- Dec 13, 2021
Update for the passionate veterans who want to see how a playboy handles a tough situation:
I disappointed you guys. But we might not be over. Tough situation to be in as my man @TomInHo and my guy @Karea Ricardus D. Mentioned.
i met her friend and did not play to the best of my abilities. I implied (after her friend asked several times ) that I might get bored in time if the 40 year old girl banged other guys and simply leave.
this was a huge mistake and thought I was over with her but then I made her come all night long and saw her the night after to discuss.
She had texted me that she felt she could not met my expectations and that she wanted to be free, that she did not care about men and she wanted freedom.
But I had played my cards well overall during the dinner so think I am still in the game.
Keep in mind in my whole life I always had girls beg me for relationships, and had never stumble onto such an extreme case of chick. I have fucked more women than most guys will ever dream of and am VERY good with words. I have many alternatives in my life and am considered very good looking.
it’s just a tough situation to be in.
So I saw her yesterday and listened to her talking for 30 minutes applying the olive branch tactic.
Then I told her ‘ you are free to leave anytime with me and I want no gf - my goal s to keep it casual even though you and I care about each other.
Did this to lower her guard.
Ended up walking her home, and she said ‘ you mean a lot to me’.
Bullshit aside, I plan on not contacting her anymore and then if she contacts me stick to the 1:3 rule where I ask her out once every 3 times she asks me.
If she ever contacts me again, I will NEVER ever joke on her banging other guys or anything similar. I will never imply she is not 100% free
Maybe, this will work to have her ask me for fidelity in a Few months. Of course i am focused on other girls now but maybe she will come back to me texting me and want more from my time.
If she had a secure attachment style she would already be mine but since she is very avoidant and got out of a 15 years old marriage my question to the veterans is always the same.
If I do my thing and keep banging here while putting no pressure on her, will she ever come
To me and ask me for sexual exclusivity - even though she is avoidant ?
Is this doable ? I think she is as attached as she is to me but she does need to feel like she has complete freedom. As if she always had an exit door.
My doubt is , is our let her come to you
strategy going to work as well as if she had a secure attachment style to get her to chase you to become your girlfriend ? Can this strategy work with an attachment avoidant ?
I am already focused on other chicks and plan on taking the risk of leaving her space to suck other dicks, but wondering wether this has a high chance of working.
Honestly, move on. This girl is not for you