Cold Approach places for quantity

[HoofHearted]

Hi,

Where and when have you found best to cold approach for quantity of young women NOT with male counterpart?

City center on the weekend seems like my most successful outing so far. But it's such slim pickings usually???

Where do you get such great exposure in terms of quantity? Would especially like real world examples <3

Where are women, do they actually exist

Thank you, god bless

 

[Beck Bass]

Would like to know as well, wanna dip my toes into daygaming but I have been trouble finding quality girls during the day doing my daily stuff. Grocers here are extremely time dependent and have big lines on/right after rush hour (where the cuties appear). There's some higher end ones but those I mostly avoid because I'm not gonna pay double for the same thing just to check some girls lol.
The park near my appartment also attracts a bunch of kids and underage girls during weekends, not to mention how packed and hectic it is.
There's some talent on the streets during rush hour but I don't feel like street stopping right now (specially near my appartment), I also don't have a good reason to be going out and indirect approaching some stationary sets (maybe I need to work on some excuses).

 

[Regal Tiger]

It depends on the city you're in. There's a few different plazas around the area I live in, for example. One of them is pretty much only underage teenagers whereas the other one is all adults. Both are equally populous and looking at Google Maps they both look like they'd be great. Lots of walking shops around, popular and etc.

But sadly the demographics are widely different


Then there are parks, but those are kind of hit or miss as well in my experience. Sometimes lots of people but they're not in the right headspace half the time.


I do plan on trying the metro area (busses where I'm at) next week, so we'll see about that. But yeah, basically just look for Google Map areas where that encourage people to walk around

Finally, there's the mall on weekends. But it's kind of hit or miss there on age as well. Plus, you have to be at least a little discreet since you're inside somewhere (same with plazas, even though you're technically outside).


On another note; look for places that:
1) seem safe, like they have some (not a lot, but some) security walking around
2) seem 'upscale' (expensive for no fucking reason because for the life of me I can't figure out why women want to shop at the expensive places)

On the upscale part, basically whole foods where I live is like 1.5x the price of Walmart. But guess where all the women want to go? Whole foods. Where I lived a few years ago there was Walmart and a HyVee. HyVee was more expensive and guess where everybody wanted to go... absolutely boggles the mind

 

[HoofHearted]

Maybe it's just best to embrace the fragmented nature of this?

If my goal is to talk to 10 new girls/day, if I approach 2 in the grocery story I'm technically 20% of the way there. 2 is crummy, but adds

I guess in my mind I had the presupposition that there would be 10 fine fine ladies in one place, so excited to meet me.

Maybe to get the volume I need, I need multiple crummy places throughout the day?

 

[Rakehell]

I’ve run into the same issue recently. Issue of location and personal standards.

I live right near a mall and counterintuitively its dead on fridays/saturdays, but more active on tuesday/thursday/sunday. Could literally see more girls at the grocery store on those days.

Only piece of advice I could really give since i’ve probably never lived where you are, is go to “hot spots” on different days of the week and see what changes.

 

[HoofHearted]

Ok,

I wanted to share a couple of things. I'm still learning to use the forum, bear with me.

I failed to appreciate that this seems to be a two factor process, which seems to be a) finding women and b) approaching them.

I was getting kinda frustrated because I kept asking about a), but wasn't really getting solid answers in the way I wanted. Come to find out, it seems solid answers don't exist, because the reality of it isn't certain or solid...'

I can't believe I consciously needed to have this stupid fucking thought: there is no magical valley of beautiful, available women.

So apart from being a percentage shot in approaching them, what I have finally concluded is that it's a percentage shot in even finding women to approach, so fuck me. I am almost always talking about during the day, going out at night sucks a little bit, I need to sleep, probably nothing effects your quality of live acrossed every domain more than sleep.

Found a cool response by searching forum that I liked: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/best-places-to-daygame.23282/page-2#post-121582

This guy uses Google Maps to find statistically busy areas, and during what times. Anecdotally, I have found the precision of it to be low-- I've walked by a place that was flagged as 'Busier than Usual' and in reality it was empty, I just think Google was picking up nearby sidewalk traffic.

But the point remains, to shape problem a) more consciously, since I've almost been entirely focused on b). I'm not yet sure how to do this, except to apply some principles.

This all strikes me as a gigantic dance with chance/probability. But I wanted to give you all a tip, something you can control. It has worked really, really well for me.

When you make time to consciously go out to meet girls (and you must), be in that high probability area doing something that you actually need to do. Example, I drive in to city center for the gym, don't have to, just do. The wombo combo baby, this strikes me as also a great area for quantity/chance of meeting women.

I go to bookstores because I'm a bookslut. I go to coffeeshops because i'm lounge-y af and have crippling caffeine dependency.

As opposed to driving somewhere JUST to meet chicks, or doing something stupid as fuck like joining an adult kickball league. While I was trying to find chicks last night, I saw grown men, manly men, square jawed and far more of a physical specimen than I could ever be... playing coed kickball in a park, matching shirts, etc. They don't make it through wave 1 of my eugenics program, the species is devolving. Then again, I golf, so I guess i don't make it through wave 1 either...

I digress. I hope you enjoyed that tip. I'll keep hacking it and see what i learn. My goal is to never in my life have to do anything stupid like go to a networking meetup, or fucking trivia night, here's a fun fact, trivia night makes me want to drink pipe cleaner.

EDIT: I forgot to mention what I want to *avoid*. My last several attempts have been like wandering around for hours not finding any reasonable women to talk to. It really hurts, because I feel I could do so much more with that time. I'm hoping by attending to [a) finding more women] more skillfully, this lost time can be mitigated. It's a bummer not only because you're not finding chicks, but because the time is so valuable elsewhere

 

[Beck Bass]

Found a cool response by searching forum that I liked: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/best-places-to-daygame.23282/page-2#post-121582

This guy uses Google Maps to find statistically busy areas, and during what times. Anecdotally, I have found the precision of it to be low-- I've walked by a place that was flagged as 'Busier than Usual' and in reality it was empty, I just think Google was picking up nearby sidewalk traffic.

Interesting, gonna be checking that out. I deff used it to check how busy places I usually go to are during the week and it tends to be accurate, but of course the busy areas stuff is a bit different

 

[Train]

I've used Google to go to venues at peak times and I'd just note that even though traffic is peak, it's not necessarily the volume one would like.

Example, certain malls on weekends can just have tons of family instead of girls.

 

[HoofHearted]

I tried the grocery store today and it was not good. I also am not into that trendy, organic shopping and I left with $70 worth of subpar groceries.

City centre was not up to par, and neither was the bookstore.

Google Maps showed me 'busy' areas and for sure there were people there. But I guess I am looking for a subset of a subset-- women who are available and seeking men. And they just weren't out.

I talked to other women today, in fact I've noticed I've become more social in general. But I am just not seeing the numbers here. I am spending hours and not finding much return...

Maybe Sunday is not a great day for it? It's become dire, guys. Any advice on where to go to meet women during the day would be great.

I'm not keen to give up, but I am disheartened.

 

[Skjöldr]

Go and see for yourself. The malls and the city centre are good places.

 

[Skjöldr]

But I guess I am looking for a subset of a subset-- women who are available and seeking men. And they just weren't out.

How do you know if they are available and seeking a man unless you approach?

Maybe Sunday is not a great day for it?

Sundays can be extremely good, because the vibe of the city is much more relaxed and the girls walking around are less stressful and tend to be less in a rush. Downside is that Sundays can have less girls. It all depends on your city. In my experience, Sundays had less girls, but of the girls that were out, some of them would be very receptive.

 

[Skjöldr]

Example, certain malls on weekends can just have tons of family instead of girls.

I noticed this on Sundays. On the trail along the river where I would daygame while working out I noticed that it was almost entirely families and couples.

 

[Train]

How do you know if they are available and seeking a man unless you approach?


Sundays can be extremely good, because the vibe of the city is much more relaxed and the girls walking around are less stressful and tend to be less in a rush. Downside is that Sundays can have less girls. It all depends on your city. In my experience, Sundays had less girls, but of the girls that were out, some of them would be very receptive.

On that note, I remember gaming Sunday afternoon once at the local college campus. It had pretty good volume/traffic and the vibe was relaxed. I imagine because there's no classes they're rushing off too.

 

[HoofHearted]

How do you know if they are available and seeking a man unless you approach?


Sundays can be extremely good, because the vibe of the city is much more relaxed and the girls walking around are less stressful and tend to be less in a rush. Downside is that Sundays can have less girls. It all depends on your city. In my experience, Sundays had less girls, but of the girls that were out, some of them would be very receptive.

Thanks for responding.

What I am saying is, I am seeing very few young women in the first place. Yesterday, when I went out, of all the young women I saw, most of them were with men. That seems to speak for itself.

I have wide range of what I find attractive for looks, and I am fine with approaching women in groups. I just haven't been seeing a lot of this.

In the last few days I've been out Weds (wrote about in jrnl, visiting a city), Sat (positive experience, day and night activities but NO NEW LEADS), and Sun (was kind of a waste of time).

The only place I saw a substantial amount of women was Saturday night (where I could've taken some numbers if I could've thought quicker on my feet).

But we don't wanna do night! We wanna do day.

Problem: My adventures throughout the day keep turning up bunk. I am checking places, they are not even a fraction of what I find at night by volume, in fact most are zero.

I'm gonna try a different spot. Maybe closer to a college.

 

[weekendwarrior]

@HoofHearted some places just don't have the quantity to make a real good go at day game. I live in a small town and even the male to female ratio in clubs for night game is 70/30 on a good night.

I honestly went to a bar with some friends before going to the club and it was so grim, I counted 50 people out, 5 were chicks. Overlook the ones sitting with their boyfriends and the grand total was 1 chick. This was a bar on a university campus!

I can't offer any advice on where to find these chicks, locations vary and unfortunately it means you've got to look in your local area to find the hot spots. Parks, water fronts and shopping centres are usually good places to start. Good luck!

Warrior

 

[HoofHearted]

Thanks for your response @weekendwarrior

I kinda don't know what to think. I guess my mental model of it was just find the crowd and shoot the numbers.

But even finding the crowd is proving to be somewhat 'rare event' status. In these situations in other areas I just try to control what I can, and be ready.

Exploration continues. I'm sure if I keep whackin' my head against this, I'll figure something out.

 

[HoofHearted]

Update:

I actually accidentally found a spot while I was doing another activity.

This spot was tucked away beneath a very upscale shopping plaza, and although I've been around for years I didnt know it existed.

The midweek rate of beautiful women was crazy. Total accident, but I found a little fishing hole. Errr, beaver trap?

 

[HoofHearted]

Update: my little spot was empty today! What gives?

A lesson in timeliness, and chance i guess. Good thing this isn't like fishing for sustenance because goddamn

 

[ulrich]

Posh malls in weekdays (weekends are not as good)
Coffee shops in mornings and noons
Dance classes
Tennis classes
Some metro stations at rush hour
University campuses

Where would you go if you were a hot girl?

 

[HoofHearted]

To my house, of course.

Kidding aside, thanks for your suggestions.