When she says "it's not fair" about something I do?

[GO Chase Me]

So here's something that happened (over a facebook conversation) with a girl.

We've known each other for a while, and I know that she likes me. We occasionally exchange facebook messages (1 or 2 short ones every few days/every week... Well mine are short, she usually writes several lines =P)

So since we both like anime/japanese cartoons, we usually use pictures of characters instead of emoticons... And there's this character that she likes a lot which I usually use in my pics, because I know she likes him. lol But just recently (it was valentine's) she responded to a message that had been sitting there for like a week saying "it breaks her heart" when I use the character. I didn't know what to say, so I just sort of joked saying I couldn't help it with a pic of the character laughing, and she then said that "it wasn't fair". I sort of kept a joking approach and we talked about something else, but later on she said again "it's not fair"... And well, the conversation kept going after that, but that, I think, is for another time as I'm not particularly interested in asking about other things (I read some articles that shed some light on them).

Oh yeah, also at some point I joked that she was "toying with me", which she later turned around and said that I was toying with her for using the character, and jokingly said "shame on you".

So yeah, I don't know how to interpret a line like that. I know if it was a regular conversation I would have frozen on the spot, probably, so I wanted to know how to take it and what a better response would have gone. Also if I should keep using that character in conversation, I think overusing it would make it too familiar so I'll probably dial-down on it, but still I'd like to hear a second opinion, if anyone can help with that. Thanks.

 

[SomaRuiz]

Hm, I'd like to know more about this too.

A girl once told me to stop doing something I was doing, that was kind of making her flustered. I just said "make me" with a confident smile. She said nothing and blushed for a bit, but then got warmer towards me and didn't bring that thing up again.

She didn't say "it's not fair", but I do wonder if it would be the same type of situation, and what else could be done about it.

 

[GO Chase Me]

Oh that "make me" line sounds like it would have been a good one, I even have the perfect expression to go with it over the conversation.
Ah, well, maybe if there's a next time. lol

Still don't know how to interpret or react to a "it's not fair" from girls, though. ^^;

 

[SomaRuiz]

I'd assume that either she had/has some conflicting emotions about you, like you're making her feel things for you that clash with something else. Or she can sort of tell you're gaming her, even if she doesn't know all the details.

I'd advice to not bring it up again if the conversation ended already. And if she brings it up again, try playing it down with a bit of teasing about it. Watch her reaction and react accordingly without ever losing your cool.

Still don't know in a physically present conversation what a proper response would be. Maybe something similar, though you have less time to think through your response, so maybe practice like this first?

 

[ResentMasculinity]

tell her that life, reality was never meant to be fair