Where do all the promising interactions go to die? Are near misses inevitable?

[lux7]

I know it's a veeery general question and every situation is different, yet I'm sure it's a common feeling to take a look at your phone and see of this or that exchange from a very promising interaction, with a very promising text convo... and it just went nowhere for no apparent reason.

No matter if you have several sexual relationship right now, if you think about what you missed rather than what you have, then you still want to bang your head against the wall.
I know it's like that for me at least.

This is usually when I fuck it up by re-texting myself, yet without any prodding they'd die anyway.

I'll give you the two latest examples which might not be the best fit, yet are the closest in time:

1.

Very good interaction, agreed to meet on the weekend after the following in person (maybe too far away?), here's the exchange:
November 5
Pleasure meeting you earlier Erica. This is me, save my number
November 5
Noted down your number, see you soon
November 9
Hi Erica, tried to call you the other day to say hi and see what's up.
When does it work best for you to meet


2.

Another very good interaction with a blonde older mom still very attractive, here it was very obvious it was highly sex charged and she liked me and we agreed in person for following weekend as she got the kid during the week:
October 31
-Pleasure meeting you Natalie
-Me too
October 31 (she double messages me on Wassup spontaneously moving from text to Wassup)
-
-(emoticon with sunglasses)
November 3rd
Hello Natalie
How's your week
-Hey very good thank you. And you?
What are you doing?
-Relaxing a bit. Sunday at 8, works for you?
-I can't say right now, can I tell you on Friday?
-Yes . And try to make it
-
November 7th
-Hello Natalie.
Are you up for today
November 8th
-Hello, I was a bit busy yesterday, how are you?
....

She couldn't make it on the weekend we had flagged as a good day to try, she then replied the texts I sent but didn't act on me pushing for a day/time to meet.


The question which bugs me the most is simple:
Is it inevitable to have a near misses besides your successful interactions or for almost any near miss there's a point you didn't do things correctly?

I think an article on why good interactions with promising texts still die out would be very good, because the hotter the lead is, the more annoying it is to see it go.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Re: Where do all the promising interactions go to die? Are near misses inevitabl

Lux,

Definitely, the answer to your question is 'yes'. Part of it is inevitable and part of it is controllable.

But let's evaluate your texting, and see if there's any actionable advice we can pick out here.

You pull off the winky faces really well; that took me a while to get down. You're also to the point which is a stylistic trait I share.

There's a few changes I'd rework in your texting, and I think it'd have made a difference here:

1. Text her, at most, two days after your icebreaker for her schedule: has to do with emotional cresting and keeping her excited. And if you striked right on attainability levels when you met her in person, better to just ask her out the next day while the attraction is so fresh and she's already reared to go.

2. Ask for her schedule instead (over text): Chase and Franco have already went into the benefits of this extensively, so I won't rehash much - just know though that this will substantially raise the efficacy of your conversion rate. Also, not sure if you're working on your call game or something, but its generally easier to handle the bulk of date logistics over texting and just call her if something isn't being communicated over text correctly (not that I have much experience with calling for date logistics, but texting has always done the job well enough for me without the hassle and pressure of calling).

Anyway, near successes are inevitable, but hopefully those two increase your conversion rate.

~Nick

 

[trashKENNUT]

Re: Where do all the promising interactions go to die? Are near misses inevitabl

At least it is promising,

unlike online dating when women suddenly go crazy.

Zac