You might be too much of a "nice girl" for me

[NarrowJ]

This has recently became one of my favorite push tactics. Don't use this in response to a girl saying she's a "good girl", though. It has to be impromptu, or she will easily recognize your intent with making such a statement.

This has worked in many different ways for me: initiating sex talk, setting expectations, breaking LMR, and even re-framing after a failed first date or interaction.

Used this last night, and the result was so profound that I just HAD TO share this today. Was talking to a girl (target) and her friend, and the friend says she thought we would make a cute couple. I said "me too, but she might be too much of a "good girl" for me" (making air quotes with my fingers and a sly, sexy smile). She girl gasped and blurted out "I am not!" and for the next half hour proceeded to try to prove me wrong, and ended up fellating me in the beer garden

NJ

 

[Richard]

HAHA YES!

I guess I've always kind of done this without conscious effort, but it's awesome!

This has worked in many different ways for me: initiating sex talk, setting expectations, breaking LMR, and even re-framing after a failed first date or interaction.

^^^ Hell yeah bro!^^^

I kind of dived into this subject a little bit in my most recent blog post on cold reading, it's part of the "ladder," to cold reading, and it works wonders!

 

[Good Vibes]

A nice bit of psychological reactance also known as reverse psychology.

She obviously wanted to express her freedom with you.
When a girls freedom is held back by social pressure (be a good girl) then reactance will lead a girl to resist that pressure (do the dirty deed).

This type of technique works best on younger girls who have built up sexual frustration.

 

[Marty]

she might be too much of a "good girl" for me" (making air quotes with my fingers and a sly, sexy smile). She girl gasped and blurted out "I am not!"

NJ: love this.

even re-framing after a failed first date or interaction.

I wonder whether you can attempt a turnaround this way, e.g. if she starts saying "I'm sure you're a wonderful person, BUT"... you cut her off and say "I'm far from wonderful and you're quite right, I'd be bad for you in all sorts of ways!" with appropriate winking, gestures etc.

When a girl's freedom is held back by social pressure (be a good girl) then reactance will lead a girl to resist that pressure (do the dirty deed).

Good Vibes: you mean that by actually verbalizing it, NJ has drawn her attention to the fact that it is an externally-imposed constraint and egged her on to resist?

 

[trashKENNUT]

J,

This has worked in many different ways for me: initiating sex talk, setting expectations, breaking LMR, and even re-framing after a failed first date or interaction.

I always used it when i was younger, There is an element of chasing here, but this also indicates early if she wants to pursue further things with you, i believe.

Zac

 

[Franco]

NJ,

Good stuff. You can also use a similar technique to open her up to more kinky "bad girl" sex as well.

Usually around the 2nd or 3rd time having sex with a girl, if she seems to still be a bit shy about "getting kinky," I'll whisper in her ear while fucking her deep: "you're a dirty little girl, aren't you?" You'll usually get some kind of token "good girl" response like, "noooo...!" or "no, I'm a good girl....!" while she's breathing hard from your cock ramming deep inside her. Then I usually just whisper into her ear, "it's okay. I like dirty girls..." (and this should be said in a very calm, but firm, unquivering, and dominating tone) and then I proceed to thrust even harder. You might even see a little smile show up on her face when she realizes that she can be really kinky with you in the sack and that you actually enjoy it. Because deep down, you know she enjoys it too.

- Franco

 

[NarrowJ]

Marty,

I wonder whether you can attempt a turnaround this way, e.g. if she starts saying "I'm sure you're a wonderful person, BUT"... you cut her off and say "I'm far from wonderful and you're quite right, I'd be bad for you in all sorts of ways!" with appropriate winking, gestures etc.

That is definitely a good push tactic! It's all that its supposed to be. Playful, believable, sets a frame. I like it.

Also, when I said "failed first date or interaction" I didn't necessarily mean one that totally bombed, but rather one that I maybe tried to escalate to sex and could not due to resistance. You're letting her know how you want your girl to act, and that she's not doing it "right" and you're pushing her away.

Finally, totally agree with GV. This typically works the best on younger, more naive women.'


NJ

 

[NarrowJ]

Franco,

NJ,

Good stuff. You can also use a similar technique to open her up to more kinky "bad girl" sex as well.

Usually around the 2nd or 3rd time having sex with a girl, if she seems to still be a bit shy about "getting kinky," I'll whisper in her ear while fucking her deep: "you're a dirty little girl, aren't you?" You'll usually get some kind of token "good girl" response like, "noooo...!" or "no, I'm a good girl....!" while she's breathing hard from your cock ramming deep inside her. Then I usually just whisper into her ear, "it's okay. I like dirty girls..." (and this should be said in a very calm, but firm, unquivering, and dominating tone) and then I proceed to thrust even harder. You might even see a little smile show up on her face when she realizes that she can be really kinky with you in the sack and that you actually enjoy it. Because deep down, you know she enjoys it too.

- Franco

Love this! I'm going to use it tonight

NJ