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[AspiringStoic]

I don’t know much about Tyler or RSD. For all I know, he is a fraud. Or just a guy who got laid through a sheer amount of approaches.

If you dont know about things, then dont speak about those things. I was replying to a different poster.


Secondly, I dont understand what your point is. So some people cannot move. So what???

If you want to become an Olympic swimmer and you say I dont have access to a swimming pool, then any rational person would say you need to find a way to get to a pool.

If you say I have a small 10m pond in my background and I cannot go anywhere else. Then all we can say is sure do what you can in that but dont expect to become an Olympic swimmer and dont compare yourself to people who are training in bigger and better pools.

 

[HeartOfChaos]

If you dont know about things, then dont speak about those things. I was replying to a different poster.


Secondly, I dont understand what your point is. So some people cannot move. So what???

If you want to become an Olympic swimmer and you say I dont have access to a swimming pool, then any rational person would say you need to find a way to get to a pool.

If you say I have a small 10m pond in my background and I cannot go anywhere else. Then all we can say is sure do what you can in that but dont expect to become an Olympic swimmer and dont compare yourself to people who are training in bigger and better pools.

My original point was that using Tyler as an example probably isn't optimal for OP.

Going back to the overall theme of the thread, OP is fixated on approaching hot 20 year old university girls. A 36 year old guy doing cold approaches with possibly visible signs of autism and no experience with women is going to be a tough sell to these kind of girls. He even said somewhere himself that in the event of getting a girl out on a date, he wouldn't know how to behave or escalate.

Hence my advice that he should approach all kinds of women of all ages just to get some proper experience.

To the OP: I know that you are obsessed with 20 year olds, but they aren't gonna disappear any time soon. In the meantime, you should be talking and interacting with all sorts of women, on dating apps, cold approach, or anything else. You said yourself: you just want to get laid. Why does it matter so much if it's gonna be a 20 year old or a 35 year old? Nobody is preventing you from approaching both kinds of women....

 

[HeartOfChaos]

hurry and get laid with a girl.

I am trying to make the most of my Smv (male Smv peak is mid 30s) so I want to land a young hotty whilst I still can, even if I just get laid the once.

Chill a bit. "hurry and get laid with a girl" sounds desperate and girls will smell it. You can approach both younger and older women, one does not exclude the other.

Edit: if you are so desperate, why not just get an escort for a real girlfriend experience? This will give you some experience in actual fucking at least that you are lacking, and may help you let off some steam...

 

[AspiringStoic]

But then perhaps that's why the coaches go to those places, because the people they coach are so helpless that they feel that this is the place they do the least amount of damage in teaching them this art?

Yes that is exactly why!!

Its about finding a place where fuckups have the least consequences. And also about having so many opportinities that if you fuck one up, you can find 5 other opportunities in a matter of minutes.

If you flirt with the cashier at your neighborhood groccery store, the receptionist or girls at your gym or god forbid your co-workers and fuck it up, they have consequences!

Do that with some random girls on the high street or at a packed club, and it really does not have any consequences. You can go your separate ways and never have to bump into each other.

@Ratata
I have seen your advice of being social and flirting with everyone and making it natural and second nature and I think its great advice. But it is great advice to a guy who already has some basics in place. From your own posts I see that you dont come from the clueless hardcase newbie background.

But for a second think about this.

There are guys who grew up extremely socially isolated, sometimes they are super nerdy or they came from very religious families, they had just 2-3 other super nerdy friends throughout school.

If we take people coming from eastern cultures, there are guys who went to "only boys" schools. Like schools where literally there were no girls. They had zero interactions with girls in their formative years. Guys who grew up with super strict and religious parents, guys who grew up in prudish cultures.

Guys who never kissed a girl, never went on a date or never even held a girl's hand for the first 25 or even 30 years of their lives.

These guys are indeed "helpless" in this area of life. And often times they are the guys who turn up for coaching. So these guys need a different approach to level up.

They cant just flirt with everyone around them in their day to day lives because they will end up alienating everyone. And for them approaching in a packed club or on the hight street is the safest place to fail and fail again and improve slowly.