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My current relationship has me feeling a little confused. In the beginning I gave my girlfriend lots of freedom (I still do). I didn't call her really at all and I usually waited for her to send me a text message, and she did. She'd ask if I were still awake or send me a message talking about her day or something that bothered her.
We are currently at the 7th month point in our relationship and I feel like I've been compartmentalized.
She no longer sends text messages saying she misses me, she no longer makes plans for our weekends(we usually meet up only on weekends), she doesn't contact me to talk about her problems, her day, or to have a conversation.
Now I understand there's a lot of "me" in this post, but I feel that at the 6/7th month of a relationship two individuals should have a strong desire to communicate regularly with one another. Perhaps even a desire to increase the level of communication.
Even though the level of communication and sharing has decreased the relationship has become increasingly more serious. She wants me to meet her grandmother, her mother, her father, etc. and has said she wants the relationship to last a very long long time.
While she seems invested in the future and says all the right words her lack of investment in our connection when we are apart makes it difficult for me to see how our relationship can continue to grow.
I could create my own schedule to call her on certain days of the week to have a conversation or send her more text messages, but it's really her investment in our connection that I want. Considering we only see each other on the weekends and I don't contact her a lot I feel that she should already be trying to heavily invest in our connection...but it just isn't happening!!
Where have I gone wrong? This has led me to look for signs of her cheating.
clouds
We are currently at the 7th month point in our relationship and I feel like I've been compartmentalized.
She no longer sends text messages saying she misses me, she no longer makes plans for our weekends(we usually meet up only on weekends), she doesn't contact me to talk about her problems, her day, or to have a conversation.
Now I understand there's a lot of "me" in this post, but I feel that at the 6/7th month of a relationship two individuals should have a strong desire to communicate regularly with one another. Perhaps even a desire to increase the level of communication.
Even though the level of communication and sharing has decreased the relationship has become increasingly more serious. She wants me to meet her grandmother, her mother, her father, etc. and has said she wants the relationship to last a very long long time.
While she seems invested in the future and says all the right words her lack of investment in our connection when we are apart makes it difficult for me to see how our relationship can continue to grow.
I could create my own schedule to call her on certain days of the week to have a conversation or send her more text messages, but it's really her investment in our connection that I want. Considering we only see each other on the weekends and I don't contact her a lot I feel that she should already be trying to heavily invest in our connection...but it just isn't happening!!
Where have I gone wrong? This has led me to look for signs of her cheating.
clouds
