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Ah, "trust the science!" I'm struggling a bit with that concept since about March 15th, 2020.I'm pretty confident attachment styles are legitimate. The science on it is good

Interesting... I'll put that in my databanks for future observation and analysis.The way I have experienced attachment styles intersecting with being in the one-down position in a relationship is that the attachment style basically serves to modulate the effect:
- Avoidants get very uncomfortable as the one-down and slip into this schizophrenic state of alternately chasing then withdrawing (because they hate that feeling of being chasey / needy)
- Secure individuals will chase some but tend to have healthier means to try to move it closer to a more balanced relationship dynamic
- Disorganized types respond to being the one down by throwing a bunch of fits and tantrums, then if you start to withdraw they either give ultimatums or have a breakdown
Anxious I don't have much experience with so can't speak to that one.