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NotJamesBond

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Hey players (literally), this is minor more or less (I'm still having trouble telling because I'm not James Bond...) but here goes: so I met this ravishing latina girl at college in this elevator along with this other girl who is firmly in my friendzone, but she's cool nonetheless. A little bit of a rapport was built up between us 3 on the ride up to class, I'm confident I did a good job with it because the latina girl seemed to have this really girly smile on when she'd laugh. You can just sort of tell if you're pushing her dials, ya know? I continued to charm her later during class as evidenced by her reactions. Finally! I thought. A cutie of this caliber of my very own! I quickly pushed this thought aside and focused on the mission though, don't want to think I've got a victory before I even really get anywhere with her.

So class ends, we're walking out of the building and I'm about to ask her to lunch (class doesn't meet for two more weeks because of Labor Day and it's once a week anyway- figured I'd just try and pull it off because her reactions seemed good enough- which is contrary to my character, I always push it off until the last possible moment and always opt for the safe option...needless to say this usually results in attraction expiring...I'm pushing myself this year) when the third girl (remember- firmly in the friendzone) sort of trotted up. She didn't just barge in, she was getting close and then I was the one who welcomed her by mentioning how we should all (three of us) get lunch. Let me repeat: I put it in a context of all of us and not just the girl I'm actually interested in. I figured this was fine (it certainly completely demolished the anxiety which I was masking), but wondered: Did I set the wrong context for this? Because I wasn't confidently forward with my intent, did I shoot myself in the foot? What's more, if I ask her to lunch just between us or off-campus, will she "see-through" my charade and thus be less attracted? Would she even care? Obviously you can't get it down to a completely concrete science, but I was just wondering these things in a more curious fashion rather than an anxious one. My confidence is pretty much through the roof after tonight, because in the middle of getting their numbers (no reason for confidence boost because of the friend context but the latina girl seemed a little excited about it), this other blonde cutie came up and asked if I was European because of what I was wearing (she was incredibly shy about it and I saw a tension in her eyes- I thought of Chase's article about when a woman puts herself out there like that she REALLY DIGS YOU. I'll take care of her next time though- she gambled some of her social grace like nothing).

I figured because it's so early it doesn't matter and she, if interested at all, would just be excited we at least have numbers exchanged and intend to meet.

It's this nuance stuff that eludes me, thanks in advance seduction nerds.
 

Eternity

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Overthinking this. Seems you have placed the Latina on a pedestal, conjured romantic visions of you and her together. Nah, screw that. For all you know she has slept with 10 guys this month and she just sees you as a "nice charming guy", evoking great feelings in her "whorish/not whorish" soul. I'm not there so I ain't 100% sure without seeing her walk, talk, ect. Smart play is this: Get both out on a separate "date" and see who is more into you and more willing to fuck you. Fuck group dates, in the future don't schedule anyone except you and the girl u want to fuck to whatever you are asking them to go. One flakes you have the other ect... The non neediness vibe of having options will be felt by both chicks. Both flake, time to get new leads and learn from what you fucked up in the seduction. Start light touching when you can, make them use to your touch and you will get faster results or knowledge into whether you are doing things right or need to step back and build more comfort before you try again...
 

NotJamesBond

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I appreciate the reply man. Nah I'm not placing her on a pedestal, she's just real cute and charming. Still a flawed human. You can still be a tame romantic I feel.

It's not so much that I'm trying to date them both- I just want the latina (or rather I want to figure out if the latina is going to pass the next level of screening, she's showing promise). The other girl was there so I just went for the "hey let's try and all get lunch as friends" approach- that's the context. Their schedules seem complicated so I might be able to get the latina alone anyway thanks to that.

Glad to confirm it's overthinking though. How you learn, etc. Haven't swung the bat enough to tell what's an actual good pitch and what just looks like a good pitch so I'm just swinging it every time.
 

Eternity

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Forgive me, I'm a jaded mofo. All I'm saying is not a bad idea to keep your options open, helps to not catch feelings for someone who may not be interested or is a tease/attention whore. Just been in your type of situation before is all...
 

NotJamesBond

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Nah man you're good. Sounds like you're disillusioned by the state of western women? Can't blame you. Try to soften your heart, there are legitimately honorable girls out there man. Just takes some combing through.

That's a good reminder all the same, to keep your options open. Absolutely. Honestly, I was pretty awestruck by her beauty. The fact she seemed to be so charmed only added to it. I know that sounds faggoty lol but I'm sincere. Don't worry though, if anything I have a better chance with that chick who came up to me practically shouting at me with a megaphone. Then there's this other chick I need to reconnect with...Always options, always.
 

Eternity

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Nah, I have nothing against Western women, just seen many women be tempted by their desires many times. Been the "other" guy a couple of times so I just expect most to tempted sooner or later...
 

NotJamesBond

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"Other" guy as in...? Could you elaborate? As in the one who was cheated on?
 

Eternity

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Who they cheated with...
 
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NotJamesBond

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Right...If anything you're doing the guy a favor if she isn't loyal. That's still kinda not cool but...
 

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NotJamesBond said:
Nah man you're good. Sounds like you're disillusioned by the state of western women? Can't blame you. Try to soften your heart, there are legitimately honorable girls out there man. Just takes some combing through.

I am not trying to bust your chops here. Judging a girl by the number of guys she is with or if she is cheating is being hypocritical. The whole premise of this group is to have sex with a lot of attractive women. We even have a monthly contest for this. I just saying we shouldn't judge others for what we ourselves are doing. Basically unless you are wanting to make a her your girlfriend, it shouldn't make a difference what she has done.

BDSC
 

NotJamesBond

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That's fair and all, but I actually don't do that. This site has impeccable dating advice so I take it and apply it to my own lifestyle. No judgment here though, I'm not going to come to your hood and piss on your territory.
 
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