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Sometimes you won't text a girl for a long time, either because you were genuinely busy and just forgot, or because you weren't getting anywhere with her and you figured you'd let her cool her heels for a few weeks or a month or two and get back to her later.
What's the best way to resume things with a girl like this?
Well, if you think about it from her perspective, she's on the other side of a cellphone signal... unless you see her everyday, she doesn't know why you haven't been texting. It could be because you got discouraged; or, it could be because you've been on travel, or changed your number, or you got a girlfriend. She has no idea.
So when you resume, give her an explanation she can get behind that also makes her wonder a bit about what you've been up to, and portrays you as an in-demand guy. Text her some variation of this:
Important: even if you've never gone on a date with her and only ever met her for 2 minutes, write it this way. Why? Because people respond to how you write as if your relationship is already that way (within reason). So if you act like the two of you are old friends when you talk to her, she'll start to feel like you are... and then she'll start acting like it, too.
Using this technique, you can effectively "reboot" an interaction you had with a girl over text, and get things live and running again, even if they didn't work out the first time around.
Chase
What's the best way to resume things with a girl like this?
Well, if you think about it from her perspective, she's on the other side of a cellphone signal... unless you see her everyday, she doesn't know why you haven't been texting. It could be because you got discouraged; or, it could be because you've been on travel, or changed your number, or you got a girlfriend. She has no idea.
So when you resume, give her an explanation she can get behind that also makes her wonder a bit about what you've been up to, and portrays you as an in-demand guy. Text her some variation of this:
"Hey Gina! Sorry I've been radio silent these past 6 weeks; I wasn't ignoring you, I just got so slammed with my projects that everything outside of work got pigeonholed until life returned to sanity again. Anyway, things've cleared up a bit; how've you been? Let me know your schedule over the next wee or two and let's plan to meet up and catch up on things."
Important: even if you've never gone on a date with her and only ever met her for 2 minutes, write it this way. Why? Because people respond to how you write as if your relationship is already that way (within reason). So if you act like the two of you are old friends when you talk to her, she'll start to feel like you are... and then she'll start acting like it, too.
Using this technique, you can effectively "reboot" an interaction you had with a girl over text, and get things live and running again, even if they didn't work out the first time around.
Chase