you can use the deep dive, you can interact with both other them and get them both indulging. This will give you a huge social boost even if you don't capitalize on the situation. Kissing her before you left could have made it an awkward ending if your game wasn't on point. That said there's a few ways to look at it, it shows you're sexual and interested but you just killed the interaction. If you didn't escalate throughout the interaction it also appears random and you look socially clueless as opposed to elegant. You didn't bump into them again to fully analyse what lasting impression was left but if you're a regular at this club the opportunity might present itself again.

SilenceintheSnow

 

[Fuck This]

In this situation it is imperative that the friend "green lights" you escalating with her friend.

I've been cock blocked by friends I didn't know were there, and I thought we were pulling , when they showed up and said "Let's Go".

I've been cock blocked when 3 girls came back to our place and my wing and I had isolated 2 of them and were ready to smash and the third wheel felt abandoned...

I slayed when I knew one of the girls who was out with her friend. I met the hot friend, got the hook, allowed them to retell their stories about their memorable times together, and got the 3rd wheel pretty drunk. Went back to the 3rd wheel's house put her to bed, and then had my way with her friend I'd just met that night.

In your situation, it is important that you have a good hook with the target and the "representative" as you put it. You need the rep, putting in a good word for you, and expressing approval to combat your target's insecurity about her friend's perception. It is a fine balance between charming the friend and flirting. SitS has some good points...

 

[NiceGuy110]

if you're a regular at this club the opportunity might present itself again.

SilenceintheSnow

Thanks for the replies guys,

Although what ye've (ye = y'all) said is good, there is also to possibility that the representative is just choosing to approach me for the sake of getting her friend warmed up to the idea, or maybe even to watch her friend squirm in an awkward situation. After all, there was something sarcastic about the representative. Either way, I assumed attraction in this case.

Funnily, I actually did bump into the target again, and a few interesting things happened which I won't go into for the sake of this thread.